2006-12-04 22:58:19 · 19 answers · asked by Push It 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yes it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. I loved my deceased boyfriend dearly and lost him ultimately to fungal pneumonia at the end stage of his Hodgkin's disease. I would not choose to have never loved him. He has helped me grow so much as a person, and the love he has shown me I will always remember. Without having loved him and had his love in return, I would not be the person I am today.
2006-12-04 23:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly torn on this answer and have thought about it a lot myself.
If you have never loved and lost then you can't really know what you are missing. Coming from that perspective alone, if I didn't know what I was missing, I'd say this is the best place to be....
However, once you have loved and lost, you know both the pain and the pleasure of the two... if the pleasure outweighed the pain and you learned something about yourself from it, then I say it's better to have loved and lost.
But if the pain outweighs the pleasure and the only thing you learned was the pain - then perhaps it would have been better to have never loved at all.
2006-12-04 23:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by michymlj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First define love and if you are really after that...
Love = selflessly acting with body, mind and words to please your object of love favorably.
Lust = selfishly acting to please yourself.
Now we should be loving everyone in our lives beginning with God and on down to the ants.
Without loving God (the root), you can't even love yourself, what to speak others, or even ants (which together makes the wood of the tree of life).
If you are only after loving the wood of this tree we call life, and neglect the root (God), then all your so-called love will remain "so-called". It won't be properly directed or free from lust.
Once you love God, then automatically universal love for all God's creations will manifest without separate endeavor. That is the intelligent approach to loving any or all.
Okay, I'll get to the point. Should you try out having a relationship and go all the way and have sex?
The answer is...not untill you have your relationship with God in order. Develop love for God first, and then you will bring something so valuable to the temporal relationship that your partner will always value and respect you lifelong and never want to leave you.
Love of God in our hearts acts as a powerful attracting force long after the miniskirts have gone and the deep furrows in the dry parched fields of our faces arrive...
Invest in yourself, build up some spiritual asset and then go into a relationship. Everyone is fixated on economic development, but where is the spiritual development?
With spiritual development you will never suffer defeat and will be fearless and satisfied within any conceivable material situation that life can throw at you. Unprepared spiritually, you are guaranteed of defeat at some point, be it disease, old age or death, lust, anger, greed, pride, illusion or envy. Even hunger and thirst.
Go for the eternal things that have real value.
Otherwise, you will realize in the end that you have wasted your life and precious time.
Love means sharing information and resources.
Get love of God and share it with your partner and the world.
Water the root.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-04 23:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by TransformYour.World 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i believe it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all because atleast you have experienced the joys & pains of loving a human being which is very unique in each individual you love;surely the pain of losing is truly sometimes if not always unbearable but it goes with the whole process of loving a person.this way you get to appreciate even the most painful love lost you'll experience
2006-12-05 01:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by rinoa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. One of the reasons is that such is life dictated by fate so that we learn to be broken-hearted (sweet or bitter sorrow, it's one's choice). However, as for a second thought on "never to have loved at all", we need to be careful to apply advice especially for ladies. I think if we've not fallen in love with anyone years ago since you dedicate yourself to your advanced studies/research/profession, no time for love, it's all right and I've met & known many great ladies who enjoy working and being single.
2006-12-04 23:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Arigato ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very much true. But try not to lose the love. Getting love from somebody is a blessing . So safeguard it. Let it not be only an experience.
2006-12-04 23:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kumari V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have loved and lost would be painful, but t least you exxperienced love.
2006-12-04 23:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a game. It leads down many alleys. It is a good thing you can make your own choices. The choices chosen are not always the greatest. So you live and you learn. It is just part of life. Take it as you see it, but move on.
2006-12-04 23:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by HeyNowBrownCow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To love and have lost!!! We all need to experience love.
2006-12-04 23:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Love is the only important factor
2006-12-05 00:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋