All my life I have never known my father. I have maybe 2 pictures of whom my mom tells me is my father. He is six feet tall, dark skinned, and looks sorta like Omar Epps. I was born in Detroit but moved to Wisconsin when I was 6 or 7. In Detroit the only white person that lived in our neighborhood was my mother. I on the other hand, was very well accepted by all my peers as "one of them", despite my light skin and fair hair with a dirty-blonde tint. My hair is very curly but only curls when it is longer than 5 inches. I have always associated better with my black friends than I have with the very few white friends I have, but recently I have been very skeptical of my assumed heritage. Are there any other mixed kids with semi straight, fine hair? If so I have not met any. Am I really black?
2006-12-04 22:03:27 · 10 answers · asked by Crayola 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
when a kid is mixed, their hair can be so many different textures...so its possible that you are half black. my cousins, as a matter of fact, have that type of hair and they're mixed
2006-12-04 22:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by blackqueen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have a lot that is on your mind. I am also mixed. My father is black and my mother is white/Italian. First everyone is different. Second, you do not need to choose who you are (one race or another) as some less informed people may try to make you believe. I am very bright, and my brother is darker than me. While my hair is a mixture, in order to achieve a straight style without it kinking up in moister, I must put a perm on my hair. My brother's hair on the other hand is the opposite. His hair has a softer curl, where mine is tighter, and his hair is silkier.
Hair, however, does not define who you are. You define who you are. While my parents divorced when I was young, I still have close contact with both of them. As a result, I was able to connect with both sides of my family. While most of my friends are black, and I have always dated black men, I am not opposed to dating or having friends that are white. For me, it just happened because of where I went to school. I went to an all black middle and high school. When I was in elementary, I had friends from many races because it was less segregated so to speak, and in my first middle school most of my friends were Hispanic, because that was the majority.
Anyway, the color of your skin or the texture of your hair no more defines your blackness as saying because I’m tall I can play ball. What I recommend, which is what I did and still do, is introspect. Discover and determine who you are. Who you are as an individual, how you want to grow, and who you want to be. Unfortunately, in America we put too much emphasis on race and less on the individual person. I myself, on applications check black, other or biracial depending on my mood. I claim both sides of my family because without both of them I would not be here. You do not have to choose, so do not let society make you choose. Remember choosing and relating are two different things. I do not choose between my heritages, but do I relate more with the black community. (I also relate very well with Italian food!!)
You sound like you are still young, and it is normal and natural to have such feelings, just try your best to determine who you are, not what society wants you to be.
I have not read the book, but I assume it will be good, by Barack Obama Dreams From My Father, he is, if you have not heard, a biracial male, who is deemed the next president. While I do not get into politics, his story may be good for you, because he had issues identity as well.
Just remember, be nobody but yourself, and you will be fine.
2006-12-04 23:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by I Said, I Said 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt make any difference, u hearabout the white couple that had a black baby, it happened and the dna test proved the dad was the dad. so heritage means squat, im dark brown with black hair my little brother is light brown with blonde hair and we have the same parents. its all nurture.
2006-12-04 22:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actor Wentworth Miller is also part black but has light skin and straight to wavy hair.
2006-12-04 22:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by island.in.the.sun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well your mom showed you a picture of your dad looken like Omar Epps so why are you asking this question
2014-06-14 12:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by HeinikenMoore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter? You've got a mom that loves you and friends that care about you...that's more than some people have.
2006-12-04 23:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm mixed It's been Hard for me!!! I sure it's going to have some problems for You!!!
Wahoo!!!
2006-12-04 22:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the sorriest for you! You need to decide who you are and in a hurry!
2006-12-04 22:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One sure fire way to find out.
Can you shoot hoops
2006-12-04 22:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah u are..
2006-12-04 22:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋