A friend of mine drinks and smokes?

Question

and I guess you can say she hangs out with the wrong type of people I try to tell her to stop, but we only became friends this year what do I do?

it's more like drugs and stuff like that

she's between 13-15

Answer 1

She will do what she will do. Telling her to stop will only push her to do it more really.

I went through the same thing with my ex best friend of 16 years.

Be a friend and good influence; however, you have to allow her to amake her own mistakes. She knows right from wrong. She has enough education on her to know smoking, drinking and being around the wrong people is not good for her. If she gets too bad of an influence on you and you can't handle it anymore, then ease up on being around her to the point you will no longer be a friend.

Answer 2

By doing what's truly best for yourself, you can role-model what she needs to do.

Why Am I Drawn to the Wrong People?
- What Is Behind the Attraction?
- The Role of Family
- Other Influences
- The Power of Friendship
http://watchtower.org/e/20050722a/article_01.htm

How Can I Avoid Getting Involved With the Wrong People?
- What Kind of Friends Are Good?
- Friendships Among Fellow Christians
- Friendship With the Opposite Sex
http://watchtower.org/e/20050822/article_01.htm

How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends
- A Note to Parents
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm

Drug Abuse in the Family---What Can You Do? :
- Young People and Drugs
- How to Protect Your Children
- Soon---A Drug-Free World
http://watchtower.org/e/20030408/article_01.htm

We can't make others want to help themselves.
But sometimes we can show them that they truly are worth the effort. To that end, you might want to share these with her:

What Is Your Life Worth? ...
- Precious or Cheap?
- How Precious [Her Life Is!]
http://watchtower.org/e/20050201/article_01.htm

What Is the Purpose of Life?
How Can You Find It?
http://watchtower.org/e/pr/index.htm

Answer 3

well, i know this sucks, i deal with the same thing with my friends all the time.
If shes like 13-15 you should try to stop her because shes too young to get into that kind of stuff.
if shes 15+, theres not much you really can do about it, people in highschool are going to experiment, its perfectly natural.
I've both drank and smoked, i now find smoking to be absolutely one of the most vile things on the planet, but i still drink, and as long as shes not an extreme alcoholic, she should be fine.
The good thing is that you know who you are and where you stand on this issue. Congrats.

Answer 4

You can help the most by standing up for your beliefs... let her know that under no circumstances will you be joining her when she does these things, and that you expect that when she is with you hanging out, that she refrain from doing these things in your presence. When I was a teen, I did this with friends who were into this kind of stuff, and I stood my ground. They knew that if they wanted to hang out with me, that those were my guidelines. I never allowed anyone to change my opinion on my personal standards. You have to stand up for what you believe, and if that means that this person can no longer be a friend because they choose not to respect what you believe, then so be it. You want people around you who respect your opinion and who aren't leading you down a path you don't want to go down. Drinking and smoking and hanging out with the wrong crowd can take a person down a path of regret. My husband did all these things and more when he was younger, and now he sees the folly in those choices... it took him many years to get out of it, and the past still haunts him 10 years later. If she doesn't turn herself around with your help, walk away from the relationship. It isn't worth getting dragged into if the person isn't willing to change themselves. Good luck.

Answer 5

be above the influence, tell her the effects of this problem. Get some information from your counselor or the Internet and tell her why smoking isn't cool. If she retaliates then she has chosen her own life and you can't help it, but help her learn the way. Tell her the effects of smoking and drinking.

Answer 6

Report her to the police.

Answer 7

Who doesn't
everyone is smoking you should join in