My parents want me to marry an Asian girl, but I'm an Asian-American guy who was born and raised in the US.
Anyway, I've mostly been involved in relationships with American women and will probably marry one.
Is there any duty that I need to fill for the Asian race/culture, like my parents are implying? I seriously thought who you like is more important, not their ethnicity.
2006-12-04 20:37:54 · 17 answers · asked by midwestsportsfancollegeguy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
There is no such thing as an Asian 'race'. Just Asian tribes with Asiatic physical features. Nobody belongs to any race - just a genetic DNA pool indigenous to various land masses and geographic areas.
You don't fall in love with entire 'races' of people. Just one.
Marry the one you love. Simple.
2006-12-04 22:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Marriage means " selection of life partner based on mutual understanding & liking" and if you are able to select your life partner ,then it is better to select on your own from all woman of the Earth. You do not have liability for Asian Race. This is the Truth.
2. If your parent is insisting for Asian Race , it means, they want secured married life for you which is being followed in Asia .
3. So , if you are following point no.1 whose base is love and highly fragile , then you should have courage to take risk of discontinuation of married life with one woman for whole life.
and if you are following point no.2 , then there is least risk about breakage of married life and you can think for stable would be family( wife & children and parent).
1. Decide on your own based on the above facts.
2006-12-04 21:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by binda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you are an AMERICAN be proud of that. You have a choice.
Be proud of your Asian Heritage but never let it rule you.
Your Family should never put you in any position like that anyways.
You family has never known anything outside their own culture so its strange for them.
I myself am the product of many cultures and my wife is Turkish. It was strange but they will get over it. No matter what they will love you. They just want what best for.
She will have to make a good impression to your family and it may compensate. I had to learn the language and the culture and the family fell for me.
2006-12-04 20:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by FIRE § 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about an Asian-American woman? Or do you mean non-Asian when you said "American woman".
Have you asked your parents WHY they want you to marry Asian? What's obvious to them might not be obvious to you. Also, you can explain to your parents reasons for your preference to see if they can hear ya.
The only duty you have, far as I'm concerned, is to be true to yourself.
2006-12-05 00:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by temperal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are putting their prejudices on you. They want to keep the blood lines “pure”. This just leads to more prejudice. Maybe it was important when they got married (and where they got married), but things are different here. They don’t have to live with your wife, but you do. Marry the one that makes YOU happy. Mom and Dad will be mad for a while, but they will forgive you when they see their grandkid. It happens all the time. Just make sure you’re ready for marriage because they will say, “it wouldn’t have happened if you stayed within the race” when you get a divorce.
2006-12-04 20:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no duty to any race, much less to the Asian race with regards to the matters of the heart. Be with someone you fall in love with regardless of her race. I'm sorry to say your parents are wrong for implying that you have a duty to the Asian race. Your only duty is to live with integrity and that involves being honest with yourself and the person you love.
2006-12-04 20:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is something that you are on your own about deciding.
Oh, everyone has an opinion, but no one knows, and there
are people who believe both ways, and rammifications to
what they believe and how they live.
You need to decide for yourself what your values are and
how you want to live, and how much other people factor
into that. Make it your own decision and take ownership of
it ... do not listen to anyone else and blame them.
If you are really asking are you OK if you believe what
you believe on this matter, of course you are.
2006-12-04 20:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by themountainviewguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you take your parents concerns to heart. You have to live with your spouse, not your parents. They may worry that a mixed race relationship will cause problems and if you have offspring that they will have racial problems. You need to do what you can to live without making your life a hardship.
In other words, do what will make you truly happy.
2006-12-04 20:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry who you fall in love with and who is in love with you. Be happy, you are the one who has to spend the rest of your life with her. Hopefully, whoever you choose your parents will come to love also. When in-laws don't get along it's terrible. I have never been in that situation, but know people who have and it's not nice, it destroys everyone in some way.
2006-12-04 21:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asian as in anyone from Pakistan to Japan, or is this pegged to a specific national origin? If it's just a vague generality ("Asian"), then it's silly. I can understand a particular national or ethnic thing as having cultural value, but limiting oneself to one broad slice of the human pie just strikes me as odd.
2006-12-04 20:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Walter 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋