Im having a lot of stress in my life lately. i recently lost one of my bestfriends. they didnt pass away. we just got into a huge fight and now were not friends. we were best friends for 2 years. and ever since the fight ive been blaming myself for what happened. and my other friends tell me that i didnt do anything wrong and that she was the one who messed it up. but if thats true....why desnt any of this bother her?! i see her everyday and it doesnt look like shes even the least bit upset. and i cry about it every night. so if it was her fault we arent friends....why isnt this bothering her???
2006-12-04 16:36:10 · 14 answers · asked by gymnast0944 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
- It looks clear that she doesn't really care. You should not blame yourself like that. Do what else you have to do and stop culpabilizing.
2006-12-08 14:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Z O R R O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru this before. Me and this girl were best friends for 6 years. I mean we were always together, it was crazy. Then out of nowhere she got this stank attitude. She stopped hanging out with me,and that hurt me sooooo bad. I used to cry everyday over that. Even 2 years ago i just burst out crying because i really started thinking about her. But anyway, for a good friend to walk away on a freindship like that there has to be more than just a fight. There is something that you are not seeing. Maybe she is jelous of you in some way. Maybe its over a guy, and you might not even know it. You should definately not blame yourself for it. what i would suggest is trying to talk to her and asking her what is going on and why is she so mad. If she still actin like she don't care just leave it alone. The sooner you act like u dont care the sooner she will either come back or you will find out the truth. But most likey ya gonna be friends again, Because true frienship will stand thru anything, and if she is still being a b**** about it, then she 's not a true friend.
2006-12-04 16:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by jizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes ppl make it out that it don't bother them but deep down inside it really does. she might be good at putting on a front when ur around and to other friends. U don't know how she really feels when no one is around. I don't know what u all got into a fight about. but if that person was a best friend and and blow a 2 + year friend ship over something more then likely stupid it which most of the times fights are. then u don't need someone like that as a friend. Have u tired to talk to her about the problem. plus if they cant talk to u about the problem there is guilt there. try not to let it bother u. i know it's hard. But if she can do it to u try it back to her. she might not like it and u all might be able to talk about it.
2006-12-04 16:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by wishstar28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is bothering her, you just can't see it. If not, she's not worth it. I try to avoid girls who have a lot of drama- had quite a few back stab me when I did nothing to them.... I'm not sure why people are this way. Just know there are many more people out there you can be friends with... yes it hurts like heck when they do this kind of stuff- I know, trust me. But there are SO many people out there who you can be friends with.... I found this out when I went to college- I lived in a small town-very small...so everyone knew everyone.... then I went to a huge college...tons of people... so I could choose who to be friends with... if something went wrong, then so be it- I always am upfront, told them I don't deal with drama, and let them be... I found other friends who wouldn't do anything mean or stir up trouble with me. I do get frustrated when something goes wrong though- and I can see where you'd think it was something you did, but it's not. You are better, so smile, and live life to it's fullest. :)
2006-12-04 16:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE SAYS, give it time.... If she really is a good friend she'll get over it and try to make amends if not good riddence shes not as great as you thought she was if she doesn't realize good friends are hard to come by. If something is meant to be its meant to be if not its for the best believe me! Try to focus on whats in front of you life has many good surprises for you just be patient.
2006-12-04 16:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by homer838 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may be a great actress. I'm sure it bothers her a great deal more than you think. Try talking to her. If she's not ready to talk, give it a little time. Time has a way of curing a lot of problems. You might try apologizing to her, even if it wasn't your fault. Tell her that her friendship is more important to you than a dumb argument.
2006-12-04 16:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you call this stress? No. Soon you'll be matured enough to realise that all this is part of growing up. The world is out there waiting for people who are'nt bothered with small matters. Move on and enjoy life.
2006-12-04 16:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is bothering her but she's not showing it. Or maybe she knows she was wrong and doesn't want to admit it.
Give it a little time and maybe you both will put this behind you.
Time makes people forget the small things.
2006-12-04 16:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because she is moving on with her life and so should you. I'm in the same predicament with you. My girlfriend broke up with me and and just through out lies and accusations just to get out.
Yes! I still miss her very much and think about her everyday but you need to stay busy to get your mind off of it. She will regret it later. Believe me she will.
I know it's hard to move on. But your going to have to. It's been very hard for me and still is. But I've been staying busy just to keep my mind off of it.
Good Luck!
2006-12-04 16:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because she doesnt care oviously it was here fault thats why she desnt care so you should stop putting yourself down about it and move on
2006-12-04 16:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Steven S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋