What should i tell her.....?? People 18+ only?

Question

My best friend came to me looking for advice and crying she told me
that she might have of been molested she said that she does not remember but what she remeber's is that the guy who lived at the house she believes it happend at, had possibly done it to her sister. All she remembers is falling a sleep with a guy next to her after drinking water she like dont remeber much she is in 10 grade and she wood have been only a few years old she cant actually remember it happening theo
she dont know what to do and i am the only one she has ever told...I dont know what to tell her to do! So i am asking you!?
Please help me so I know what to tell her!

Answer 1

- I think the best way is you to do the first step, YOU go talk with her mother. After that, they will decide what's the best for her. Good luck.

Answer 2

This is a tricky situation, and honestly you are best to stay out of it. Without knowing anything about your friend's situation all those years ago you have no way to know the truth. You friend could be having a genuine memory or could possibly be acting out toward something in her current situation.

Your best course is to encourage her to seek professional counseling, preferrably with a *psychologist* (someone with a PhD) not a psychiatrist (someone with an MD or a medical doctor). The psychologist will be someone trained in various method of talk therapy and can help your friend sort things out. You will need to reassure her that there is not shame in seeing such professionals; visiting a psychologist does not make one defective, pathethic or crazy.

If she refuses to go then all you can do is try to rationally decide if continuing your friendship with someone with such large issues is in your long-term best interest.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Reporting to the police is a great idea if it happened recently. I think talking to the parents is a best bet, but she did come to you in trust. I think if there is a real chance that you maybe able to find out who it is, the approach the police. But then again, remember that you have to factor in the feelings of the kid. Its a touch decision to make. But brining in more people will give you more options. Try not to make this about her, and reassure her that it isnt her fault and that what the guy did was terrible.

Answer 4

Get a doctor to check her out. Not long ago, a girl started talking about the man next door touching her. The father ended up killing the guy and it turned out the girl was never touched. Now the father i sbeing tried for murder.

Whatever you do have an open mind and make sure you find the truth.

Answer 5

If it were 18 and up, you'd expect the spelling to be 18 and up too.

edit: o yes, the answer, almost forgot. Police come nifty in these situations, the police are the only ones to stop this monster.

Answer 6

First off you need to persuade her to talk to an adult about it, maybe her parents or a teacher. Someone that she knows and that she trusts. And if she wont do that then talk to your parents about it. They are older and wiser about situations and how to handle them. Make sure something is done. I'm sure your friend is going through hell right now and something should be done!!

Answer 7

she really needs to speak to some one, she needs to be questioned by the right people to tap in to what really happened, with out other people influencing her thoughts if she can't talk to her own parents can she talk to yours?
I can relate to this a little and the memory does stay with you many years later
wish here luck and go help her

Answer 8

So she thinks she was molested as a child, but isn't sure? If so, then she needs counseling, from someone trained in dealing with childhood molestation cases.

Answer 9

if she knows the guy she thinks it was she needs to tell someone because something needs to be done what if he's out doing that to other little girls?

Answer 10

Tell her to talk to her parents and the police.