How do you deal with nights alone?

Question

All my life i have had someone living with me, family friends etc. And never spent a night alone in a house. Then when i moved out of home and had to spend my first tiem alone cos my house mate was away i was stalked and he was never caught. Since then i have had 2 kids and up until 2 yrs ago i still got a friend to stay when hubby was away. Now if hes away its just me and the kids. I sleep restlessly, making sure everything is deadlocked. My mobile is next to my bed and so is my cordless. I aslo dont do too sleep until late. And keep waking up to everynoise. I hate to feel like this. Does anyone else feel this way.

Thank you for your answers. They have helped, its nice to see some understanding people. And wierd to see soem who are jsut screwed up. To answer an insult i dont watch the news unliek those who have time in their lives to be dicks towards other i have a life and a family to lookafter. I came here after support not insults. Karma is a ***** remember that. Thank you again for the support. I have got a tv in my room, and iv thought of getting a pet. Im also looking into securty screeens on windows too, for my kids safety and anti theft as well. A drink or sleeping pill would be great, but unfortunatly im too worried i wont wake up if the kids need me. I know thigns will get better eventually. Its just nice to know that im not the only one. Thank you again.

Answer 1

I'm not scared like you do but i hte sleeping alone i feel lonely and bored. You need a sense of security. You need a secure alarm fitted, preferably one with a button next to your bed. I would also suggest you use a night light, one on a low dimmer switch o its not pitch black. I would get telly in your bedroom if you dont already have one, and it may sounds strange but an electric blanket may help and it makes you feel warmer and somehow safer. Keeo some good magazine or books by your bed, and get blinds and well as curtains. Get double padlocking on the doors or something.
hope this helps.

Answer 2

I read both of your questions, so I am answering both of them here. It is normal to be afraid of being alone at night if you haven't had the experience before. It will just take some time. The more nights you spend there, the more comfortable you will feel. For security and to ease your mind, make sure the locks all work. Keep your curtains closed an your windows locked at night. If you get scared, you can call someone like your mom. If you know some big strong friend, arrange to be able to call them too. If you have a pet, like a dog, that helps too. The main thing is, you will get over this fear the longer you are there. You will find that there is nothing to fear, and things will go smoothly. See this experience as a step in developing independence, and be proud that you are doing it. It will help you gain self-confidence and self-esteem. You can do this!

Answer 3

Hello , you have someone here who's feeling exactly the same,as my honey is overseas. Thought I am being strange till i bump into your message and realise that i am not alone. Since we are going through the same thing together, i also benefitted from the answers. I guess it's a matter of getting used to it cos it's like someone important is not with us and suddenly we are left with the responsibility of having to take care of everything at home and worry that should anything happen , we have no help but to handle it alone. I guess it's all in the mind, after all we might be worrying for nothing. Just remember to say prayer daily and God will always be with you and with HIM around , we know that everything is in good hands . Take heart that you have someone over in this part of the world going through the same thing as you.I believe I can overcome this period of being alone, so can you . CHEERS !!!!

Answer 4

I have felt this way before, and if it helps any, you will get used to it eventually and things will calm down and sleep will return. I am recently out of a long term relationship, so sleeping alone was hard for me... it's lonely in the house at times when I'm used to having someone around. For me, I write a lot... writing helps me get my feelings out and keeps me busy. Honestly though, give it some time and you will adjust to it... you might even find that sometimes you like being alone too.

Answer 5

Try a sleeping pill or have a drink before bed and read a nice book.

When I am home alone I always watch a good movie and have a nice alcoholic beverage and go to bed. Maybe try a puzzle.

Answer 6

Many people are scared to live alone. At nights leave dim light on in your bedroom and in the loo. Keep a torch close by. You will get used to it and will not feel as scared. You have kids with you. You are not alone.

Answer 7

Hi Rebbecca
There ain't no need to get scared of any thing in this world as there is nothing more power full then God almighty and he created Humans as his own mirror image Thus we are the strongest amongst all his creations in this world and nothing can harm us
When you feel lonely just say a little prayer and that sure will help you
GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 8

Don't worry, its natural. Everybody is scared at night if you are alone. You are scared because you believe something would happen, try not to and relax.

Answer 9

u used only sleeping with others, so, since u starts a new life, try to adapt it that s all. for the first time it s strange and after it becomes easy. i myself sleep all the time alone and i feel normal, once i put my head on the pillow, i go into deep sleep till morning .

Answer 10

You need professional help. You feel constantly paranoid and your symptoms sound like that of victims with post-traumatic stress. If this is long-term and affecting with your day-to-day life, I would suggest counseling or psychiatric therapy or maybe hyptocism.