i am 17 and am having a bit of trouble deciding if i want the baby or not Wat advise would u give me!?

Question

just give me a little info to help me please thanks

Answer 1

Bit late now love. You should have thought about that before you got pregnant. Still it may not be the worst thing to happen to you although you are a bit young. Being a parent is like nothing else in this world. It can be wonderful. Talk to your mum and hopefully gain her support, help and advise.

Answer 2

I'm sure you're really freaked out right now hun but I promise you it will pass. You are basically an adult right now... you may even be one officially by the time you have the baby. Ultimately it is up to you if you want to keep it or not but I have to tell you that it would be something you would have to live with for the rest of your life if you were to abort it. Maybe in a few years you'd be ready to have children... you would always think of the one that you got rid of... the guilt would surely be unbareable. I don't want to guilt you into anything but if you're worried about what kind of future the baby would have consider adoption.

If you're still in High School I imagine you're worried about what people will think but stay strong girl. When I was a Sophmore in High School the most popular, most beautiful Senior girl got pregnant and still went to classes all the way up to graduation and had her baby in June. I look back on her and consider her to be an extremely strong and brave person. You can do this... the hardest part is the pregnancy and the first year, and I imagine the teenage years but I haven't gotten that far yet... that's two years of a very long life of this child. That first month you're taking care of your baby you will absolutely fall head over heels for your little one... it's so indescribable what you feel for your children - it's absolutely amazing and completely worth the challenges you'll surely face. I wish you all the best dear. Hang in there and stay strong.

Answer 3

I have a 2year old and am 27 weeks pregnant. The advise I would give to you is it has to be your decision. I hope you have told your parents and they are supportive, if you haven't told them, tell them. Bring a baby into the world is a big decision. A baby is a human being that will need you to make there choices for them and to protect them from harm for then next 16years+. It is lovely to get positive attention from people when you have a new baby but remember a baby is a 24 7 job and you can't change your mind once the baby is here. You are 17 and if you choose not to have the baby, don't be hard on yourself, you have to be mature to make a decision that's right for you. At 17 there is plenty of time to meet a man that you do want to have a life with and have children with, this won't be your only chance to have children. No one can make a choice for you, you have to life with your choices. Hope this helps and good luck xx

Answer 4

Do what you know to be the right thing whether it be keeping it, giving it up for adoption or having an abortion. I chose abortion. While some women and men are ignorant and try to scare you away from abortion, if that's the choice you are going to make, you should know it's not as frightening as you're told to believe it is! I don't spend my life wondering about a baby I never wanted. I don't worry if I did the right thing or not I know I did. I'm not trying to encourage to have an abortion. I just think you should know that pro-life groups are out there to hurt you. Do not go to a emergancy pregnancy crisis counselling centre or anything like that. Your safest resource right now is your own doctor or a Planned Parenthood clinic. Don't let anyone pressure you into a choice. You know what the right choice is. Listen to yourself or pray if you're the religious sort.

Trust your decision and when you know the right decision, do it and don't ever look back. Don't second doubt yourself. Unwanted pregnancy (not unplanned) can be a horrible situation to be in, but once you've made your choice what ever that choice is, if it's the right one, you'll feel so much better!

Answer 5

hello girl,

what a mess. Do you love the father? Does he know it? Does he wants a child? What about your mother - family? Will they help you?

If you are not sure, you have an answer. A baby is taking all your time, energy, future. It gives you a future too, but are you ready to live on a second plan? Don't you have dreams for yourself alone, before you settle down? Do't you feel like doing some more crazy teenagers stuff before become a responsible parent? Don't throw away these years of giggling and enjoying.

If you feel mature, financially strong (do not underestimate that), suported by the father or your family, go for it. Any doubts, don't bring a child on earth because you have been unprecausios. Get a pil, and continue your youth alone.

Big hug, hope you find a solution that brings you peace. Choose for yourself!!!

Answer 6

You haven't really said much about the situation you are in...... are you actually pregnant if so then it is a decision only you can make as you know how you truly feel 17 is very young but I know people that have done it successfully I had my son at 24 and no amount of maturity can prepare you for this life changing experience I was working and in a relationship but we split up shortly after the birth I have raised him alone it is very very hard but on the other hand it is immensely rewarding my son is 8 now and we have an unbreakable bond let your heart guide you that is the advise I would offer good luck........

Answer 7

At 17 you want a baby ?. Think about your financial situation is it secure enough to support a baby at this moment in time .There's cots, prams, clothes, bottles, food ,nappies, either breast feeding equipment or formula milk. And these are NOT cheap and need to be bought regulary. If you wanted any life thats cost of baby sitters. If you want to work its child minders. And at 17 you are limited on the amount of income you can receive compared to 18 or 21 .

However, on the other hand theres nothing like a babys love and people have coped in your situation before and i have seen them do it well. You need to figure out what support you have from the outside the father parents etc. Think about your future what you want to do your mental state are you ready to look after a child if the answer is no then its better to consider other options because the child will be effected by your sadness by your stress etc.

Answer 8

I think this is a question only YOU can decide. This is a big decision and no one on here knows you, or your circumstances. You need to get the facts from your healthcare provider or your local Planned Parenthood.

I am the mother of two beautiful boys, 10 and 2. I got pregnant with my oldest when I was not older than you are. I was 18, dropped out of college, had just moved in with his father only a few months prior, and was on the Pill when I found out I was pregnant with my son. We struggled - a lot!! Heck, even 10 yrs later, the father and I are not together, we are both remarried, and I have another son, and we STILL struggle.

I am Pro-Choice and NOT afraid who knows it. I've also been down that road of having to make the decision to abort a pregnancy and its tough. There are days I do regret it very much. But it was MY decision to make, something that my partner and I had to decide and it was probably about the hardest decison I've ever had to make. But, we made the decison based on our situation, and also after having all of the facts. We weighed the pro's and con's...and you have to do what you think is best. There will be some regret no matter what you decide.

All your going to get on Yahoo answers are "keep it' or "don't keep it" from a lot opinionated people who don't know you, or care about you, or have no idea what the hell they are talking about because they've never been through it. These people aren't going to care if you have to drop out of school to support this child. These people aren't going to donate money to you and your child to help you support it if you keep it. You need to discuss this with those close to you and make the decision based on what YOU want...not what a bunch of ignorant strangers tell you...myself included...

Answer 9

Have you spoken to your Doctor...go and have a chat with them or a nice Nurse at your practice, they will be able to go through all options with you.

The only thing I would say is don't fret about the where do I live? how will I pay for things? what about my education? etc cos these things don't really come into the final decision, yes it helps but if you decide to go for it then all this will fall into place. If you feel you really can't have this baby then look at these options. Do you have support ie the father or your family? Just remember that it is YOU who has to live with whatever decision you make so once you've made your decision stick to it and follow it through, if you decide now is not the time then get the support thats on offer afterwards. If you decide you can't go through life thinking "what if" then go for it and start getting used to pending motherhood and enjoy. It's your decision.

Hope I didn't confuse matters. Go with your heart though cos that will keep the rest of you in check. Whatever you decide good luck with it all. Talk to somebody.

Answer 10

HI sweetie! Don't let anyone on here make you feel bad! I got pregnant at seventeen with my firstborn Michael and had his brother at 20. I missed alot of things... Left their deadbeat dad and struggled. I've had a few ups and downs but I have never thought for a single second to trade it for another life. Children are a blessing and most often times are the reason many people wake in the morning. They give life more purpose then any degree or career. Just remember whatever you choose, Don't become a wart on society and drain from the economy, work hard and do it on your own, you'll feel better for it anyway. Also... Be a good mom! First and foremost! Be there for your baby and raise him/her with morals. Follow your heart! Who you need to be asking is yourself! If you choose to abort ... make it your only time! Everyone makes a mistake but don't keep using abortion as a birth control method. Use your head before it's a problem. I hope this helps hun... Trust yourself and good luck!

Answer 11

I have been in a very similar situation myself and it is a very hard place to be in. I was 21 when I fell pregnant in an excellent well paid job, still living with my parents and studying A Levels in the evenings. Your friend really needs to consider what is right for her, I personally went through all the abortion procedures and then changed my mind the day before it was due to go ahead. I just couldn't go through with it. I now have a 2 year old son - I will not lie it is hard work but now I have made the decision I couldn't imagine life without him. However I have had the support of my parents etc which makes a huge difference compared to doing it alone. Please tell your friend to think about herself and not let anyones elses prejudices about young mothers, abortions etc to influence her decision.