I got the attitude now that just says I don't care about very much stuff anymore. I just want an easy job. I'm not worried about career advancement. I don't care if I have trophy wife. I already got a baby and a wife, so I don't care much about that. All I'm really set on doing is doing a pretty easy job and just supporting the wife and kid. Drive to succeed? Motivation to get ahead? Career advancement to make more money? Look, I just hope my wife and kid get well fed and the kid gets well educated and I don't have to work too hard to do it.
Is it me who is suffering from lack of motivation or is success really overrated?
2006-12-04 15:08:08 · 13 answers · asked by manna eater 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Read this and be happy
I am not sure who wrote it
The MBA and the Mexican Fisherman
An American businessman was at a pier in a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow-fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.
The Mexican replied only a little while.
The American then asked why didn't he stay out longer and catch more fish?
The Mexican said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs. The American then asked the Mexican how he spent the rest of his time.
The Mexican fisherman said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senor."
The American scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and, with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution.
"You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise."
The Mexican fisherman asked, "But senor, how long will this all take?"
The American replied, "15-20 years."
"But what then, senor?" asked the Mexican.
The American laughed, and said, "That's the best part! When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public. You’ll become very rich, you would make millions!"
"Millions, senor?" replied the Mexican. "Then what?"
The American said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos."
2006-12-04 15:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, it sounds like you are depressed. My guess is your life is not what you expected so far, so it is starting to be ok to just give up hope. Don't do that. Without goals, life sucks. People need to have goals to look forward to, to be able to get thru the hard parts of life. My advice? Sit down and make a list with two columns. One side, list all the things you expect to happen if you don't try. The other, all the possibilities that could happen if you put forth reaonable effort. Which side do you want to live in? Also keep in mind the example you are setting for your kids, because they will be just like you. Do you want them to admire and respect you or think you are a lazy *** who doesn't care enough about them to give it your best shot? If you need to go get some help, as in counseling or talking online, you should take advantage of it since we all need help at some time or another. Also your wife needs to be on the same page--you may need couples counseling as well. You may be feeling this way due to the way she is acting and the responsibility of being a new parent...you may feel overwhelmed as we all do once in a while, so try to figure out how to take pressure off yourself without going to the extreme and giving up your goals. Give yourself a break and then get on with it--you'll be allright if you take care of you first, then your wife, and the two of you then take care of the family. Count your blessings and when you start looking around at those who don't have limbs, or food or shelter, or freedom, etc....life starts looking pretty good after all.
2006-12-04 15:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by the critic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has ever explained to me the elements of success.
My income used to be in the top 10%, but my peers did not feel successful nor satisfied. They strove for more and I followed them.
One day I stopped, though not soon enough. I now have heart problems and illnesses related to prolonged mental stress.
Success is overrated if you cannot tell when you're there or when the rewards do not make up for the negative effects along the way.
I wished I had decided to stop caring before my health was compromised.
2006-12-04 15:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Success is realtive. It's not ok for you because you aren't ok with it. You wouldn't ask if you were. You must be cut out for more than the daily grind. Your responiblites and daily pressure make you want to give in and be a willing or uncaring part of the rat race. But inside you there is still a part of you saying get me off the **** hamster wheel. I don't like sheep. I admire their lack of drive because it seems peaceful, but I don't respect them. You I like, you are no sheep. No matter how much you wish you were.
2006-12-04 15:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you've reache a plateau of contentment, note I didn't say happiness. You've succesfully had all of the levels of self-actualization completed, found love, acceptance, provided for your own safety, and you're happy with your level of status. There's really not much left after that, so yeah, it's probably ok if you just up and decide that you're just not going to care about anything else besides the people who mean the world to you are taken care of.
Good Luck.
2006-12-04 15:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound overworked and under appreciated...Take a vacation and clear your head before this gets worse.
It's ok as it is a part of moving forward but it is not okay to stay there!
Best wishes and go do something you enjoy!
2006-12-04 15:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not imagine that's undesirable in any respect, absolutely it!/ type of an outstanding element b/c that's saying that you're taking off to believe without all that, and plus makeup and hairspray are literally not good fur you in any respect so that's good your no longer utilising them anymore, i do not try this stuff both, i imagine you should keep doing it......
2016-10-16 11:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE COMING FROM WHERE I AM COMING FROM IT ALL DEALS WITH YOU AND WHAT YOU ARE WILLING TO ACCEPT FOR YOUR LIFE ME I AM HAPPY WITH THE BASICS FOOD,CLOTHES,SHELTER AND HEALTH I DONT HAVE ANYTHING BUT I WOULD LIKE TO BE SUCCESSFUL AT LEAST FOR THE KIDS SAKE BECAUSE JUST BECAUSE I AM CONTENT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THAT IS WHAT THEY WANT FOR THEIR LIFE BUT IF YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN ARE HAPPY WITH JUST GETTIN BY THAN I GUESS YOU ALRIGHT GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-04 15:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by yousexythangyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like middle age is setting in.
2006-12-04 15:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by kyle.keyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i fell the exact same way... of course i don't have a wife or a kid but thats pretty much all i look forward to....
SUCESS is definetly overrated.... i mean sucess?? by who's standards...
2006-12-04 15:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by jonas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋