out with their friends? and is it a problem?
2006-12-04 22:23:41 · 17 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As often as he wants to, as long as we spend some quality time together during the week I dont mind how often he goes out.
It's not a problem for me, I value my independence so I would never stop my partner doing his own thing.
2006-12-04 22:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kerri 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am married, but I lived with my husband for more than a year before we were married, and I lived with him before we got engaged!
It depends upon what you mean by 'out with friends.' If it's out drinking, we tend to go out together, or if it is a girls' night out, I'll go out with my female friends (some of whom are married/dating) and then the guys will show up a few hours later (also a great way to have fun and know that my husband will be there to drive me home!)
If you mean just going and hanging out... like going over a female friend's and having a drink or watching a movie or scrapbooking, I usually do/have done that kind of thing 1-4 times per week. Sometimes my husband will go out for just one drink with the guys or he will go play video games or paint miniatures with his friends 1-4 times per week.
Usually it depends upon how much money we have to do those things and what our work schedules are. If we do not spend a lot of time together because of work, we make an actual date to just sit at home and watch a movie or something. If I feel like I'm not seeing him enough or vice versa, one of us says something, and the other is sensitive to it. Another thing that helps is that we keep in touch when one of us is out... we don't have long convos on the phone, but I'll get a call like "hey, I'm stopping over Josh's to play Need for Speed, I'll call you when I leave" and that seems to work well for us.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 22:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to live wiv my partner and i went out once in the week alone, once in the week wiv him an his mates and at weekends i'd go out wiv him on our own 1 night and out wiv my mates the other...but we'd sometimes meet up at the end of the night! ....Can't say this was the routine for every week but pretty much how things went, and NO! it wasn't a problem... you need friend time aswell as alone time!
2006-12-04 22:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. Quite often we go out together, as our close friends live some way away quite often we'll go away for the whole weekend. Sometimes he goes away for the weekend by himself if his band need to rehearse.
I think it's only a problem if he's not making the effort to spend quality time with you too.
2006-12-04 23:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask if you "live" with your partner. Does it not matter how many times they go out or stay in then if you are "married" ? My husband goes out whenever he wants, which is very rare, as he would rather spend time with me. That's what I tell him to do anyway ! (No only joking)............Maybe because we have the trust in each other to go and come as we BOTH please, is the reason why we are still married (happily) after many many years.
2006-12-04 22:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe once a week. No its not a problem everybody needs Alone time i know i do i mean i love him but u need space in order to coexist. if it was like 3-4 times a week then there would b a problem
2006-12-04 22:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got with my partner when i was 17. I must admit when he use to go out with his friends i use to argue with him about it and get upset with him.
Years later we are now married and i have to say that i don't mind him going out as and when he pleases as long as he dont take the pi*s.
2006-12-05 00:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by SP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he used to go out once a week after his rugby game, but since I fell pregnant he comes straight home after the game. I didn't ask him to or expect him too, he just feels he should be home at the moment to take care of me he is so sweet!! sometimes I have to persuade him to go out for a bit with his mates to kick back he just wants to make sure I am ok. I am so lucky. My ex was out more then in and yes it was a prob because we never saw each other but he didn't care so I dumped him problem sorted!!
2006-12-04 22:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a question. It is mutual love that makes us being partners.
For him to go out, that is HIS RIGHTS. For me to ask who he goes out with, that doesn't upset him. But why ask when he is already MY PARTNER? Why create frustrations when the trust leads to LOVE?
2006-12-04 23:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live with my boyfriend with have a 19month old baby boy. he gos out 2 nights a week but not on weekends that's for us as a family.
2006-12-06 06:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by lydia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋