Well this might sound weird but I had a baby 8 mths ago and my vagina is still really sore when I have sex along the scar where I tore. I have always heard that woman will get a bit looser after they have a baby, but that's not the case here. My husband can't even fit his penis all the way in. I have always been really "tight" but this has gotten uncomfortably bad. We try every position, lubricants, plenty of foreplay, still too tight. To make matters worse, he has a big penis. What am I gonna do? How can my vagina have gotten smaller? I told my husband that maybe they sewed too much up! Should I just live with the pain and try and stretch it out? Did or does anyone else have this problem? I have been to an OB/GYN and my family doctor checked, but they said everything was fine (mind you that was at my 6 wk postpartum checkup). Would there be any point bringing this up? Thanks
2006-12-05 00:22:54 · 6 answers · asked by Sexy_Bunny 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
This would be good to talk to your Dr. about. I have 4 kids and I am pregnant with my fifth. I have been where you are at. The reason for you being sore is because of your episiotomy scar. It will be sensitive for about a year . That is how long mine was anyway. You will appear to be slightly tighter to where insertion hurts and it your not lubricated enough the penetration will hurt and cause you to dry up and make it very uncomfortable. I am sure that your scar hurts when you touch it or if you scratch it . It is still sensitive and the skin down there is very thin so when it is sewn back from the episiotomy it becomes thicker and will hurt. All I did was wait a bit and in time it got better and once the pain goes away you won't be so dry and it won't hurt and you will be able to enjoy sex with your husband because with being naturally lubricated it won't be so tight and hurt and you can also enjoy sex again. Good luck to you on your baby.
2006-12-05 00:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by ws_422 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello I myself had a cancer surgery and I have the same situation. Its a battle to return to what you had before.
I even tried the Dr. own lubricant to no help.
Its the muscles he claims and he said they'd always be this way.
It is a muscle so i must be totally relaxed for whats to come about.
Its takes a while and a lot of time to get so relaxed that this can take place.
Relax when you have these times with hubby. Don't think about
the pain just relax.
If problems still go to OBGYN That's who told me relax.
Works a lot better now.
Good Luck
Quelynn
2006-12-05 02:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by Quelynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes bring it up to the doctor. He can maybe make a few suggestions on the problem. If you are too tight and sex is uncomfortable you may be tensing up and the muscles of the vagina are tensing too. You need to relax for sex and avoid tensing. Going really slow will help. Maybe try a little drink or weed to relax you further.
2006-12-05 00:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
lol I wish I had that problem............seriously when I had my third child I think they felt sorry for me and give me an extra stitch. the skin is very resilient though and with some effort should stretch and I would assume the doctor would tell you the same thing. your scar could be very puckered too causing some discomfort but I would mention it to your OB/GYN
2006-12-05 00:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Enigma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of this. They probably did sew it up too much. Use lots of lubrication when having intercourse. Good luck!
2006-12-05 00:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by Not so looney afterall 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you see a doctor
2006-12-05 00:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋