i want to kill myself is my reason valid, enough?

Question

im so sad, i have friends, but i dont know no one seems to know and care of who i really am
i have been called weird and all of those things because i tend to break the rules like i did not take up nursing eventhough it would pay me a lot of money, i took philosophy because i wanted to learn about life, i have no boyfriend at all because i dont want to make myself sexy or beautiful or glamorous i want to be plain and be appreciated for who i am exactly, i cant talk to someone and really feel that they are concerned for me, not even my siblings, they dont practically listen to me they are pre occupied with their own lives, i have always wanted to be unique but being unique is really very hard, i listen to reggae and my friends listen to pop, i read tons of books and all they want to do is go to the mall, i dont know if i can relate to anybody, i feel alone, not needed, and no one in this world specifically sees me as someone that makes their life complete,
should i kill myself?

Answer 1

Philosophical Analysis of Your Text:

>>1. im so sad

Every species of life experiences sadness. Not a valid reason.

>>2. i have friends, but i dont know no one seems to know and care of who i really am.

99.9% of people doen't even care to know who they are, what to speak of you. Not a valid reason.

>>3. i have been called weird and all of those things

Everyone has been insulted at sometime in their life...even the Pope and the King of England. Not a valid reason.

4. i tend to break the rules like i did not take up nursing eventhough it would pay me a lot of money, i took philosophy because i wanted to learn about life,

Philosophy is not breaking the rules. It is a valid career path offered in almost every university. Wanting to learn about life makes you introspective, intelligent, rare, valuable, special in God's eyes, and the kind of person I only aassociate with. Not a valid reason.

5. i have no boyfriend at all because i dont want to make myself sexy or beautiful or glamorous i want to be plain and be appreciated for who i am exactly,

Who you are exactly is either you without anything artificial (your baby suit) or as you wish to present yourself. You are choosing plain. There are boys who value and like plain (not as many perhaps, but they are there---plain is a style, as much as black is a color). So not a reason not to have a bf or to take one's life.

6. i cant talk to someone and really feel that they are concerned for me, not even my siblings, they dont practically listen to me they are pre occupied with their own lives,

This is a perception you have that should be challenged. It may be true that your siblings are selfish, immature and self-occupied, but it is doubtful there are not people in this world concerned about you (you just found about 100 of them here on Yahoo, plus there are others). You may be highly perceptive and are not detecting pure concern in your associates, or maybe you are jaded and being pessimistic. In any case, pray to God for good association. You will get it. Not having it/seeing it is not a good reason.

7. i have always wanted to be unique but being unique is really very hard, i listen to reggae and my friends listen to pop, i read tons of books and all they want to do is go to the mall,

You have always wanted to be unique or be "yourself" and what you want to be to be happy? Unique for the sake of unique is not going to satisfy you. Being yourself and doing what makes you happy, if it is unique or not, is what you should be after. Pursuing your dreams is not a valid reason to end it all.

8. i dont know if i can relate to anybody,

Well lots of people are relating to you here. You just need access to like minded people. If you hang out with my circle you will feel that you are just like everyone else and normal. It is all relative perception. Surround yourself with good people like yourself. "It's hard to fly like an eagle when your running with turkeys!" ;) Form a club/org of your interests or join one. Doubting your ability to relate to others is not a reason.

9. i feel alone,

You are never alone. God is always with you. You just dont realize that yet. "Lord I looked back in my life across the path that I tread and I realized a fault in You...from the beginning there were always two sets of footprints, yet in my darkest hour and time of need I only saw one set of footprints....how my Lord could you abandon me then?"

The answer (God's)... "My child, that was the time when I was carrying you,"

This is only true.

10. not needed,

There are at least 10,000 guys in this world who are thinking like you who would fall in love with you at first sight and thank God for meeting you.

There are at least 5 billion people in this world who don't give a damn about who they are, who you are, or who I am, and who need philosophical guidance and insight. Your mission is to help them. They need you, but htey don't know they need you. They will thank you later.

You are needed. No reason here for ending it.

11. and no one in this world specifically sees me as someone that makes their life complete,

Mayne not yet, but I suspect you didnt answer my IM yet because you are being flooded with responses from guys who you impressed and who may someday fulfill this requirement of yours.

Every guy loves a damsel in distress. I don't see how you could remain single by posting this question every hour on the hour for 10 days in a row! Be patient here and let the process (of marketing) takes its effect. :) Again, no reason to end it.


should i kill myself?

The answer is NO.
Best of Luck to You.

Answer 2

Firstly, are u a girl and r u PMSing? because I go through this once a month.

A reggae book-loving friend with no BF who hates the mall and whose siblings don't listen to them! Right with you there.


If you are serious, please don't kill yourself. What would u be proving?
If you are pulling my leg, that really isn't very funny.

There's a really good movie about suicide that I saw just the other day. It's about a man who, at 20, was paralized from the neck down. By 60, he was fed up with not being able to do anything for himself but cannot move and therefore cannot kill himself, so he petitions for the government to help him but they refuse. You should watch it. Or just a few hours of Eddie Izzard and Monty python with some chocolate ice cream to cheer you up.

Being unique is HARD WORK. and the point of being unique is not always fitting in, which means you will not always be accepted or liked but that's OK.


believe me. I am a british girly living in california and have no hair. I stand out like a sore thumb and people normally treat me like one.


But if you work through this you will be a better person. And people do care about you. think about how much pain you will cause them if you kill yourself.

Answer 3

I don't want to give you the whole life is worth living speech cause when it comes down to it it really isn't but you don't have a valid reason for killing your self so back away from the hemlock if it is like mindedness you seek you most likely won't find it people like us that prefer wisdom over the right now thrill and the mundane existence tend to never meet each other why because we don't go anywhere I can tell you this i killed myself once and i came back i didn't see anything or feel better about my self i just was glad to be alive don't care about others i don't i got rid of those friends that made me feel that way and i am all the better for it if you want to i will talk to you you can contact me on myspace.com/deadfurrykittens if you do let me know where i know you from so that i can be serious with you i only use that thing as a joke

Answer 4

Everyone says that suicide is selfish but if you really think about it, all human motivation is selfish. People do nice things for each other because it makes them feel good. Wanting to die is not necessarily any let meritous than wanting to live a good and happy life. The action itself raises different levels of selfishness.

I think you know that the answer to this question is no. You just need to find new friends who you have more in common with. That might help. Also, no one should ever make anyone's life complete. Wholeness is found within yourself. This is a common misconception that society holds. We all walk around clinging to others with the feeling that we are not whole without another person to fill the void. When they fail, we feel miserable. Work on perfecting YOU and you won't have to worry about what others think. You will naturally attract others who admire you because you are so "together."

Answer 5

The only differences in our lives is that I took up nursing and I don't have any siblings. And the fact that you're even asking if your reasons are valid should tell you that you SHOULD not kill yourself. Having no boyfriend isn't the end of the world, even if I tell you that it feels like it. Especially if the one you love likes your best friend. Having no one to talk to sucks yeah, but only because you haven't met the person who WILL listen to you. I will. I will try. It really hurts when you think no one cares for you but as I read your post, I felt like I was reading about MY life.

This is my email add: [e-mail]
Leave me a message and let's talk (or email). Just...don't give up yet.

Answer 6

First of all, how old are you? You sound quite young. Second, my personal belief on suicide is that it is not a valid solution to your problems unless your life is filled with unbearable physical pain and you are going to die from a disease soon anyway. I look it like this; in this life humans have inflicted and endured many horrible and beautiful things. Can you honestly say that you can't just change your situation or walk away? I know life may seem unbearable but sometimes you just need a new perspective. Think about people who endured concentration camps and slavery but did not kill themselves. You are just as strong as they are. All you have to do is not quit. Don't kill yourself. If you don't like your situation change it. If you don't like your friends, get new ones. The world is big enough for all different types and people are not that unique so instead of trying to be different or fit in just be you and seek out those who do appreciate you. If you want more friends join an on-line community like myspace or friendster. There you can express yourself openly and find people who are into what you like. People can be cruel but people can be beautiful as well. Just change your perspective.

Answer 7

Most of my life has been pain,but as long as there is a tomorrow there is hope for something better.
I cant tell you how you should feel,but I can tell you what I do know.I can tell you about me and hope it will help,And I really do hope it will help.
This time of year has been a painful time for me,now I manage by feeling numb that may not be good but it is a great improvement,and I know it will pass.
I am 50 and when I was 48 I lost my wife whom I spent 24 years with to cancer.You do not have to give up hope for a better future because you hurt today.I know how it feels to be alone.If you need to talk you can talk to me,email your number and I will call.
You don't want to die.you just want reasons to go on.That is why you ask this question.Life is worthwhile even when it is hard.
Earlier I may have had a typo on my email address it is
[e-mail]
With Love
Fred

Answer 8

No reason is ever good enough to end your life. We have all been it that spot a time or two. I know I have. The thing that has helped is just believing in myself and not caring what others thought. A dog came into my life really unexpectedly and she has been the only friend I have been able to count on. There are always people out there to talk to. Call a friend and tell them where you are at in life, hot lines and counselors. Please don't put yourself out there like this and then go end life. Everyone is here for a reason maybe you have not found it yet.

Answer 9

That is not a valid reason. Hell, if anything, you should continue to live. Don't listen to your friends because they conform to the norm. It's the people who think outside the box who thrive. Look at Bill Gates. Everybody thought he was nuts when he quit IBM to start up Microsoft and look at where he is now. He's CRUSHING his former employer.

I went through the same thing when I was in high school. Just remember that the people you know who are the total opposite of you will be asking you, "Do you want fries with that?" later on in life.

Oh, and by the way, you are going in the right direction with the whole looking plain thing. A lot of my dude friends agree with me that there is way too much glamour and a fake definition of beauty portrayed by the media. Plain, no make-up, all natural is definitely sexy. If we guys wanted a mascaraed, silicone girl with no personality and brains, we'd jerk off to the tv.

Bottom line: DON'T kill yourself. Things will start looking better in the long run.

Just got one more thing to add. The only people who should commit suicide are drunk drivers and pedophiles.

Answer 10

Aning

The biggest obstacle that people like you (I know from experience) have to realize is that you are O.K!

You want the World to be a better place, but you feel like people are not listening to you, when you are desperate to make it so!

You are very unique because you have a "specific" purpose in life that MUST be fulfilled. Whatever path you choose IS the correct one because on some level within yourself, you chose because you know that the ending will be for the best and you because you are willing to sacrifice yourself for it, which is the best way to live life (ask Jesus Christ...THE greatest human to live on Earth).

You could have lived your life as a "superficial" person like your friends, but you refused to because you want to be GREAT in life....There is nothing wrong with being this way!

Trust me.....You are doing better than you think you are!

Biotech Boy Rule #1....NEVER let the World beat you!...You ARE the best!

Answer 11

The answer is no, you shouldnt!! But what your saying does sound framiler, i feel that way almost every day. With a few changes it could be a letter from me.

One thing that stood out was that you say you don't want to dress up nice or make yourself look nice because you want to be apprecited for yourself. I feel the same way but i try to look nice to show the person i wam with that i care about myself and i try to look nice for me.

Also could your expectations or requirements be too high? do you listen to your siblings or friends when they have problems? I've dated girls who didn't care a damm about me but expected me to listen to them constantly. Noone is perfect and every relationship has it's give and takes. I dated a girl reciently who was the sweeteast girl in the world but she couldnt resist a guy who flirted with her. I took it as long as i could and still love her and are friends with her but we are not togather.

There are guys out there how appreciate different girls, the girls who aren't afraid of what others think, the girls who maybe even like to rock the boat sometimes and be completely diffferent. You don't say how old you are but i can tell your more mature than your average college student, and i'm guessing thats you. Hang in there. Tonight you might be alone but just look around and i'll bet you'll find lots of guys who would love to get to know an adventurous girl like you. Email me if you want.