Okay, I posted a question like last week about my friend running away from home. Well she went home for 2weeks and 4days, and ran away again...! Now she is 17 years old with a 31 year old "sugar daddy" Hes been keeping her supplied in cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, clothes, etc..he even bought her a cell phone...I'm afraid hes gonna ask for sex or sumthing in return and shes gonna say no, and hes gonna either hurt my friend, rape her, or even kill her..! He's in a gang called "TN4L" and he added her to the gang also...I love my friend with all of my heart and dont want nothing to happen to her..!! She wont tell me where she is..all i know is shes somewhere in cincinnati Ohio.I dont have a number or anything like that.I cant call her dad, or the cops, b/c then i'll lose my best friend.I want to get her myself, and get her out of that kind of lifestyle! She has another capias warrant which is state wide, and her dad cant drop it. I need to know what steps to take to get my friend back..!!!!
2006-12-04 17:15:26 · 12 answers · asked by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This sounds like a cold thing to say, but if she's in with someone who is involved with a gang just drop it and move on. As long as her parents know where she is (or roughly where she is) it is up to them to figure out what is next. If there's a capeas on her chances are the police will eventually find her, and she'll end up in court, where whatever is going on will be dealt with.
She may be 17, but you're probably about the same age; and you know what's healthy and what isn't. She had made these choices on her own, and apparently she was free to go home for at least a couple of weeks.
As many parents of teenagers who get in trouble know, there is sometimes no way to "get them back" until they want to come back, and they often do after they figure out they don't like what's going on. If clothes, drugs, and alochol are all that important to her she isn't an innocent victim. She's getting what she wants.
Drop it. Its sad for you to watch, I know. There isn't anything you can or should do because you could put yourself and your family in danger. Just tell yourself she has made choices that aren't the choices you'd make, and that means you need to find friends who are more like you.
2006-12-04 19:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her parents what is going on. I had a friend that something similar happened to when I was younger.
She ending up never returning home, becoming a prostitute, smoking crack, doing heroine and who knows what else.
She ended up getting beaten very badly and has severe brain damage and can never function as a normal person ever again.
She needs help. She may say that she hates you and never wants to talk to you again for helping her and getting her in trouble, but you will be saving her life.
Whoever she is staying with is not going to let her stay there and keep giving her things for free. That is not how things work. She is going to have to pay up eventually in the form of either sex with him, prostitution or other things that I am sure she would not be happy doing.
2006-12-05 13:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you risk losing your best friend, theres an ultimatum in the process of getting her back: would you rather
a) still technically have her as a best friend, but not be able to phone her or see her, and only know that she is somewhere in cincinnati, ohio?
or
b) tell her dad, lose your 'best friend', but she is safe and out of harms way, where even the mere thought of this "sugar daddy" doing something as awful as the things you mentioned is out of the question?
Your friend needs serious help. From what you mentioned I'm guessing she has a drug problem? I've dealt with this sort of thing before, with my aunt, so if you need to talk, feel free to email me.
Good Luck, and let me know how it unfolds.
2006-12-05 03:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by xx.loveace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is classified as a runaway, you should be able to phone an anonymous hotline. You can report what you know there. And honestly say that you didn't tell her parents what you knew.
Don't look for your friend to come back. She is looking for a father figure and has found one. I hope that you will realize that this person needs more than you can give and move on to other, productive teens who are worthy of your kind personality.
2006-12-05 14:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan on taking a dozen AK-47s with you into gang territory by yourself I wouldn't advise going down there and rescuing her as it may cost both of you your lives. Call the damn cops NOW! Don't worry about anything except calling the cops and her dad. The cops can get her out more safely than you can.
2006-12-05 11:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already lost your friend, so the best thing you could do for her now is go to the police and tell them what you know. You should try and talk to her parents as well, and see if you can help them find her. Maybe you know some information that they do not know.
Chances are, if the guy is buying her all of those things and she keeps running off with him, then she is already sleeping with him. So I wouldnt worry too much about that, its probably too late.
2006-12-05 01:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont try playing hero and doint it yourself. this is a case where you must inform her parents and the authorities. thats all you can do for her. you will not lose your friend if you know she's in a safe place, even if its in a juvenile hall.
and dont you think she might be already having sex with her sugar daddy?? so dont worry about that worry about her getting home safe which is by calling the police NOW!!!
2006-12-05 02:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to tell SOMEONE! Trust me, your friend will be thankful in the end. She doesn't know it now, but she will. If you really love you best friend, are you willing to let someone hurt her because you were afraid to tell someone about where she was? Are you willing to let her be on drugs and begin to slowly die? Have you ever thought about that? If you love your friend, you'd help her by telling someone...not sit there and let her die. You don't want to let her live a life of regretfullness, do you? You are the only one that can literally save her life right now...and YOU have to take action. I know it seems like a lot of pressure, and it is, but you have to tell someone. Somehow or someway, you have to.
2006-12-05 18:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh SURELY he won't ask her for sex!!! Look, I think you need to distance yourself from this girl. She's not doing anything she doesn't want to do and nobody's forcing her to do anything. If she wants to get out of that lifestyle, all she has to do is call her dad.
2006-12-05 09:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell her parents. Can you imagine how worried they are? If she does get raped could you have prevented it by calling the police before it happened? The way she is now you might want to stay away from her once she gets home until she straightens herself up
2006-12-05 01:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋