My best friend is a female and my wife is still jealous?

Question

I have been married for over 5 years and my wife is still jealous of my married best friend who is female, nothing has ever happened between us and nothing ever will but my wife still gets upset every time I talk to her. How do I get my wife to understand that I am never going to leave her for my friend?

Answer 1

Jealously is nothing more than insecurity, maybe you should try to build her up a bit more. My husband and I both have friends of the opposite sex, we go to lunch alone with them and neither of us gets upset or jealous, but it's because we know how much we love each other and how important our marriage is to one another. We are very secure with ourselves, we make sure everyday that we let one another know how we feel. But we don't set around talking on the phone with them everyday and the lunches are not a weekly or even monthly thing, it just happens when it happens.

Answer 2

Some women can handle this kind of thing without feeling the least bit jealous. Others go ballistic at even the thought. Apparently your wife isn't all that keen with the relationship you have, even though it is innocent, still, you need to consider her feelings.

I don't care if you say you're not leaving her or anything you say, that feeling is going to be there with your wife and it just isn't worth the drama in your life to pursue it.

Just try to make it a point to avoid saying anything about your "best friend" if possible. I know you aren't doing anything, but not in this lifetime, bud, are you going to convince wife otherwise.

Bottom line? Figure out your priorities and do what you need to do and keep momma happy at home.

Answer 3

Keeping this woman as your best friend hurts your marriage... YOU should make the choice... your wife or your best friend. There should only be one woman in your life, and if you haven't figured that out after 5 years of marriage, then I hope your wife leaves you.

Keeping a woman in your life who you talk to all the time is having an emotional affair with another woman, and it OBVIOUSLY hurts your wife. Why do you want to hurt her? Ditch the best friend, and commit to your marriage. Find a man you relate to and be his friend. Your wife is not just jealous... she may just leave because she knows you haven't fully committed to her yet.

Answer 4

It nice to have friends and I am not saying you shouldn't. However, your best friend should be your wife. The person you tell everything to. Share your feelings with and so on. We women get jealous by nature since some of us are insecure. Its the vibe your putting out with your relationship with her. Also you should never let yourself to be in the position to be alone with the girl. I dont think that she is going to stop being jealous but you can make it a little easier to trust you buy not talking to her so much or in secret or being alone with her.

Answer 5

Well reverse the circumstances and see how you'd feel. Suppose you and your wife have a bad arguement and your best friend gives you lots of sympathy? There's always a chance that something intimate will follow. I know both parties need to trust and have faith in each other when you're married, but, sorry to say, I would probably feel the same way if I was your wife.

Answer 6

If I were your wife I would be jealous, too. You are never going to get her to understand that, because she is not a stupid woman, she knows that there is always the chance that you would leave her for your friend. She knows that you have feelings for your friend that could lead to more if they haven't already. She has a right to be jealous and I don't think that you can convince her other wise and to suggest differently is to insult her intelligence.

Answer 7

Invite your female best mate and hubby over for dinner and try and find things your wife and your wife have in common! Try and get them friends, they could go shopping, do lunch, movies, anything really, but I would make it clear to your wife that she upsets you every time she goes on about your best mate! Ask your wife: "who do I love and who did I marry"?!!!!!
Tell your wife you EXPECT her to make an effort and to start respecting you!!!! Gee, give a guy a break!!! Good Luck Buddy!

Answer 8

maybe you can try including your wife in the conversations sometimes wifes tend to feel like the friend has motives maybe its not you she dont trust maybe its her all wemon feel threatened maybe you friend is pretter or skinner or something you wife feels insure about how do you act about you friend do you hang on to her every word? do you drop every thing for her for the sake of friendship and do you do the same for you wife maybe if you 3 sit down and talk and your wife gets to know her maybe your wife will not be upset sometimes its the unknown that makes us all upset and maybe you wife wants to be your best friend and feels she cant compete maybe the four of you can go out as couples

Answer 9

now not sufficient information in this...for all we all know you would be the type of man that thinks its ok to hang around extra along with his feminine ''peers'' than his spouse, that cuts a talk with spouse to reply a non-pressing name from a feminine ''buddy'' , that thinks it is ok to show off their mobile for the entire night time and handiest come again a three am relatively under the influence of alcohol after a ''occasion'' wherein there was once handiest chicks. Anyway, cannot you're making the change among being curious and being paranoid? I cannot be the one man or woman in the world that takes exact curiosity in my bf's lifestyles?

Answer 10

If you call her and ur wife doesn't like it, should it be neccesary that you talk and keep in touch with your female friend. your wife is too jealous, even though u seem a little pansy guy. I say try to convince her that you are just friend and not that kind of friend that she is probably thinking. Or get manly friends.