I hope nobody jumps to judge but its a issue Im struggling with. How do I navigate these feelings and what do I do about them?
2006-12-04 20:28:19 · 31 answers · asked by Mkob 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
welcome to the trailer park, your dad should try to find trash to date closer to his own age, as for you that would be incest and molestation if you did anything with him...
don't go there because you will end up on the wrong side of the street...
2006-12-04 20:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
No, it's not common. It's not healthy, it's not good. It's called INCEST.
The fact that your father appears attracted to you is even MORE cause for alarm. You need to tell a trusted adult.
Due to the behavior of the two of you, I'm going to take a guess here and say that maybe he did some things to you when you were younger, or maybe a different adult male authority figure.
You need to tell an adult you trust so you and your father can get the help that you need and maybe repair the relationship between you. That adult could be your mom, your coach, your teacher, your best friend's mom... anyone. Tell SOMEONE.
But you should definitely STOP flirting with your father. Stop NOW. Do not do it EVER AGAIN.
How do you know your dad feels sexually attracted to you? Did he TELL you?
I hope you get help, hon. I really do. I don't mean that in a mean way at all, but I feel truly concerned about your mental health, and your physical safety. Stay safe.
2006-12-05 01:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is not common to have or show these types of feeling between fathers and daughters! This might develop into incest in a family which will destroy a family putting the father in jail and the daughter in a foster home. I would suggest counseling for both people involved before anything happens.. Allot of this kind of actions happens in families all the time and the results is a destroyed family and children that are emotionally damaged for life.. I hope this helps you.. Good luck..
2006-12-04 20:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what do you mean your 'struggling with the issue'?
how do you feel about your dad? and his attraction to you? what kind of relationship do you have with him?
i think thoughts and feelings like that are more common than people admit. and its pretty normal if thats all it is. thats not the same as acting on it. its way different. acting wouldnt be normal.
what kind of flirting are you talking about? are you attracted to him? how do you know hes attracted to you? how does he act by you? did you ever talk to him about it? talking is a good start if your confused. a dad is someone you should be able to trust with your feelings.
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2006-12-07 07:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these feelings are coming to both of you, then you both need to find an outlet for your love. You should be seeking only Agape love (or a love of the heart) as you are her Father first, never her lover/friend. And she is your daughter, not a playmate or anything else. If you're truly worried, look for information on father-daughter relationships in books, through psychology magazines and their websites, and try remember at all times this young woman is your daughter first.
Good luck & God Bless You Both!
Jaime
2006-12-04 23:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by El Santo Gordo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not common and you should not put yourself in any situation with your father that flirting or anything else can happen. If you father starts to cross the line at any time you have to tell him straight away that it is not what you want, even if he is joking or thinks it is harmless fun. The result of any form of relationship with your father other than that of father and daughter is not helpful to anyone in the family and can only cause distress and heartache. So dont go there.
2006-12-04 20:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i hope you didn't just read all of the above statements and give up on yourself as being a hopeless pervert, because you're not.
the feeling you describe ARE natural and normal. to act on them isn't.
David Reuben M.D. explains in his book 'Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex*' that it's common to see people we love in a platonic relationship in a sexual way.
I know i'm gonna catch a lot of crap for quoting this part of the book, but if the feeling persist, try fantasizing about the person in question while you masturbate. fantasizing isn't wrong. eventually you will lose interest in that fantasy and you will move on to another.
if you don't think this will help you, you can pick up many books about human sexuality such as Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex* at Amazon.com
if you don't think you can control these feelings, you might want to speak to a psychiatrist.
2006-12-05 01:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Flint 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if this is common or not. I have not studied on the issue much. I think you are experiencing a case of incest. I think you really need to talk to someone about it. Preferably a doctor, because the truth is it is disgusting.
2006-12-05 01:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal cases ..no. But from my understanding, normally girls are more attracted to their father and boys more to their mother. During the search for our life partners in the future(meaning wife or husband), we often look for certain traits that our father or mother have in our partner. So I would think you are very close to your father. And I'm sure your father should not feel sexually attracted to his daughter...
2006-12-04 20:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ho S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No chance it would be closer to incest.
Ok if we are handling this logically i think the best course of action would be to tell her to stop talking in a flirtatious manner.
Even you can channelise ur sexual urges towards ur wife.
2006-12-05 01:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Uzair(Stormshadow) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are confusing flirting with your love towards your dad. Im sure its not flirting and if you think he is sexually attracted to you i dont think thats true as maybe he is just a very lovelable person!!:P
2006-12-05 05:32:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋