what do parents do? very frustrated. we know what is the cause but that doesn't mean drinking is a way out. they say idle time is the devils workshop.
2006-12-04 23:46:49 · 12 answers · asked by kris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
call intervention
2006-12-04 23:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The main problem overwhelming him is the alcohol. That's the situation. So intervention and rehab fast. No more idle time there. After rehab half way house minimum six months. Again no more idle time. From then on AA everyday for life. Meet people who will occupy his time with something else other than drinking. Do it soon or watch him die. And in the meantime he takes you all down with him. So get the other family or friends together and demand that he get treatment.
2006-12-05 00:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll need professional help, but only if he wants to stop. You could also do an intervention with those that love him and take him to detox. He has chosen alcohol as his way of dealing, and now it has chosen him, you and your husband can also join alinon to help you cope with your son. Your son will probably end up loosing everything and hitting rock bottom before he admits he has a problem. Sorry for your troubles.
2006-12-04 23:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is a grown-up, then there's little to do with him or for him. Only he can decide to stop drinking, all you can do is be there for him when he needs a shoulder to lean on. This is hard to do as parents, but if you try to interfer in his life, you could push him away and his drinking could get even more out of hand.
Sometimes, it's best for parents to just stay out of it, even when hard.
2006-12-05 00:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not a part of the solution, your part of the problem. Stop harping about his drinking, he'll only drink more. Work WITH him for the best solution to his problems, only THEN the drinking will go.
2006-12-04 23:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You yourself go to Al-Anon meetings where you will find other people who have dealt with the same thing and read the book Codependent No More by: Melodie Beattie
2006-12-05 02:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother is older then me and he has a family and a very supporting and loveing wife, but he has sufferd with with a drinking problem we dont know why but one night he told my sister in law that he needed to go somewhere and dry up he has been very successfull sense. u could always try intervetion otherwise wait till he thinks he needs the help so he doesnt hate u for forceing help upon him.
2006-12-04 23:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Renee B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure you havent done anything to contribute to it,most parents hurt there childern in the name of love,yet they never want to see the world in the childerns view!...being frustrated wont help,but finding the route cause,why isnt he able to trust your help?
2006-12-05 00:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking is your son's problem. "Your problem is it's (your) son. Leave his problems to himself. Solve your own by staying out of other peoples' problems. You cannot give someone something they don't want........And you can't give something you "don't have".
2006-12-05 01:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him help. Send him to a clinic or AA meetings
2006-12-04 23:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my dad drank for years..since he came back from Vietnam. he drank himself to death. died last year of liver failure. his mother, my grandma tried for years to help him. he went to AA meetings for 10 years, he was sober, captain of his meetings too. one day he relapsed and there was no help after that!! i hope you find find your sons savior, pray everyday for him, unfortunately there is not much more you can do for him but be there for him ... i will pray for him ..... good luck and may god bless you!!!
2006-12-05 00:46:55 · answer #11 · answered by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋