We've been friends for over ten years and she lies about every little thing, but that's the problem. They're all little things so I don't want to seem petty by bringing them up. She contradicts herself so much and adds or omits details to the same stories every time she tells them so I don't know which one is the truth. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to talk to her on the phone anymore because 90% of what she says is potentially made up. Also, I'm afraid if I bring this up she will somehow turn it around on me (she's good at that) and we'll end up arguing about a totally different subject. Should I even be friends with someone who can't ever give me a straight answer?
2006-12-04 17:57:13 · 11 answers · asked by Quintessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This person is one messed up soul. Kind of sad really. Pathetic too! How is it you have tolerated for so long? The only thing you could do, aside from laughing in her face every time she speaks, is to keep questioning her on everything. Or ignore what she says. Even if you cease contact with her, so what? If she makes you out to be the bad guy everyone knows what a petty liar she is so it wouldn't matter anyways. And those who don't will soon find out. Even she must know how she acts but because she has been doing it for so long she can't help herself anymore. Over the years all those little things add up to being big things.
You shouldn't worry about losing this so called "friendship". Wasn't much to lose anyway. For sure it would be a load of of you. She might find out that she needs you a heck of a lot more than you need her. It may even jump start her into getting some kind of professional help.
2006-12-04 18:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally my responses to peoples questions are extremely long and powerful but my answer for you is pretty simple.. and it seems as though you already know the answer to that.. confront her and if she knows whats good for her she'll recognize it and laugh about it and apologize.. that way you can make it a joke from there.. liars are all the same once you know they are lying you can tell when they are and when they're starting to elaborate bullshit into their stories that are already completely far fetched.. and as soon as she admits to most of the time being over exaggitory (sorry cant spell) you can call her out whenevr she does from then on.. lol ok so that was kinda long..<3 goodluck with her though hahah..
2006-12-05 02:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by .:*BeAuTiFuL*:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is exactly like that!
People like these lie because they want to be unique and specially different. She probabally want's to impress you. You should take it as somewhat of a compliment. It means that she want's to be as exciting as you.
I would say just to distance yourself away from her. Liars deny everything so confronting her would lead to a big mess. Make friends who tell the truth.
2006-12-05 02:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Janine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confronting her. Youll never know if itll help until you try. Secondly, if she doesnt except it and starts arguing with you, just ignore her. Apparently she doesnt want to listen to anyone else. She wants things her way. I used to a ubsesive, compulsive liar. Until all of my friends kept on bringing it up to me. Now Im one of the most for real people youll meat.
2006-12-05 02:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the reason she does what she does is because she knows you'll believe her regardless, my cousin is the same way, lies cause he can and for no apparent reason so yes confront her on it and just maybe she'll try to change around you.
2006-12-05 02:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by ish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the good with the bad til it makes the move that has you pissed and you have to get out but let her make u happy, can u steer this a little so u get the best of a bad situation, hope float maybe she can keep it from sinking under its own weight? guys alwAYS HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS IT IS CALLED THE GREY AREA THAT IS IT IS NO MAN LAND BE HAPPY YOU DO KNOW ENOUGH TO NOT GET STUPID FROM IT
2006-12-05 03:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust someone that isn't truthful? Sounds like unnecessary drama to me and not even fun being her friend.
I'd confront her on it. If she doesn't see anything wrong with it or gets offensive, screw her. Who needs liars in their life?
2006-12-05 02:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lies about about little things, I'd be willing to bet she lies about big things too. You just haven't found out yet. Regardless, there should be no sliding scale for lies. Big or little, they both suck.
2006-12-05 02:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ice Cream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, you just have walk away from certain relationships. This would be one of them. These type of people only get worse with time. It will begin to drive you batty to be around her--and worse yet, people may assume you are like her becasue you hang around together.
2006-12-05 02:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she sounds manipulative....may not be worth it. might as well confront her and see if you guys can come to a solution, because if you don't, it sounds like your friendship is really on the line.
2006-12-05 01:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by christina rose 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋