How do i deal with my husband, he is so angry cause my stepdads brother is treatning to sue me and im 7 weeks pregnant and hubby dont want a kid, and we barely make enough money to live off of right now. I want the kid, but im scared to stand up to him, he keeps pressuring me to get an abortion and says i will r uin his life, and said he would jump off a cliff.
2006-12-04 14:46:22 · 19 answers · asked by JB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said that he would jump off a cliff-tell him to help his self-the baby you are carrying did not ask you are him to come into this world,nor did this baby ask you two to be his parents-if you want this baby and he don't tell him next time to keep a tight rain on the zipper on his pants- you play-you pay-if God gave you this child he will help you take care of this baby-husband are no husband-you have to make a decision-which one is more important your baby are your husband-tell him that if he jump off a cliff that you and the baby can collect his Social Security and live a very good life-wave at him as he jump-stand on the ground and wave-as long as you don't give in to him demands he will continue to whine and whipper like a little kid-What are you scared of-you are his wife not his kid-there are to many ways and avenues for you today-so why are you scared of him-talk up for yourself-you now have two people to worry about-time to grow up-he is a man,not a God.
2006-12-04 23:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say the only thing I know to say, and that is to the hubby that is wanting you to have an abortion is an a** and you should leave him cause you can do better. And the other part, I don't get, but I'll try, find a lawyer if anyoner is trying to sue you thats what to do cause they will point you in the right direction. Good luck Girl!!!
2006-12-04 23:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by bigdaddy052171@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why end a childs life, he was there when you became pregnant it is his responsabilty to have prevented it in the first place. he should not be putting this pressure on you right now when so many things seem stacked against you. tell him that if he feels like he can not be counted on to be there for his wife and thier baby then he should make that decision now but that he married you for better or worse so on and so forth and he has the responsability to do everything he can to see you through this as a man and as your husband. you dont say why you are being threatened with a lawsuit but it doesnt apprear to me like aborting a baby is going to change anything about that. you both need to sit down and decide what it is going to take to make your money situation better. but alot of people are in the same boat and if we all just ran from our problems when things got tough then we would never learn to make things better. Good luck and god bless
2006-12-04 22:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tim C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there before unfortunately with my own hubby. I now have three children. I chose not listen to him because that is not how you handle mistakes or things in general. I did tell him that. It takes two in this type of situation and you obvisously did not get yourself pregnant. You have to do what is best for you whether your married or not. The rules have not changed for us women. Take note how most men still live. My advice would be to think ahead maybe around the lines if he is gonna be around regardless if a baby was in the picture or not.....I'm here if you need more advice.
2006-12-04 23:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by kc_cuttie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having an abortion will not save a failing marriage,it will only set you up for more pain in the future .please you will never forgive yourself,and you would be reminded every time you see a child that is the same age as your baby would be at different stages of life,and if you do not want or can not take care of this baby you can easily find help with adoption.think hard before you do this i have a cousin that had an abortion as a teen,she is in her mid 40 now, and married to the father,they have not been blessed with another child try as they may,some people only get one chance
2006-12-04 23:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by ironman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him jump off that cliff. If he doesn't have any more feelings than that for this little life that's inside you, then you sure don't need him around. What kind of a father would he make? Stand up to him and tell him to get his a** out. That baby needs you a lot more than he does. If you have to, seek public assistance.
2006-12-04 22:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give in. if you give up a baby because he pressures you, you'll never forgive yourself. I don't know how long you've been married but it sounds like hes unstable and that may make for a short marriage. you would have to raise a child on your own but if he doesn't want it to begin with you will still raise it on your own. We had nothing and managed to have 3 kids and it worked out.he should be standing by you and making the best of it.he may have a right to be mad about the legal stuff but not the baby.give him space...be nice and let him cool down, but when the time is right stand your ground.
2006-12-04 23:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Keep the baby, it's your choice. He's probably just afraid he will have to end up paying child support later on down the road when you realize how much of a jerk he is. It was his choice not to wear a condom. Now it's your choice to keep this baby. Tell him to deal with it. Really though, you should think about getting yourself in a better place and I'm guessing its without him. Your child did not ask to be born, when it is, it definitely does not deserve to be treated like **** or resented because he didn't want to wear a freggin condom.
2006-12-04 22:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LET HIM JUMP! He should of used his right head and think about having sex. I would get rid of him so fast his head would spin. I am agaist abortins. If you don't want the CHILD not kid then give it up adoption don't kill the CHILD. It didn't ask to be made. You two brought the child. GET RID OF THE LOOSER MAN! He wouldn't make a good dad anyway.
2006-12-04 23:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋