I really need advice,as I just don't know what to think anymore! He was the love of my life,yet he's been so cruel in breaking my heart. What upsets me so much is that I was in love with him for over 10 years, but he was married at the time, so we couldn't be togethor, but he kept tellin me that one day we would b togethor. when he broke up with his wife we briefly got togethor but he was movin to the other side of the world to be near his kids,i had only just started my degree so i couldn't move with him.I tried to forget about him and move on with my life, bu he got back in contact with me and started to tell me that i was the only woman he wanted to be with.we continued our long distance 'relationship' for a year, we both said we didn't want to see other ppl.i fly out to his town v soon + we'l com face 2 face.i was so happy to finally b with him yet last month he dumped me by SMS sayin he met some1 else, he has refused to speak to me since, i feel 'Deleted'. wot do i say to him???
2006-12-05 00:13:46 · 12 answers · asked by holographicbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why say anything at all? He is showing you precisely just how little he thinks of you and about you. Time for you to cut the cord and find someone worthy. To text a break-up is the most cowardly thing to do, even in our technological world we live in now.
2006-12-05 00:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for a start you were silly if you think he was going to leave his wife for you, all married men give the same line to their mistress your not the first to fall for it and won't be the last im really sorry he hurt YOU but i know what your feeling, what you think is love is just really him getting what he wants from you SEX yip thats all he really wanted even when all those nights he said he loved you and told you how when he left his wife the two of you would be together, i say he has found someone else or his wife has started to pay attention to him again, i know it's hard to hear but that's how the cookie crumbles, Keep your head up high it will take time to get over it.... Just look at the way he broke up with you, do you really think that if he felt the same way about you as you did him, he would have been so cruel in breaking up with you, Keep away from him and if you do see him just act like he doesn't excist cause he will only do the same with you, and no matter what you do or say to him he won't change his mind he is a dog and will keep on doing the same thing to every other girl he fancys!
Good luck i know it sux but you really need to move on he is no good for you and im sure you are a really nice person! (you will find someone who will treat you right and you will look back and say WHO?) :-)
2006-12-05 08:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, that was really CRUEL of him to dump you that way. Sometimes the chase is better than the catch and what I mean by that is your wanting of eachother for so many years because of the unknown between you that it brought higher expectations that what really existed between the two of you for him. Like when you're on a diet and you see this scrumptious dessert in the store and when you finally are off your diet and buy it and eat it, it just isn't as good as you thought it would be when you first saw it--- your desire made it better than it really was---
Don't say anything to him, just move on, he did, and why upset yourself more- 10 yrs is long enough to waste - look for someone single--
2006-12-05 08:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry your so upset but move on dont forget about the relationship, but learn from it and dont let someone treat you like this in the future.look at it objectively look at what you have written and think of it as someone else what advice would you give them.its hard i know i was in the same situation and was devastated for a long while but then i met my husband who treats me i now realise how i deserve to be treated . i still think back to the man i though i loved and it seems a distant memory
this will be the same for you if this man truely loved you he would not have treated you in this way and have been so flippent with your emotions theres a fine line between love and lust.good luck as for seeing him i would just not go there and avoid him at all costs and move on with your life to someone that deserves you and hes out there good luck
2006-12-05 08:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't want to be the one to point out the obvious, but he was willing to give up a 10 year marriage in order to seek and pursue his own happiness with you.....so it's no surprise he has now done the same with someone else. He has no loyalty and his selfish actions will have ruined his life and others around him including yours, he's clearly not worth your tears.
Don't say anything to him, the best thing you can do to deplete his over sized ego is to get on with your life as if you've never met him.
Basically darl, "delete" him.
2006-12-05 08:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by jessieket04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move hun. Seriously, don't invest another second in thinking about this loser. He exists in your mind because you have never really had a chance to get to know him, so right now he is Mr perfect. But if he was as perfect as you think he is, then he wouldn't behave like this. Pick yourself up and re-focus your energy into thinking about productive things instead of this destructive man who clearly is a coward and can't be honest about his feelings.
2006-12-05 08:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for what you have been through, he has moved to be near his children? so his "ex" took them away, and now he has moved to be near them? are you sure that he is not back with his wife, and she said to him "no contact " with people from your past, or you won't see your children again.
please don't rush to see him, and why do you want to see him face to face again anyway!
time is a great healer, but concentrate on your degree, and things should get better.
2006-12-05 08:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything. He's bad news. You ignore him.
(I'd be tempted suggest the insertion of a redhot poker where the sun don't shine -- but you'd get into trouble for that.)
The best thing for you to do is be happy and get on with your life.
2006-12-06 11:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by replybysteve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. Just ignore, spend that time you would spend with him with your friends, pamper yourself and get back to caring about yourself and not just him. You need to be happy, doll yourself up a little and he will see what hes been missing. That bastard.
2006-12-06 07:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by xElectricxShockx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why say anything to him ,if you do meet him just put your head up and look straight ahead, if he dares to speak to you totally blank him. this bloke is a sleazebag, he was promising you things while he was married to his first wife, did you ever think he could be faithful to you ?
good luck.
2006-12-05 09:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by P J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋