See, often i feel like my friend is very condescending towards me when i voice my opinions. While i have nothing against everyone having his/her own opinion, it often seems to play out that i state my opinion and she will say something along the lines of "That's not right Sarah..." and such, even though i feel my opinion is completely valid. This occurs also in situations where I am more informed on the subject, but all the same she thinks she is right and I am dead wrong. She also seems to have this thing where she believes i am extremely immature, even though i feel that i am not, or that she is just as immature as I (I sometimes get giddy and make dumb jokes, and she will say “Sarah, that’s not funny. Stop it” even though she acts like that quite a bit I think. So I feel she thinks herself higher and more mature than me, which is a big issue for me) . It isn't even so much what she says, she gets this look on her face that says "That's so stupid. How could you think that" and she has pretty much acknowledged that's what the face is. So, needless to say, i end up doubting myself and/or getting very defensive "No, it is right" and such. I want to explain to her that this bothers me the way she treats me, but I am wondering if I am being oversensitive. I just get the feeling she looks down on me, also if i don't know a fact she acts like i'm the dumbest person she’s met. Such as I might not know who a famous actor/actress from the 50’s is or something, and she will comment about how uncultured/stupid I am (not necessarily in those words, but with that meaning). I get mad because it isn’t so much my fault she has been exposed to more things like that than I (her family watches a lot of movies, mine doesn’t). So yes, sorry for this rant, but please I would like any help. I am starting to get very very sick from all this (resentment, feel sick when I see her coming, trying to avoid her etc…) and I don’t want it to keep going like this, cause I will lose her as a friend. So please, any help. Thanks =)
2006-12-04 17:16:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this girl is not a friend, she is an endurance, contest, you have a mind of your own, and because she not only disagrees with you she also has to belittle you to boot, this is a person on a power trip, and you do not need one of those in your life. next time she disagrees with you tell her she is absolutely right and walk away and do not look back , there are no victims only volunteers
2006-12-04 17:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel when you both are in a calm mood. Just tell her that you feel like she is treating you badly and the reasons behind your feelings. Use examples of what she has said/done in specific situations and go from there. If she is a true friend, she will understand and make an effort to change. If she doesn't then maybe the friendship needs to take a break or come to an end. Just remember that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Her reason may have been served and the season over. Follow your head and not your heart on this one. No one deserves to be treated badly.
2006-12-05 03:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds extremely insecure. She also sounds like she doesn't like certain things about herself so she picks you apart to make herself feel better. I've known people like that who think they know eeeeeverything and they think you don't know what you're talking about. They're just ignorant and there's nothing you can do to change that part of their personality. She doesn't sound like a friend I would want to keep around, so I wouldn't worry about losing her. There are TONS of other girls out there who would love to be friends with a nice girl like you and they wouldn't put you down constantly. Real friends bring out the best in you, accept you for who you are, and listen to what you have to say. If you still really want to keep her as a friend then you need to settle this now. If she makes a face at you like "you're stupid" then call her on it right away(say, "what's that face for?" so she'll have to own up to it). If she says "no, you're wrong about that" then just agree to disagree. It sounds like she's the one who is immature here, not you.
2006-12-05 02:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by Quintessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too long top read!!! Tell her that your opinions are just as valid as hers and expain to her that everyone is different! If you lose her as a friend - oh well, she wasnt a good friend!!
2006-12-05 01:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋