My hubby is a teacher in one of the language school in the city. He has lots of students (adults) from different countries. He mentioned to me that he has an Eastern Europe student.
Yesterday after I checked my mail, I had this urge to check his mail (I know that I was being such a lousy wife and I shouldn't crossed his privacy like this, but I did.. I wish I didn't!). So, I checked his mail. And there it was an email from his student (I know this because she's an eastern europian, plus from her e-mail address) sent him pictures of her, some of the picture were really bugged me. She said on her mail that she sent those pictures as she promised to him. The pictures weren't rude but quite inappropiate between student-teacher! I was so crossed but at the same time I coulnd't tell him how I feel.
So, in the next morning, I tried to logged-in to his e-mail account to see if he's contacting her and this time I couldn't logged-in. He has changed his password! I'm so worried! help me!
2006-12-04 20:33:50 · 17 answers · asked by minime_risk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Many times a teacher will receive things from a student that are inappropriate. The teacher must handle this, not their spouse!
As for the change in password, it must have been obvious that someone had been there. Often students will try to hack the teachers e-mail
2006-12-04 20:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually have been there--sort of.... The only thing that you can do is confess and see what he says. If he's not mad at all and offers no explanation for the pics--worry! He will likely be a tad miffed though, so be prepared to explain why you went snooping. He should have a pretty darn good reason for the pictures as well--do you trust him??? Above all, trust your intuition--something is wrong here!
2006-12-04 20:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, changing his password is a RED FLAG. Obviously he knows you checked his email. Or he figured somebody did.
Yes, it does raise a concern. I would definitely talk to him. Although apologize for invading his privacy by checking his email...
I don't think he should have pictures of his students that are not appropriate. But it is normal for teachers to have pictures of class room students.
2006-12-04 20:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, you shouldn't have opened your husbands email. but since you did, and now that you know something, maybe you should talk to him about it. but not in a way that you are nagging him. he would just be defensive and would tell you anything. do it like you are just talking to your good buddy. remember, you said that the pictures weren't indecent. maybe it was just a friendly email. but maybe you should also tell him how you feel about his relationship to him student. remember to do it without nagging him.
2006-12-04 20:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont change his password and not let u know unless his doing something behind ur back
he must give u a good explanation for it
sad to say, it may be considered as an unavoidable quarrel
2006-12-04 21:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by starapproximate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know. . . I really wanted to say that you're not over reacting. I stared at this question for a few minutes asking myself how I would answer it so you would feel better. Then I realized that was my own denial speaking. You're not crazy. You're dead on
2006-12-04 20:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried.
Tell him how you feel. If it's worth it to both of you, you can sort things out. If he's found love elsewhere, then you might not wish to hold on - your call.
2006-12-04 20:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Days of Our Lives. They might buy that as a story line.
2006-12-04 20:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so u r over reacting... you should talk to him straight first he might start shouting that why you opened his mails but hey he's the one who is wrong coz he changed the password. he's guilty... dont let him get over you. be strong...
2006-12-04 20:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! u should really talk to him about it. my mom never thought my da could do it but he did. if the pictures are disturbing to u def. talk to him thats the best u deserve the truth
2006-12-04 20:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♥bubbly♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋