me and my partner of 5years have just discovered that i am pregnant again for the 2nd time. we already have a 3year old, she is so well behaved and perfect!
but i just keep thinking that it means that we will have to move, and our money situation isnt exactly brilliant to say the least! i also keep thinking that i dont want my daughter to have to go with out certain things because we will have another peson to support, and also to be unable to give her the attention we can now.
the worst thing is the baby was not so much planned but sloppy contraception, we didnt mind if it did happen. but i changed my mind then found out i was pregnant.
my partner agrees with me, and says he'll support me either way.
its stating to get too late for an abortion as i am 10 weeks gone already, so need to decide fast, also everyone is aware that i am pregnant, and thinks its a great thing, what would we tell them all if ii was to go ahead and have an abortion?
2006-12-04 14:51:48 · 27 answers · asked by lucy h 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
honestly, it's truely your decision but i think you'll be okay if you have the baby. plus, you wouldn't really need to buy much because you'll have stuff already because your 3 year old right? like a crib and stuff like that. but think about what's best for you. and how you'll react after giving the baby up. it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks if you do end up having an abortion just as long as you choose what's best for you that's all that counts. good luck with everything. hope this helps
2006-12-04 14:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off im sure that your daughter will be so happy when you tell her that she has a baby brother/sister coming .Im sure that she will look foward to being a big sister and will help you with the baby so a knew addition will not take attention away from your 1rst child beacuse the two of you will spend time together with the lil one.. secondly just as long as your daughter has the neccesaties then nothin else should matter.. I believe that all things happen for a reason even if this lil one that is on the way wasent planned he/she may be a blessing in disguise.. god had his reasons for givin you this lil gift ..so really think about it before you decide to have an abortion.I would also advise you to talk to freinds, family and your doctor before you decide to have an abortion..beacuse an abortion can affects a person not only physically but also mentally...so talk to people and get all the information that you need before you make such a huge decsion..way your options...
2006-12-04 23:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dulce Nena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always a difficult time when you have to change your plans, your life for a child. I am a single mother with one child who is almost 5. I was engaged at the beginning of this year but it didn't work out and a week after he left the country I found out I was pregnant. This had been the plan (to have a child right away), but as it turned out I am now 40 weeks pregnant and about to raise another daughter alone. I had HUGE plans for myself, my career, my daughter, travel, etc, etc, etc and ALL of them have either had to be postponed or cancelled. It's been really really difficult (esp since the father has not been supportive at all, and probably won't throughout her life, leaving the financial responsibility entirely to me) but I know in the long run keeping the baby won't be a mistake. My oldest daughter will have a sister, I'll have another wonderful child to care for. I do believe everything happens for a reason, that reason isn't always obvious for a while after the fact, however.
If you keep this child there will be difficult times, but you will never regret it.
Best wishes and good luck.
2006-12-04 23:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by FionaKiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please take into consideration that this IS a human life that you are talking about aborting, it was not this childs fault that you had "sloppy contraceptives" and now that you are pregnant the only people you are thinking of is yourselves, this is a living human being with a heartbeat and all you are almost in your third month of pregnancy. I think an abortion right now would be the most horrible thing to do, people are going to want to know what happened with your pregnancy and then the whole thing turns into one huge lie. This is not something that should be posted in a forum for women who are HAPPILY pregnant, or are stressfully trying to conceive. Why can't you just give this baby a chance to live his/her life and own up to your mistakes and accept the fact that you have been BLESSED with a miracle from God and now you want to kill it. Ugh I don't know what else to say but if you didn't want to have a baby then maybe you should have been more careful and made sure that you would be able to accept it if you got pregnant which now you are, I don't know why someone would want to get an abortion, you will learn to adapt to having another baby, and you will learn to share your time between both of your children. PLEASE GIVE THIS BABY A CHANCE AT LIFE. That is the least you can do, don't kill this baby over a decision that YOU made. I do however wish you the best of luck and hope that you pick the decision that you would be most comfortable with, this is just my opinion and now that i have voiced it I am done.
2006-12-04 22:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Lace ~ 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Hi! Congratulations on being pregnant! I just want to encourage you that
A) The new sibling may be the greatest gift you can give your daughter--and it may be the most amazing gift God gives you too! God has amazing ways of bringing a new person into the world, and blessing those around them is ways we never expected. Never underestimate the fact that you and your partner created this child for a reason--he or she has a place in this world, and a destiny!
B) Even if you ultimatley decide not to keep the baby, your choice to place the child for adoption into a loving home could be the most selfless act you ever make. It would take great strength and courage, but would be very rewarding. There are so many couples waiting to adopt.
God bless. ~Ruth
2006-12-04 22:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by heyruthie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, i know that your troubled about this. i want to share this with you. I had an abortion when i was 19. Everyday of my life i wake up with regret.
There will always be an empty place in my heart, a void that i can never fill. I understand that it is a financial struggle with one child and having another one will be even harder. But you've had your child, you know how precious life of that child has been to you and what she has meant to you. Can you deny yourself the chance of having that happiness again? sure your 3 yr old maybe a little jealous at first then again she may be excited to have a brother or sister around, but you just have to show her that she means just as much to you. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but i did want to share with you that life means so much more to me than it did when i was 19 and i've had to live with my mistake for 10 years now, and it doesn't get any easier. there will always be a void there. I wish you good luck and try to remember that God doesn't give you more than you can handle and that there is a purpose for that child even if you don't recognize what it is at the moment.
2006-12-04 23:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by mac15 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please keep the baby. I know time, money, and resources will be tight with another mouth to feed, but there's a reason you were given this baby. I also know it's normal to have conflicting feelings about this. You're so blessed to have a partner who's not pushing you to make a decision either way. I'm not going to preach about abortion or adoption, but I will say this; as soon as you look in that beautiful baby's eyes when its delivered, all those mixed feelings will melt away and you will find a way to create a beautiful life for your whole family. Please keep this little one. S/he is more of a gift than you know. I only hope enough people speak up about this to help you make a good decision. Please let us know what you decide, ok? Have a good evening!
2006-12-04 23:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had an abortion 1 time and it was the worst thing I ever did.
But I know how you feel I had a daughter and she was about 10 months old when I found out I was expecting agan.I was sad,angry,confused.But I am so happy I did have her a sister now the older one is 2 years old and the baby is 9 months old they play together and it is so cute.I would really give it some thought.If I could take the abortion back I would.
2006-12-04 23:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by billieleann78 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't have an abortion. Just look at your little daughter the one you have now and picture her being ripped apart. That's how this new baby would be and feel if you go through with it. Don't let people lie to you and tell you that fetus's (baby's to me) don't feel pain inside the womb because it is a KNOWN fact that they do feel pain. Have this baby and at least put it up for adoption. But i bet once you see the baby for the first time you'll wonder how you could have ever thought to abort her/him. And i bet your daughter would love a sibling. So please at least give this child a chance. Hell I'll even take custody of the child if you don't abort it.
2006-12-04 22:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has already said it, but I stress: If you don't want the baby, please, please, PLEASE do not haven an abortion, at least consider adoption as an option. I have had friends in HIGH SCHOOL who have gone through with having a baby, and it was very humiliation for them, but rather than abort, they gave the baby up for adoption.
You already have a child and no one is looking down on you for being pregnant. What do you have to lose by letting the child live? No one will think less of you. But if you get an abortion, however, THAT might take some explaining.
2006-12-04 23:09:36 · answer #10 · answered by cocoxnznz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋