he promise me that he was never ganna do drugs.... and he end up doing them .. he promise me that 3 times already and those three times he didn't keep his promises. what should i do?? not trust him no more!!
2006-12-04 17:18:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that in this case you shouldn't trust him. Not that he is a distrustful person overall, but rather it sounds like the drugs may have a hold on him, making it nearly impossible for him to stay away. In that case, i think what you should do is not trust him to not do drugs (the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior, meaning he will likely do it again), and also get him help. Drugs are illegal and totally mess up your body (as you probably know anyhow) and i think it sounds like he could possibly be addicted to it. Of course, he will probably deny it, whether because he is in denial or doesn't want to stop, but i really think you should get him some help. Find out some about drug abuse on the net and see what you can do to help him. Whatever happens i wish you the best of luck!
2006-12-04 17:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can't trust him! How many times do you need to see this? It's already been three times! What more do you need to know? Now face it! This guy has made his decision. He can't keep his promises because he is addicted and by now he can't help himself. The drugs have taken control over his life. And to a certain extent your life as well. The only thing you can hope for is that he can get some help for himself. There are plenty of resources to do this. As well meaning are your intentions this you can't do on your own as it takes a network of support intervention. In the meantime, what you cannot do is be an enabler. In other words don't give him money or put yourself in a position to be used by him. This he will surly do and will take you down with him as well
2006-12-04 17:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any such factor as a "Best Friend". Trust nobody with ALL your secrets and techniques. Remember, "Some secrets and techniques and experiences are bigger left untold". You can best utterly believe your self. Don't get me unsuitable, sure she is also an overly well pal however a real pal isn't measured by the point and years you have got recognized every different. She would possibly believe you together with her secrets and techniques considering that she is aware of your a faithful pal, however this doesn't suggest you must inform her the whole thing too. If she's a well pal then she's going to comprehend that you do not consider as at ease spilling your private secrets and techniques. Everyone is human. No pal or individual excellent. If you desire your secrets and techniques to stick secrets and techniques, do not inform her. Sure sure you'll be able to inform her a few secrets and techniques however now not the ones you would not desire OTHERS to discover out. well good fortune and regularly keep real. :)
2016-09-03 12:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by chautin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I learned in life you really cannot trust ANYONE, not even yourself sometimes.
Your friends drug problem, I'm sorry to say, is his drug problem. I know you care about him, but he is the only one that can promise to himself to become clean. All you can do is try to support him. But making him promise you he won't do drugs is wasting your time.
2006-12-04 17:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he failed you in keeping promises before, then it shows he's not much of a trustworthy friend, unless he cleans his act up fast to make up for it. For now though, don't get your hopes up high in trusting him.
2006-12-04 18:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Janine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting someone to quit something is often out of your hands and is up to them to give it up.
I wouldnt say not to trust him, he needs help to kick drugs and you telling him not to do it wont help him.
You need to get him to go somewhere where they can get him to stop before he hurts himself especially if he is your best friends as friends always look out for each other.
So give him a chance and dont give up on him yet!
2006-12-04 17:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by adnie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lied to you about that, and didn't even ask you for your help, while trying to hide it from you, then I'd try to find a guy that I can trust, because that can be a big problem if you let it grow.
2006-12-04 17:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose this chump. He obviously enjoys burning brain cells and lowering his already room temperature I.Q. than spending quality time with you. You'll have the last laugh when he is in prison. Which is exactly where he is heading.
2006-12-04 17:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the one that threw that trust out the window. I would try to support him but I would definately be on guard with everything he does.
2006-12-04 17:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is not about trusting him. it's about changing him. you need to bug him until he does what he promises you. you must not give up hope on him as he is your best friend. tyr your best to change him. for all you know, you might be the only one who can help him change. do not give up hope.
2006-12-04 17:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋