I'm going back to work full time in a week. My 19 year old sister is moving in this weekend and will be our nanny for 6 months. I'm worried that my 12 week old daughter will think her auntie is her mommy. I don't want my baby to develop a stronger bond with her auntie than with me.
2006-12-04 19:17:27 · 12 answers · asked by Miss Metro 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
SHe'll only develop a stronger bond with her nanny if you allow it to happen. Lots of women go back to work when their babies are quite young, and what makes or breaks the mother/child relationship (especially when there's a live in nanny involved) is how much involvement YOU have when you're home and how many hours you work. If you're only going to have your sister 'on duty' when you're at work and the rest of the time YOU take care of ALL your babies needs, then there's nothing to worry about.
2006-12-05 00:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Imani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I, too, was a Mother that returned to work very yearly (in fact, both of my children were less than 6 weeks old when I returned to full time work) and had to have Full-Time child care for my children ...
SO ... I can ASSURE YOU that there is no way that the infant will think that your sister (nanny) is the mommy -- the Infant does and will recognize you as the mommy, and will enjoy the reuniting after your work day ends -- just take a few minutes right as you come home, and use it for special bonding time for your infant -- and both of you will LOVE it.
2006-12-04 19:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there congratulations on the birth of youre little girl ,and also congrayulations on the fact that you are making sure that youre daughter is being looked after by someone that she already knows as part of her life ,this is going to make things so much easier for both you and youre little girl and no youre daughter wont suddenly think that youre sister is her mom ,but they will have a better bond together and that is important with any family ,when you leave say bye to her and tell her that mommy loves you ......annd that you will see her tonight or what ever time you finish .....this will let her know that you are coming back and at night time you take up the bath time with her so that you get some good time with her good luck and take care xx
2006-12-04 20:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the bond between them will be strong but no one can take away the bond between mother and daughter!
I wouldn't worry, aslong as you spend lots of quality time with your baby girl you will be fine. This is a common worry but you will soon realise that there was no need!!
Good luck with going back to work!!
2006-12-04 19:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter doesn't know what a mommy is yet. She has been living inside of you for 9 months and knows your voice, knows your smell and knows your movements. She will feel comfortable with you.
But your daughter is learning about the world around her at such a rapid rate right now. Over the next 6 months she will develop a strong attachment to the one who is nurturing her--your sister.
As a preschool teacher, I've seen infants and small children who reach for their caregiver over their mother when they are scared or hurt. They spend most of their waking hours with them. But that's not to say this attachment will last. Through the years, and as your child develops intellectually, she will learn that mommy is her mother. Caregivers will change, but you will always be in her life.
You will likely see your sister have an attachment with your daughter that you will be jealous of. But it doesn't mean your child will not know you. And it doesn't mean that you won't ever be close with your daughter. Especially if this is just for 6 months.
Sorry to not tell you what you wanted to hear. Just being honest.
2006-12-04 19:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by MountainChick 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Babies know their Mama. My sister & I are so alike we are usually taken for twins. Even our voices are alike. It was something my baby nieces found reassuring, comfortable, & familiar. But unless you totally ditch them for months, there is no way your baby will confuse you. She has been listening to your voice since in your womb. She knows your smell, and if you are still lactating, she can recognize the smell of the yeast that is present in Mother's milk.
Just lavish her with extra love when you are home, it will make you both feel better as you tough out this time of transition.
2006-12-04 19:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing can break the maternal bond unless you let it. Give your daughter all the love you can, and enjoy your special time with her.
2006-12-04 19:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by michelle s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one can break the bond between mother and baby
2006-12-04 20:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Candy Mamii 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just make sure when you are home that you spend quality time with your daughter and she should be fine good luck
2006-12-04 19:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your baby knows your sound and your scent, since before she was born.
2006-12-04 20:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋