i just have a feeling that he still loves me.even we broke up,i can see it in his eyes and his action,he was very sad and speechles everytime i see him and my friends,we have only a 1 month relationship,but it was full of love we almost talk everyday,but he end it up,he just want to be friend with me that i cant accept bcoz it hurt's.but i think hes just controling to spead his feelings to me.bcoz we cant be bcoz his already married.i know we two have mistakes.he said he developed his feelings so fast to me,thats why he wants to end up before its more deeply.we cant be bcoz were christian,w/ the same religion,and were two are church worker,if we will be together we two will expel to the church.and theres no divorce in philippines.but its hard im suffering and i know he too.he said im still in his heart and if he is not married yet he will marry me.but its too late now we really cant be.someone experience this difficult situations?
2006-12-04 17:52:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really are a Christian - the bible is clear that this is not an appropriate relationship. The bible tells us that if we resist temptation it will flee from us. Remember, what Joseph did when he was tempted by the married woman? He RAN the other way - you need to make the move to another church and don't do anything that involves him if you want to follow what the Lord would call you to do in a situation like this. I wouldn't normally say things this strongly on Answers because most people aren't out there saying that they are doing these kinds of things and calling themselves a believer at the same time. RUN the other way! Before it's too late. His marriage doesn't stand a chance if they have issues they are not dealing with and a woman with emotional feelings for him making it seem like an easy escape. Trust me - if you really got to live with him - you'd probably end up with the same challenges his wife has now - it takes 2 to tango and with marital issues - he definitely has some. Before I was married I did get into situations where I did have to run the other way from a married man who was chasing after me. But as it turns out - I wasn't the first - and I probably wasn't the last. Running the opposite direction was a much better choice regardless of whatever I was feeling at the time. Some years later - here I am happily married with 2 children and a 3rd on the way - things are not perfect - but much better than they would have been chasing after that freak of a married man. Sometimes you just have to put your faith and your trust in God over whatever your feelings may direct you to do - trust in God more than your feelings - trust His word more than you trust yourself and your own heart - your own heart and emotions can so easily deceive you - He will heal your suffering and send the right man to you. He can't do that if you disobey.
2006-12-04 18:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ganni, you speak of being Christian then you say no divorce because of the Church. Hmmm. God forgives divorce, it is not the unforgivable sin so if he was able to divorce he could be forgiven by God. OK, so much for church rules, they just don't match Gods rules all the time.
What I do not understand is how you seem to think it is OK to be with a married man. That is not going by the book, Bible as you mention about your beleifs. That is adultry and hey, are their any children involved? I need more information but based on what you wrote, move on with your life. If he cheated during a marriage with his wife, what on earth makes you think he would not do the same to you even if you married him?
My advise, begin dating and find a nice decent man, one that is unmarried. If you seem to like married men it could be just the "challenge" you enjoy of getting him away from another woman.
Do a little soul searching and get to know yourself better. Set a moral limit for your self and stick to it. I promise you will never regret not dating married men! I really think you deserve a future and a good one at that.
You won't find it with a cheater.
Hope this helps a bit, even a bit.
2006-12-04 18:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by yoyo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this girl, but he is not the man for you. You should of realized that when you found out that he was married. Married men are off limits. How do you think that other girl would feel if she found out that her man was cheating on her. You sound like a sweat girl and I dont think you want to be a house recker.
2006-12-04 17:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cakes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor love, He probably does love you, but what does that mean? the point you should focus on the fact that hes married,and wont ever leave her, religion, family, acceptance whatever, you can NOT dedicate your life to a man who wont fight to be with you. Your man wont have sad eyes because he "Cant fight for you" forget that you want a solderer, not a man full of excuses,.so good luck and remember CHOOSE YOUR LOVE, LOVE YOUR CHOICE
2006-12-04 18:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by kathycracksit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said he is married, and you both are christians. Have some respect for his wife and his marriage and leave it at that. Think of how sad she would be if she knew about your relationship.
2006-12-04 17:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he might still love you.. but perhaps he is more inlove w/ his wife (family) that's why he chose to broke up w/ u & just focus on the right thing - that he is already commited to someone else. God is good, you will find another guy who will love you & he will be just for you - only you & nothing else..
2006-12-04 18:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_MJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should forget him even though you love him you`ll see that you will fine the perfect guy for you later on i now is hard but you have too he is already married and you wouldn`t like it if when you marry the guy did the samething to you.
2006-12-04 18:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by sweety 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, then you need to talk to him but if he doesn't want to be with you if you love him you'll let him go on.
2006-12-06 07:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he still loves you
2006-12-04 17:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥cRazY♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to say if he did he would be with you . my opion?
2006-12-04 17:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋