so right before thanksgiving i found out i am pregnant. i am a senior in college, 22 years old. i feel as though the decision to keep the baby or not is intense, and though i am not looking for an answer, i am in search of advice (IF YOU HAVE PERSONAL EXPERIENCE- i do not need opinions, but thanks anyway) if i do terminate, i am unsure about psychological effects, but on the other hand, i need to consider the wellness of the potential child. The problem comes with the fact that i keep thinking to myself, i can do anything if i want to and i should not feel like i have to choose between a career and having a child...but i sway back to, will it be best for the child if i have it? adoption is not an option, my parents are aware and supportive either way, the "father" is amazing and we dated for almost 3 years and also we remain friends, however i am trying not to factor him in. womenly advice would be awesome....
2006-12-04 23:07:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
oh and also, by now i am 8 weeks pregnant...
2006-12-04 23:07:34 · update #1
I was a senior in highschool when my child was born. My family was supportive and my guy (now husband) never even mentioned abortion. I can tell you from experience that if you have supportive parents and a good relationship with the guy, then the baby will have a good life. Don't worry so much about having to put the baby in daycare while you work. Women do it everyday and the kids are ok. Just do your homework on the daycare facility, take care of yourself, and keep a healthy relationship with the father. You'll be more tired and might become more forgetful, so you might have to study more. But your schooling shouldn't suffer and neither should your life. It can be done.
2006-12-04 23:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You should factor the father into this decision. Half of that baby is his own flesh and blood and he should have a say. I don't understand why adoption is not an option. There are so many wondersul loving people out there who are wanting so much to have a baby and can't. You are the lucky one that can give them such a wonderful gift if you can't handle it yourself. Please don't terminate, so many people have regretted it. Give the baby a chance in life and look towards adoption. You can do an open adoption where you can get updates on the babys life.
2006-12-05 08:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about this child? If you already love this child then of course you will suffer feelings of grief and guilt if you terminate. I'm sure you know that there are some women who have been successful in both their careers and in bringing up children. There are others whose children suffered because of their careers. Then there are those who sacrificed their careers for the sake of their children. If you already love this child and have emotional support from your parents I would encourage you not to terminate. I have no personal experience with making a decision like this since both my pregnancies were planned however, I have never met a woman who was sorry she had her child. I have met women who were sorry they did not.
I know all of the arguments for abortion rights and I am sure you have heard all of the arguments against it. Pointless to rehash them here but I must say that I believe abortion to be the termination of a grand and glorious miracle that we as humans do not get to experience every day. It is the termination of life.
2006-12-05 07:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THis is a decision for you and the babies father. He is supportive so how can you not factor him into it?
2006-12-05 08:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE DON'T , ABORTION IS HORRIBLE , SOUNDS LIKE YOU NEED SOME GROWING UP? WHY , DON'T YOU USE BIRTH CONTROL?? HUH?? TOO LAZY ??
2006-12-05 07:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋