I am working in Dubai and well paid. My wife was with me here but recently she delivered a baby girl in india and unfortunately that baby girl is heart patient. I can not sponsor her here becuase she needs treatment. My parents are old and they are alone. I cant concentrate on work here. If I will go back to india I will run out of money and if I will continue here I think of them every time. What should I do? Money is important or family values? Shall I leave my job and go back to give them moral support?
2006-12-04 16:29:42 · 11 answers · asked by advance ideas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
- Your baby is the most precious treasor. Do the best for your baby even if you have to quit your job.
2006-12-08 13:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Z O R R O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked an immigration lawyer in Dubai? Most nations don't allow immigrants with chronic health problems because they don't want to incur the cost of health care of looking after a chronically ill patient.
But your case is different for two reasons. 1)You already have a workers Visa for Dubai. 2) It's Dubai, there was an article in the newspaper a few days ago that Dubai has established a family reunification law and as I understand it, you might be able to bring your wife back to Dubai despite her illness.
Apparently Dubai has also legislated "hardship" exceptions for children whose parent(s) have working Visas and need treatment because they are ill. If I remember correctly to qualify for this exemption the parent(s) do have to buy health insurance, but it is supposed to be affordable.
Dubai also has just built all those gleaming new hospitals and stripped the best Doctors from all around the world and induced them to move to Dubai.
If you can, there literally isn't a better place to have your little girl and wife treated in the world today than Dubai.
I'd pop for the expense of the immigration lawyer just because it is Dubai. With their new economic plan, they can't afford to lose skilled workers. Their business plan is built around having the best skilled workforce in the world and apparently it's already bringing in revenue and that is only the tip of the iceburg compared to all that oil wealth.
If you can't stay, I'd go home to India. India's economy is growing by leaps and bounds and is the first of the former Asian tigers to be able to challange China's low wage economy. India's workforce is the better trained (remember Chairman Mao and what he did to the higher education institutions? They are still playing catch up.) If you happened to pick up some Arabic while in Dubai, you're prospects in India might be better than you think.
Regardless families are more important than money.
(PS, if I could afford it I would buy a house in Dubai's new resort "city" in a microsecond. Guaranteed beach property and dock on one of the best beaches in the world? Everyone I know who has seen them says that they are the best in the world and the country itself is very accepting and friendly.)
2006-12-05 00:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think your family is more important, first, your baby girl needs you, your wife, i'm sure you can figure a way to work in India. Imagine that you were the one with the girl, you'd feel desperate and in need of your partner. Of course you need money, but trust me, being away from the family is the hardest thing to do and specially, if something happends, you'd be too far away, and you may regret it. Human love, warmth, words, touch can heal better than medicine!!!! Your presence and her mum's is crucial and, she will thank you when shes older :) God Bless you and your family and may God give you the strengh and courage you need to bring yo your family i this hard time. Never give up, and do it all for her! Best of luck From a Dominican Friend. ;)
2006-12-05 00:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, your choice is not easy-but to me it is very clear. Be with your family. Nothing is more precious than your child and the time you spend with your family. You will find a way to make it work, God (or whatever higher power you choose to believe in) has a master plan and we must use our time on this earth to live our lives to the fullest. When you are an old man and your life is near its end, what will be important? Remembering how much money you made? Or your daughter's first laugh, whispers in the dark with your wife, being with your parents in their last days,- and being able to say you were there for it.
2006-12-05 00:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jobs come and go but your baby is yours she can't be replaced, your family should come first and foremost and I don't know your religious background if any but if you are religious you know that man doesn't determine your wealth. i worked about 10 dys out the month at $14 an hour for 6 months do you know that my rent, car note, kids, groceries, and fun items were always met I never wanted for anything and people were like how are you able to do that. because I believe in a higher power that guided me through the darkness. I pray for you to make the right decision and i pray for your daughter.
2006-12-05 00:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Fabulous Divaness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a leave of about a month and come back to India and try to train them to recieve their courage and handle things even without u.And later get back to ur job which makes u work comfortably. Dont ever forget to send the money they want for their living
2006-12-05 00:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by achu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your family is important. God will provide. He will not give you more that he think you can bare. So go be with your wife and child. I am sure your wife needs you to hold her and tell her that everything will be all right. All thought your baby is to young to understand a child can feel love. That is what she needs to feel as much love as she can to fight her for her life.
2006-12-05 00:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mr.,
If your going back to India can help for lifetime, you should go back . You have not told what actually is the problem. IF SHE CAN BE TREATED, YOU SHOULD LEAVE YOUR JOB. MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING. BEING A GOOD FATHER IS MORE IMPORTANT.
GOD BLESS HER
2006-12-05 00:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by harsh raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your family needs you right now. You wouldn't want to live with your self if something happened to your little baby daughter. Just pray to the Lord for help and Guidance. He will help provide. He is there for the asking. God be with you and your family.I willbe praying for your baby and your family. Please go back home. You are needed there for support.
2006-12-05 00:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THUNK THAT YOU NEED TO BE WITH YOUR WIFE AND
DAUGHTER. THEY COME FIRST. EVERYTHING ELSE WILL
HAVE TO WAIT. MONEY IS NOT AS IMPORTANT AS YOUR
FAMILY.
2006-12-05 00:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋