3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back.We are happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not.I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work, she says for about 3 weeks she had regular sex .The past few days I have been trying to hold in my jealousy.I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend?I have been asking her details of what happened and we have talked, and i feel i need to know altho its hard. i let her know it is ok to talk about enjoying the sex. am i ok?
2006-12-04 21:09:29 · 3 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you never realise what you had till its gone. you made a decision to have a break for a while without setting any boundries which didnt help. for a woman to sleep with another man so soon after a break up is normally carried out through rebound and feeling lost and heart broken so you have to understand where she is coming from. you can not ask her about it until she is comfitable with speaking about it. really just be happy that you are back with each other and look to the future and not the past because all it will bring is anger in your situation.
2006-12-04 21:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by bluetinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did NOTHING wrong. You left the relationship at your own free will. She tried to persuade you to stay. You insisted. Whatever she did while you 'took your time apart' is irrelevant. Just like whatever you did is irrelevant.
DON'T ask for the details!!! Do you really want to know that? Accept your decision and move on. Jealousy and rage will ,without doubt, ruin a relationship!!!
She shouldn't have to explain the details nor should you ask.
Just focus on making things work. Details, jealousy, & rage will not.
You did your thing...she did hers.
2006-12-05 07:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray.
LIFE IT'S WONDERFUL if you live it the right way!
2006-12-05 05:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋