Had an affair, husband knows.?

Question

I had an affair about 1 year ago, it was brief and really exciting. I don't regret it but I love my husband dearly. I found out through his best friend that he has known along but never said anything. Our sex life since the affair has become fantastic! What's happening here???

Answer 1

Sex is always better when you can have your cake and eat it too. But, your husband is a forgiving person. You should recognize that because he leally loves you. He took a very negative thing and made it work!

Answer 2

I had an affair last week and its killing me. I immediately realized I screwed up. How can you not regret it? I regret mine already.
Maybe it turned him on? Perhaps he is the type of guy that wants an open relationship. Perhaps he did the same thing to you to get you back and feels a power in knowing about yours and you not knowing about his.
Some people just choose to ignore things because of the pain involved in acknowledging them.
Good luck on figuring this one out. He may not have believed the person that told him about the affair.
Just never do it again.

Answer 3

He forgave you and thinks the reason for the affair was the sex. It sounds like your husband isn't confrontational and wants to avoid a huge argument as well as accepting of your infidelity and is willing to forgive you even though you don't deserve it. Adultery is a deal breaker and goes against your vows. Count yourself lucky and quit dreaming about your illicit affair. It was depraved and wrong NOT exciting.

Answer 4

well ask him! Tell you look I know that you know I had an affair! Now our sex life is better then ever before. See what he says? He might have admit having an affair himself and that you evened the score. He might say that he was not giving you enough attention in the bedroom and your having an affair was his wake-up call. You might find out that he didn't know at all. However we are not in your husbands head to know the facts. You need to ask him then let us know.

Answer 5

Questions like this burn me up. You had an affair, you obviously loved it, and you don't regret it? And you say you love your husband?
Maybe you actually do love him, but you have ZERO respect for him. And he likely has ZERO respect for himself too. If he really knew and didn't say anything he just dealt with you cheating on him rather than deal with a divorce. He is weak and you stomp all over him. There are men and women all over who just simply accept their cheating spouse as a cost of having someone they love (or think they love, or depend on) and they feel they can't do any better.
Again - you don't regret it. That just makes me sick.
SHAME
ON
YOU

Answer 6

I would be very careful with this situation. Just as you become so comfortable, your relationship may end. You have put him in the position that he may leave you one day. It is not a good thing that he knows and is not venting with communication or anger or anything. He is holding it all inside, this is never a good thing. And you should leave him if you are not happy, cheating is never a way to spice up your love life. And it is so unfair to the spouse who is being cheated on. Careful, what goes around comes around. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 7

Had an affair

Answer 8

Your husband enjoys the idea of other men f**king his wife and that is why the sex with him has become better. What you need to do is to go out on one night stands with stangers and leave hints that other men are f**king you for your husband and the sex will keep getting better, Later talk to your husband about putting on a show for him with another man. That probably is what he wants most.

Answer 9

I think he's in denial. Enjoy it while it lasts because one day he's gonna throw it up in your face.

But on the other hand, why are you talking to his best friend and not your husband about your sex life?

Be careful.

Answer 10

What about honoring your vows? You're asking for a heap of hurt. This is childish, irresponsible behavior and sounds like you're lucky to still have a marriage.