well, i broke up with my sons father 3 years (he has been part of his life all along)ago. two weeks ago he came over and he told me he loved me and we had sex. this last week we went through the same thing. i found a opened condom wrapper in his wallet(so i know it was not ours). i asked him if he was seeing someone else and he said yes(for about 2-3 months) and that he was not trying to lead me on. so i accepted what it was(just sex) and then right before he leaves again he tells me he loves me and kisses me. i asked him to come back home and he said we need to give things time... but that he does love me. now i am really confused because i do want to be with him, but i am not too sure what his intentions are. what's your take on this one? i spoke to him on the phone and he said that we need to work on the issues that caused us to break up in the first place ... i am really confused should i just let it go? or work it out? help!!
2006-12-04 16:37:41 · 12 answers · asked by mamie497 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
- Be very careful. I would suggest if you go back, it's NOT to have any sexual relation BEFORE the rest is worked out. Feelings come first.
2006-12-08 13:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by Z O R R O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alrighty, take the past two weeks for what it was, just sex.
this guy is sleeping with someone else, and now he's sleeping with you too. This is going to confuse your son. Dad is with mom, wait no, now he's not.... i'd have an honest talk with him. Find out what he really wants, and if it's getting back together, give him time to break it off for good with the other person and the both of you start working on what broke you guys up in the first place. Yes he loves you, youre his son's mom. I'd find out what his intentions really are before you wind up hoping for more than you'll get out of it. For the sake of your son and you, just becareful you don't get hurt. Unless you are honestly truely 100% okay with sex just being sex and nothing more than that with him i'd hold off doing it with him, make him earn it. Have it as a reward for you guys doing good and working on things to make the relationship good again.
Hope everything goes okay, just becareful and really think about things, and his past history...
2006-12-05 00:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are letting sex get in the way. If he wants you, then he can wait for sex until everything is worked out. And he shouldn't be seeing anyone else if he really wants to be with you.
My answer is that he is just a horny guy. You're just easy.
You should think about how this is confusing your son too.
2006-12-05 00:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by luvguns2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.You do need to work out the issue that broke you up in the first place. If he love you the he needs to end the other relationship NOW. No more sex until he does and you work out the issues.
2006-12-05 00:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by wes41550 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he has moved on. so i think u have to move on too. he misses u alright, but i dont think a man with a real backbone would go back to the same problem that has caused him some agony in life.
the sex part is just a gesture of "u have been a part of my life" .. He is already seeing someone.. so dont expect too much from him. remember.. no expectation, no disappointment.. live life happy and heal ur loneliness so u dont end up in a mess again.
2006-12-05 01:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he does want to perhaps reconcile but only if you guys can get past the reason you broke up in the first place. I would talk to him and make sure that this is what he really wants. Also, if you want things to be exclusive between the two of you, then you need to make sure he understands that too.
2006-12-05 00:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't call it love when you can sleep with more than one woman. I call that a sex-maniac! He's just getting his cake and eating it to. Dump him and go forward with your life. There are many, many more fish in the sea.
On the other hand, for you kid's sake, keep a good rapport between you too.
He doesn't love you. Don't you believe that for a second.
2006-12-05 00:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by correcaminos72734 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not learn the first time. "We need to work on the issues that caused us to break up the first time"? Would those issues be something like his immaturity? His willingness to jump into bed with you without a committment despite how he already hurt you? His being with more than one woman at a time? No.."WE" don't need to work on the issues "HE" DOES!!! GOD!!! He is not the last man on earth! Get some sense and move on!!! If you give him one more minute of satisfaction to think you would give him another moment of your time I will be just nuts here. He is a LOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-05 00:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by ummmehhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you two REALLY need to sit down and discuss EVERYTHING. I think he wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He can't have it both ways. I would give him an ultimatum; either you or her? And don't get all soft and scared, either. He KNOWS you'll always be there. Show him you will but only under different circumstances.
2006-12-05 00:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work it out with him if you want to get back together, but until everything is worked out keep your legs closed. Whatever you say, its not JUST SEX. There is to many emotional bonds there.
2006-12-05 00:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋