2006-12-05 00:35:03 · 30 answers · asked by guardianangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People say that I should just leave but its not that easy when we both have a baby.
2006-12-05 01:21:39 · update #1
Do you want your child to grow up and think its ok for a man to abuse a women. because if you stay that's what you are telling them. Talk to him and tell him how you feel if he won't change leave him it will only hurt for a while but you will definitely be better off. Alot of women stay for there kids but your only hurting them more trust me I was that child.
2006-12-05 01:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is you are allowing him to be your world. He should be part but not the whole. If he is being mean you have to ask yourself, why do I not love myself enough to walk away from verbal abuse. Or perhaps the two of you has gotten into the negative trap where all you can both say to each other are sarcastic come backs. Is he being unreasonable, is he being cruel, or is he hurt? Did he come from a verbally abusive family? When did the abuse start? Is he that important? Can you live without him. Can you financially afford to live alone? I say if he is hurting you, i would rather comb through the trash can then live out my life with an abuser. So do yourself a favor and really look at yourself and your life. Good luck.
2006-12-05 00:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not how marriage is supposed to be, every couple face some problems especially the first couple of years, I don't know how long you've been married, but this thing should not go on for a long time
Do you love your husband?? try to talk to him, don't cry, just talk, go out for a long drive and say all what's on your mind, tell him how you feel, give yourself an ultimatum, if you felt that there is no way to solve this then you can think about separation, but till then, try your best for the ship to keep sailing, if you felt that this person is worth it.
Good luck
2006-12-05 01:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt put up with it, tell him he has to stop or your leaving, simple as that, girl you can find better treatment i know cuz i have been there i put up with that for 7 yrs, and i now have a wonderful man who i dont think will make me cry and i thought i would never have that, but i was wrong so you can too! God bless you!
2006-12-05 00:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Melindakaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can make you cry if you don't give him the power to do so. Take control. Figure out what the pattern is that leads to you crying, and then, next time you see that pattern beginning to develop, interrupt it by doing something completely differently than you normally would.
2006-12-05 01:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok answer me this one question - Why stay if you’re not happy, why not leave for you?
If your not happy, talk to him about it if he doesn't take you seriously then it's time to leave if he doesn't have the capacity to consider your feelings then he is a real *** and it shows he doesn’t care and he only thinks about him self, I’m really sorry you have been hurt by this idiot but you need to start thinking about YOU!
Yip YOU need to be happy too, so don’t put up with it YOU don’t deserve it!
2006-12-05 00:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions you need to ask yourself. Why are you putting up with it. What are you gaining, besides the loss of self esteem, self respect and being miserable. How much more do you wish to deal with. Life is to short, if he is making you unhappy, leave, one can do bad all by themselves, and be miserable all alone. One does not find happiness in another human being. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-05 00:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NONE OF IT!
"No man or woman is worth your tears, and the ONE who is WON"T make you cry."
Your in an emotionally abusive relationship. Get out while you still can. Cut off all ties and find a new life. This guy is not worth it. Sorry, thats the truth.
2006-12-05 01:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by julev69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello friend, its not important that u have to live with ur husband facing all the problems, u too hav the right to live happily, sum fights between husband and wife r common but if it persists there is no meaning atall so better leave him if u think u r capable of forgetting him easily and have courage to face the society and live indepedetly
2006-12-05 00:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by sweetu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many answers/ all the same. Figure out what it is that "you allow yourself to be upset about".It is not "him" that makes you cry. It is "you" that make you cry. Why is that? That is the (real) question. You must have expectations about him and he isn't meeting those expectations. You are dissapointed in what he does or deosn't do. Accept it or get out of it.......YOUR CHOICE.
2006-12-05 01:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋