I don't know if I pregnant yet but people are telling me to get money form him. I don't want to do that to him. I still love him alot but he dose even now that I might be pregnant. I dont want him to worry about be. Plus he is 400 miles away. I don't want him to worry because last time we thought I was pregnant he was so worry about me going back home he wanted me to stay there. I just don't know what to do can you please help. {asap}
2006-12-04 15:59:51 · 15 answers · asked by katie h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you are pregnant with his child and he is not going to be active in the child's life and help you support the child, then yes i definitely think you should file to make him pay child support. it's only fair, plus you didn't get pregnant on your own so you shouldn't be expected to be your child's full provider. good luck girl :)
2006-12-04 16:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you can get money from him right now. However, once he baby is born, you might have to get a DNA test just to make sure that the child is his. Then you could take him to court to get child support when he turns 18. Or the court might order his parents to pay. It does not matter if it is an unplanned pregnacey or not. The court will look at the facts. This is not for you this is for the baby. Oh yeah by the way if you do this the court will grant him visitation. They will do this because they look out for the childs rights also.
2006-12-04 16:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get child support, it's not for you but the baby. If you don't keep it then no he won't have to pay, but I think now days he has to be told your giving it up.Children are not cheap it cost a lot to raise a child and every year it goes up. The support is to help get the child the things it needs, like food, clothes, a place to live, etc.
Hopefully you won't be pregnant though, I got pregnant at 16 and it's very hard to be a Mother, especially if your not grown and mature enough to make the right decisions.
Good Luck.
2006-12-04 16:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Find out if you are pregnant (buy a test)
2) If you are, of course he has to pay. Not to you, but to his child. If it is his, he should have an interest in its well being
3) If you are NOT pregnant, start using protection. Teenage parenting is just a horrible idea. Wait 5-10 years and get an education first.
2006-12-04 16:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the state laws. Most times you can't sue him for support until he is 19. Until then, you're a minor, and it's you parents' responsibility to support you and your child.
But check with a lawyer or legal aid for accurate informationi for where you live.
But quite frankly, you've got a maturity problem if you don't want money from him to support your child. And if you're pregnant, he should be worried.
And since you say "last time," he (and you) didn't learn from the last time, you both should be worried--about your own maturity.
2006-12-04 16:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about the child. A child needs a lot of things, and those cost money. If you have parents that will help, or money of your own, then you may not need the dad to pay, but otherwise you definitely will need it. You want clothes, safe place, good food, fun times with your child, so think of that when making your decision.
2006-12-04 16:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Julian A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First find out for sure if you're pregnant. If you are, definitely get child support from him. It's not fair that your parents pay for everything. Don't go to his house for money, go throught the court system so he can pay you every month like paying a bill.
2006-12-04 16:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop screwing and stay in school. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't listen to those people about the money. After you have a child, none of your money belongs to you anymore! You are now obligated to provide food, clothing, and shelter for another human being for at least 18 yrs. Talk to your family about the situation.
2006-12-04 16:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by immikko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first find out ok be sure !!! find a good support group to help in your area, sometimes dr offices can help with that..... then deside if you are ready to handle this k? i mean if he want help are you ready to raise a child? there are people out there that would love to adopt.... i had a child at 16 . 17 18 ..i have 3 kids and 9 grandbabies life is tough .... and hard on your own.. get a good support team., your family perhaps ,,,,or a good freind ..... take care and god bless
2006-12-04 16:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by sissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing- find out if you are actually pregnant.... if you are, you need to tell him and sit down to have a talk about what the future will be like... find out if he intends to step up and be a father or if you will have to use the legal system to make him take responsiblity for his actions.. child support is paid to the person who is raising the child
2006-12-04 16:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by cwing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋