My husband has just went through detox and I feel like I dont know hiim anymore He beed sober 24 days now should I give it more time before I start to worry I feel so unwanted because he is like a zombie?
2006-12-04 15:48:35 · 11 answers · asked by zack v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. It might be wise for you to attend an AA meeting with him. Apparently, he needs a great deal of support from you and everyone around him. Hang in there and help him every way you can. Please don't give up on him. He needs you right now, more than ever! My father-in-law was an alcoholic and it was very hard to be around him sometimes, but we all understood how hard this was for him. Best of luck to you both!
2006-12-04 16:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you didn't attend any of the meetings the detox facility held just so this kind of question could be answered. You need to join Al Anon, dear.
First, your husband will NEVER bee off 'alcoholism". He IS an alcoholic, and if he ever touches a drink again, he will relapse. Alcoholics are for life.
As long as he doesn't take that first drink, however, he can live a normal life.
Your husband should not be acting like a zombie; drying out from alcohol doesn't do that. maybe he had a zombie-like3 personality before he began drinking, and it was the alcohol that loosened him up and made him exciting?
Don't push him back there, hon!
I suspect that the detox facility put him on some meds, and it's the meds doing this. Check with his Doc. or the detox.
There's a chance that he got some illegal drugs at the same time he got out, and is still not clean. You have a lot of work to do, dear.
Do not allow this to slide by. Find Al-Anon, and get help NOW!
Blessings
2006-12-05 00:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both really need to undergo some therapy,he needs AA meetings so he can learn to deal with being sober and how to enjoy life in this state of sobriety, you need Alonon meetings to be around others who are family members of alcoholics so you can learn the adjustments as well as the mood swings and states of depression that he may go through. proud to hear he has under went detox, hope it lasts and things will get better but it does take time, and alcoholism is a disease not just a temporary illness,but you both can learn to live a sober life and enjoy it.Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-12-05 00:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not unusual. 24 days is no time at all, either. If he stays sober he will pass several crical points in the course of a year. It takes at least as long to get better as it did to get sick.
Contact ALANON for yourself Alcoholism is a family disease.
Alcoholics Anonymous has the best track record for people with long-term sobriety. If he is serious about staying off the booze, encourage him to attend meetings.
2006-12-05 00:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give him months to recover, he will become a better person because of it. Please attend his AA meetings with him and support him in decision to be clean and sober. Do not pressure him, he is dealing with his demons and needs you right now. When the smoke clears you it will be well worth the wait.
2006-12-04 23:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tonne B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 days is not very long. Start getting new family rituals going, like going to the movies instead of the bars. He may just not know what to do with himself.
2006-12-04 23:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you WON'T get back to "normal"! Your "normal" was seen through an alcoholic haze and your reaction to a drunk. You both have to work to become "grown-ups", fully independent and who chose to live with each other free of excuses, crutches and escape mechanisms. Good Luck!
PS. If he can't make it, cut him loose and stop trying to mother people.
2006-12-05 00:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes hun give it time. His body is in shock really right now. I used meth for 6 years been clean for 2 years now and my body still gets in shock. And now it is like I am learning who I am all over again it is very hard. Don't worry and be very supportive. If you need to talk to me you can e-mail me k good luck and please tell your husband I said congradulations and take it day by day step by step. He is gonna need all the support he can get. He is gonna have to find himself now with out the alcohol and it is very scarey for him right now.
2006-12-04 23:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody is ever "off alcoholism" Once you are an alcoholic you are always an alcoholic. Go to an alanon meeting.
2006-12-04 23:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by mary j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it ever does go back to "normal" thats one of those things that changes everything indefinitely....
2006-12-05 00:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋