Should i continue.texting him and talking to him about life?
i know what he looks like, but im not really attracted to him, i just noticed a diffent spark on his face and his eyes that's why i texted him. turns out he was really fun to talk to, and because of him and me texting each other i did not commit suicide, i am happy and amused whenever he replies, he is a pot user, he habitually smokes marijuana but i dont mind that he is a great friend, he introduced me to bob marley and reggae even with ska and i terribly became happy
but now im seriously considering in stopping texting him, i dont have plans to let him see who i am, im not bad looking, but im very unusual and weird, i think things will change if he knows and sees me because im really a weird one, im afraid that if i let him see my face it could never be the same, im being selfish and all
but i have a terrible low self esteem,so im ending the friendship, its been almost a year, i feel bad about leaving all the friendship behind but then i know im not brave enough to face real people
2006-12-04 19:06:29 · 11 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You could have had a really cool friend there...after so long, he probably doesn't care about that. Don't deny that to yourself, gather up some courage and do it! If you already had planned on ending the friendship, you've got nothing to lose.
2006-12-04 19:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WILL REGRET IT!!!!!!! If he is at all interested in you as a person not even talking about friendship here- WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE DOESN'T MEAN A FLIP!!! I can already tell this is the kind of guy you can probably bare your soul to. SO what's wrong with being honest for once. Hey how about you do this little thing first and then decide if you want to end the friendship that saved your life...... TELL HIM THE TRUTH. There is so much strength that comes from telling the truth... because you realize it's not that scary when you're done- and the risk you felt it took to do it- will make you feel like you won something other than the affirmation that he is a true friend ! You are who you are - and you know he wouldn't change you for the world! Ending your friendship is a bad idea altogether... you aren't being fair to him and you know it. You are right it is selfish and after all he has given you... you cant take that away from him!
2006-12-05 03:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by ANALISE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is the philosophy in all that you are saying???
"I am this", "He is that". This all based on the bodily conception of life. But philosophically every spiritual teaching in the world says we are not these bodies. We are spiritual beings within the body, and that is THE SPARK you saw.
Connect and stay connected on that level. Don't accept and reject on the external bodily platform, otherwise how are you different from all the people you say you are not like? Where is the uniqueness in that? Superficiality is all useless and meaningless.
This person not only deserves your friendship, he deserves to enjoy your body (he saved it! it's now his, so offer it to him, if he doesnt want it then he is a real friend, if he wants it then he is your new husband!).
These are the ancient rules (over 5000 years old found in the original human culture of Earth - our global heritage) that state that..."if a man saves a woman from death and she isnt married, then he has the moral right to enjoy with her physically and she should be obliged."
Look, otherwise, you would be dead and not writing here. You are not acknowledging that. You owe him your life, and the minimal way to reciprocate is to offer your body. It's fair, moral, there is 5000 years of precedent for it, and it may solve a lot more problems for you.
Don't be a miser. :)
Hope this helps.
2006-12-05 08:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by TransformYour.World 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off your pity pot girl, get out there and live life......have fun, meet people. Look at it this way....your ready to end the friendship now, so who cares if you meet him and then it ends? No loss, but if you meet him and it doesn't end........then you have a great friend, right. You have nothing to lose except a loud obnoxious non existent entity on your shoulder that tell you you are weird and not good enough.........squish it!!! This entity has no life at all if you don't give it to him.....smash it...everytime it rears its head, smash it down again and go forward into life. No one is like everybody else....weird is different, its cool, its fun. It is so much more interesting than the main stream....so swim upstream and have fun doing it!
2006-12-05 03:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what you've written here i think you've damn near got him arrested so i would be careful how u expose this guy any more. no one want to be called a pot head and try to fit that into saving your life but if it is hard on you then just make what u like be what you have and not go off the deep end over where you've already been, be what you've made yourself into and play it your way, i help allot of people who are embarrassed and don't want to know me after I've changed their life it goes with the job, it done and move on, i guess world doesn't build very many two way streets in psychology for safety nets that are no longer needed
2006-12-05 03:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just only text message him and you have no reson to feel insecure. when you have low esteem you would never make it in life. atleast you admit that you have low esteem. confident doesnt happen overnight and it doesnt fall from the sky like rain its a personal development. so what if he is a pot head that doesnt make him a bad person. everyone has a negative and positive
2006-12-05 03:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to loose?! meet people, you'll make mistakes, but remember, even if u make mistake, to be fool for 5 minutes is better than bieng fool for the rest of your life :)
2006-12-05 03:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by walid_abazza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all real people or just this rather edgy real person? He carries some baggage that perhaps your subconscious mind is telling you dont need in your fragile state.
2006-12-05 03:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely have low self-esteem (so do i) and are very shy. don't throw a great friendship away. take a chance ,,, i bet you won't be sorry!!
2006-12-05 03:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by robin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your target for this relationship. if you are satisfied with only texting with him then go on.but if you want more then there is a risk. make your decision by your self!!!good luck
2006-12-05 03:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋