I"m depressed disillusioned at 27, is there anyway to turn happy?

Question

i'm depreessed and sad and i feel like a failure cause i kind of am:
-unemployed searching but not get hired
-i'm not good at speaking since i've been shy since age 5 and never changed.
-dn't have friends,
-have bunch of injuries and can't be normal anymore:
-feel hated by White america or anyone in america.. i'm hispanic
-feel hated by foreigners from asia and now i hate them back.. i studied some asian foreign language and have attempted alot to try to make friends, conversation partners etc and it seems they just love white people or Outgoing cocky people, since i'm a shyguy i feel hated also discriminated

So my question is...now that i feel like a total failure..how in the world can i change that? Is there any mental exercise that would work? i did therapy didn't work, i keep trying to make myself be happy, i am for a while then i go back to feeling like failure and useless

Answer 1

you are not a failure yet but if you keep doing what you are doing I think you will be a total looser.. Now get real. first you have to stop trying to be something you are not. take a long in-depth look at yourself and figure out who you really are.. once you do that then BE WHO you are.. you cannot make the world conform to you and you cannot make yourself what you think others want you to be.. just be yourself and do the things that make YOU happy.. as long as you are happy with your true self then people will accept or reject you based on who you truely are.. that has to be good enough.. take it or leave it. be yourself, you will find a place that fits.

Answer 2

It is going to take more than just what one person has to say here that is going to change everything. #1, being hispanic is not a bad thing. I understand that there is a lot going on with imigration and all that that can cause someone to feel hated. I am a white american that feels nothing but an open hand to anyone - native or what have you...you are NOT hated by whites. As for the rest of the ethnic groups in America - dont even worry about it. You are here. Do your best at what you want to follow...there are those of us that will support you and pat you on the back. Dont ever think you are useless. You are not. Just know you are not hated. Not at all. Like i said, I cant make you change your feelings all at one moment, butwould be more than happy to talk to you further about all this....

Answer 3

thank you for generalizing an entire population. you are racist. yes, you are racist. if you put the word black, Hispanic, etc in place of the word white or Asian, you would be called a racist. so, you are racist against white people.

well, if life were so simple, everyone would be happy. it takes a lot of work. you can't give up. also, medication can help you to get to the point where you can handle things. perhaps you had the wrong therapist for you the first time around. not every therapist is good. you might have to try a different one- or 5 until you find one who gets you & can help you. finding a new job will help you greatly. well, you have to work around your disabilities & find a job that will be do-able for you. it takes work. everything in life does.

often times when people get depressed they begin to think that the world is against you. it really isn't. most of the world is just as messed up. you are more normal than you think.

Answer 4

I agree with an answer before..........get in a good church......not just any church but one that you learn real Bible teaching from and a small group that you can feel close to. They can encourage and pray for you.

Also, find things often during the day that you can be thankful for . Get a book at the library or book store called The Power of Positive Thinking. Also, Zig Zigler is one of the most positive men I've heard if you can get some of his tapes.

Remember that one of Satan's greatest tools is Discouragement........it will really pull you down. It can be a daily battle. We have to really watch our thoughts.

Most people have some sort of problem in their lives. Maybe it's to help us grow spiritually, emotionally and hopefully end up a better person for what we experience. Best Wishes !

Answer 5

I've been in your shoes, and tried every kind of help, but the only thing that turned my life around was trying the bible and trying a church... start by reading some Psalms... they can pick your feeling up from any condition, and restore your soul, you'll feel like you're not the only one person in history who was in your situation, and assure you of support for your spirit, better times will come. Eventually you'll get over your resentment of other people, you'll have to start doing what seems ridiculous to you at this stage, try caring and respect instead of hating. Disregard those individuals who really are racist against hispanics, find white and asian people who are more kind, and don't treat them badly as the racist ones deserve. Your future will be better, you'll have friends, and spiritual support during hard times.

There was a book written by Dr. Joseph Murphy, who studied many religions and philosophies around the world, and wrote a book called " I Ching", He wrote paragraphs or short chapters on specific types of life challenges, using bible verses showed really encouraging, supportive, positive energy way to come through any situation winning. You should get a copy of it somehow, from used-book websites or stores (because it was discontinued, but its so good!). It pulled me through every kind of challenge, and made a great boost.

I'm a white man, and I care for you, I don't hate you. You can write with me buddy. ok ?

Answer 6

Believe me, I'm 29 and still feel like a failure. There is nothing wrong in being diff. It takes all sorts to make world, evrybody can't be the same. Just try to enhance your spirituality. I'm not sure which religion are you practicing? But it doesn't matter , find peace in God. I wish I was in US, so that we can be friends.

Answer 7

Several people have mentioned going to church. You can meet a bigger variety of people there who are more open to others. I would suggest trying a Spanish Mormon ward. Health problems are no fun, but you can always join a support group for people with similar issues and compare notes on how to get better.

Answer 8

Yeah joining a church would be good. You'll get to meet a lot of people who will be interested in making you feel "helped". Plus prayer puts in a lot of positive vibes.

Don't run after people to be friends with you; that makes you look needy. No one wants to be with a needy person.

Try to make friends with the shy folks like you. Most of them need friends like you and they don't judge you like the extroverts.

Which Asian language did you learn? I want to learn Chinese.

Mail me sometime at [e-mail] if you want a penpal.

Answer 9

Any change that comes has to come from within. You cannot overcome depression until you find it in yourself and either release it, or choose to live with it. You cannot love another until you love yourself. You cannot help another unless you help yourself first. You can be of no good to another, until you are good to yourself. and so on. and so on. Takes a deep inward journey to truly realize ones self. Get happy and comfortable with yourself, and all will fall into a perspective.

Answer 10

There was a man who ran out of gas and had to walk 5 miles to a gas station, He was madder than hell and downright pissed off.
There was another man with no legs who would have paid a million dollars to take that walk for him.