he's verbly abusive,he breaks my things ,i do'nt have a social life and i'm so depressed,but we have a 3yrs old son together.and he wont let me work..
2006-12-04 15:40:04 · 28 answers · asked by jen j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you leave for the child's sake. You don't want your 3 year old growing up thinking that it is okay to act that way towards you and other women. You need to get out now, there are programs put into place to help women like you. If you are having trouble finding some place to help you get in touch with child and family services and they can help.
2006-12-04 15:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Moosha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bet you don't have a real good friend either do you cuz he won't allow it huh. That is because he is abusive and don't want you close to anyone. Get the hell away from him! Don't stay there with your son. It will be in the childs best interest to leave. The poor child don't need to see things like that. What if he beats on you sooner or later he will end up beating on the child. Leave him and give your son a happy calm life like he deserves. Stayen because of the child is a laime excuse.
2006-12-04 16:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is against the law-good thing they are your things-he would not break my things-do you think that is good for your son-get out-get out-get out now-next time he will try and break you-he will stop breaking your things and start beating on you are your son-why do you think he don't want you to work-he can control you if he can keep you inside of the house-he don't want you to have a social life-I bet he have a social life and he have friends-I know that they say love is blind but when will you have eye surgery or buy some eye glasses so that you can see that this is not love-he think that you are his possession-just like the pants he put on everyday-stop the abuse and stop it now-before you and your son get hurt or worse
2006-12-04 16:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people think staying together for the kids is best, but believe me, it's not. The stress of living in a house where the parents don't get along, argue, are abusive towards each other and the overall tension is constantly bad is worse on kids in the long run.
Pick yourself up, contact a shelter, church or family member to make arrangements for help and somewhere to go, then pack up you and your child and get out of there. There are plenty of programs to help you get on your feet and learn a skill or get into school to provide for you and your child without needing to subject yourself to being abused.
It won't be easy, but it'll be so much better for both you and your child in the long run.
2006-12-04 15:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Katasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No child does any more than the parent allows!
Parents should not accept:Back talk, ugly face, slam the door,
any kind of negative comment, or refusing to eat!
If you have to get a piece of that butt, get it! NEVER change your rule! It is either NOW, or you can forget it at age 10!
Be nice, take a toy at first! After the third toy, take the child to a neighbor, and have to child give the toy away! That goes for arguing or fighting over what ever!
Can't keep the room clean? throw the stuff out! Computer, Games, TV what ever. Ugly face or fat mouth, take clothes way,
bed, sleep on the floor!
Act human, get rewarded like a family member!
No TV on school days, not out door activity until room,, homework
is as YOU want it to be!
Ole enough, give bathroom as weekly cleaning project. Shower, tiles, windows, mirrors, toilet, floor everything!
Its now or never!
Who is raising whom? Who is the parent!
2006-12-04 16:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse because it involves emotional and psychological abuse--all of which your child is picking up on. If you do not want your son to become the man your abuser is, seriously consider leaving. See if you can contact a women's abuse group to help--they know all the ways a woman can be abused, how to legally protect you, what your options are and they will have connections how to restart your life. Just remember, your abuser may be abusing just you right now but as your child gets older and starts to be a threat (or whatever) to your abuser, the abuser will turn on the child too--and do you really want that to happen?
2006-12-04 15:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a child from a very abusive marriage. When Mom and Dad finally got divorced, I was really sad and cried -- that was when I was still in elementary school. As I grew older and more I understood what kind of relationship they had, I just wished they got divorced a long time ago! I know they stayed for my sister and me, but it was more glad to see them happier separately, than they wasting time on something that was not working out.
2006-12-04 15:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey , if you have tried everything you know including counseling then don't put your self in danger or your child, and don't stay miserable because you have a child, if you choose to leave that is acceptable but after that you and the husband need to work on being allies as parents for the child,just because you two as grown adults can't get along doesn't mean the child has to suffer' you both are still parents and need to act accordingly.
2006-12-04 16:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with eveyone else leave the prick he doesn't deserve you and you need some time for youself like a job or hobby or sporting activity .Staying together for the sake of a child never works that is just emotional blackmail move out now !!
2006-12-04 15:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not healthy for you or your child to stay in an abusive relationship. You will be better off alone than with someone who verbally abuses you. You are not setting a good example for your son.
2006-12-04 15:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋