I am a 25 year old male and my fiancee is 22. I like to have sex a lot more than she does, and this starts arguements many times. What can I do?
2006-12-04 15:32:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump the prude. If this is how she is at 22, imagine her at 42.
2006-12-04 15:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she work? Stay home with kids? Maybe she's tired after each day. Try helping her out some with housework or other things that make her tired. Make sure you compliment her a lot, treat her like a princess, make sure she knows she's special to you and not being taken for granted. If she's working or going to school full time, and having to do all of the housework, cooking and tending kids if she has any, sex is the last thing she's going to want by the end of each day. But if you help take some of that pressure off, it lets her relax more. Don't try to push her, or make her feel obligated, both can cause a lot of problems down the road.
Have you tried just sitting down with her and asking her?
2006-12-04 15:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by Katasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to get any better after marriage, pal. In fact, it will probably get worse.
You two really need to sit down and have a very serious and open discussion about this.
Is it *just* frequency that she objects to? Then you can probably agree on an *approximate* number in a week or 2 weeks that both are happy with.
Something tells me it is more than that, however. It might be she doesn't want to do some of the things you want to. Get this all out in the open. You have to ask tough or "embarrassing" questions now to avoid grief later. Anal? Porn? Toys? What is it you want that makes her uptight? Find out now or spend a few decades regretting it.
Get it all out now - and it might be that you to have to rethink marriage - because sexual incompatibility is not something you cure. There are temporary truces but no winners in that war.
2006-12-04 16:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Romance leads to sex. You got to do the little things too. Girls like trinkets, romantic walks/talks, bubble baths, back rubs, flowers...not all at one time just something small twice a week maybe and be consistent.
Watch sexy movies together...not straight porn, but the more romantic softer sex movies.
Is your girlfriend also working full time or in school full time, working part time, helping family etc? Girls juggling many things are tired at the end of the day. Remember this, hence the back/foot rubs & bubble baths. This also shows you care...we love guys that care. Romance usually leads to sex. Good luck.
2006-12-04 15:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by moddfemm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this woman. This is a huge issue and you would do very well to find someone you are more compatable with. It is bad enough when women lose a drive they once had (very common after childbirth) but to go into this knowing what you do will make this your bad. This is a gigantic red flag. Heed it and thank god you discovered this before you were legally obligated to her.
2006-12-05 08:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro, just talk some sense to her. Explain to her what your needs are and as a couple she has to fullfill that and vise versa. Also take into account what's making her not wanting sex because the pills actually does something to her sexual appetite.
2006-12-04 15:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Macky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should come to a mutual agreement as soon as possible and not allow the act of sex to rule your love for each other. If you need more then maybe you should consider masturbation every so often.
2006-12-04 15:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by supressdesires 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to be more understanding. You might have to hold it off a little more but she also needs to step it up and do more for you. Even if it's not sex sex she could at least give you a hj or something.
2006-12-04 15:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by TNT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I agree with katasha in addition to helping with the things that make her tired dont ask for it so much she already knows youre thinking about it try asking can you just please her without having sex shell be happy that you are sensitive to her needs and it will put her in the mood after she cums say good night she she'll make the move for more
2006-12-04 15:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be partly that she has some inhibitions because you are not married? I'm just guessing here. If it's not that, then you just aren't thrilling her enough to keep her coming for more. Try thinking about her needs a lot more.... take her to the limits with orgasms.... and she'll come around.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-04 15:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋