my husband is a digital crack addict. on the weekends he will spend sometimes 12hrs a day on the computer and when he gets home from work he gets on the computer as soon as he gets home and stays on most of the time until we go to bed. he always tells me that he told me when we got to together that he likes to play games on the computer. i know that he only games with his friends and he dosen't go to porn sites,but he dosen't do anything else. if i go in there to talk to him while he is playin he just ignores me and if he dies in the game then he yells at me. i feel likr he dosen't love me as much anymore and it hurts my feelings that he dosen't spend time with me.
2006-12-04 23:22:27 · 8 answers · asked by jennafurluv27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LOL....well....a line has to be drawn here I think. Although it may eat at you that he's on the computer you have to look at it this way. he isn't looking at porn and hes home and not out drinking with his pals. I'm damn near the same way but know what? When the wife calls on me and wanders in the den..there is that "pause" button. Tell him to use it now and again. He knows that the game will pick right up where he left off.
He still loves you...of this I have no doubt. Hes just into the eye candy of the game and wrapped up in it. So don't feel put out. At least you know where he is every night right?
2006-12-05 00:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a serious relationship issue. You are with a guy who is not holding up his end of the relationship and that is not good for you. Why would you stay with a guy that does not communicate and ignores you? You are on the verge of being miserable, if you're not already. The right thing to do is make him choose the computer or you....if he chooses the computer then you know you were never with a guy who truly loved you.
2006-12-05 07:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really Love this guy, get him Help - he is in desperate need of "de-programming"... it is NOT healthy, what he is doing. He needs to see a "shrink", quickly and put this "addiction" in check. If you see a great difference in him now that your living together, if you are contributing to the living arrangements equally, and want to spend the "rest of your life" like this, STAY - but my advise is "get ready to move on", I see no hope for such a Selfish Guy! and you shouldn't either! Good Luck, and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-05 07:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be confused! The answer is right in your question..he's an addict. How does he expect any relationship to last when there is no give and take? If I were you, I would move elsewhere for a while and tell him he needs to get help with his problem or you will not be back. Love be damned, this is no life for you!
2006-12-05 07:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well....I would suggest that you get a life for yourself...doesn't sound like much of a marriage. Is this really how you want to spend your life? If you are never together, why are you together? If I were you, I would suggest some counseling for the two of you or move on with your "life".....good luck
2006-12-05 07:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish him good luck with his games as you walk out forever. Dump him and find a man that will appreciate you.
2006-12-05 07:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel, tell him he doesn't have to give up all his time on his computer you would just like if he makes more time for you.
2006-12-05 07:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no confusion there...
this is what I did... works out well...
go get a baseball bat...
smash the computer......
or do as my g/f did...
toss the computer out......
take the money.......
don't allow crack...... cuz if you do your crazy....
listen baby...
get out while you can....
2006-12-05 08:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋