I am seeing an Indian man. (Hindu) Every time we have sex its just like a goal for him to be satisfied, regardless of me. He never satisfies me, or does anything to sexually stimulate/please me. Is this NORMAL for Indian relationships? Please help. Indian guys..(traditional ones) input would be appreciated. He is 53 and has been married once only by arranged marriage.
2006-12-04 14:41:26 · 24 answers · asked by hippiegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im 31. I like him because he and I challenge each other intellectually and enjoy each other's company. He is mature and stable.
2006-12-04 14:56:59 · update #1
Well that doesn't sound very satisfying or enjoyable regardless of his qualities outside of the bedroom. I think you need to let him know how you feel and see how responsive he is to your feelings, and if he makes an effort to satisfy you in bed. If he cares for you, he will. But if he doesn't, I would look for someone who is ready, willing, and able to give you pleasure in and out of the bedroom. No one wants to be with a selfish lover. That's a relationship that's doomed.
2006-12-04 15:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is urs age? Being a 53 yrs old guy its very hard to satisfy u like a sexy girl!! It's a foolish queston u had put in. There is nothing Indian or Hindu.... Try to sex with a 28yrs old hindu Indian Guy then I am sure u cann't satisfy him... Will it be urs fault as an Americans??
2006-12-04 22:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your question shows some minor racism on your part. Just because he is Indian you feel its part of his race that makes him poor in bed? that insulting and I am not Indian. Have you spoken with him about this? Has anyone (since he has had arranged marriages) taught him how to please a woman? If its that troublesome for you then leave otherwise show him what you want so you both can be pleased!
2006-12-04 22:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure but my guess is that the Indian men rule the roast. Not many Hindu is a strange religion in their customs for women. E-mail me sometime if you find the right answer. I'd be interested in knowing the truth.
2006-12-04 22:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Brightsides 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm well in the indian culture the women are to satify the males by any means possible. they are supposed to be great at karma sutra. so the males should know a little more also. I would say he is so used to being pleased that he doesnt think he needs to please you. best thing to do it just tell him you want to be satisfied. or watch a nice soft porn together it might get him going .
2006-12-04 22:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by cha cha pop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's guys of any race, from any country, of any heritage who are just like that. If he doesn't sexually satisfy you, how about either a) breaking up with him or b)no longer having sex with him until he can be more giving in bed.
2006-12-04 22:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by LSD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a great FRIEND, but could you see yourself ever married to this guy when you feel like nothing but a "c*m dumpster"? You need to end the relationship and get with someone who cares about your needs. Just be friends with Mr. Hindu man and get with someone else.
2006-12-05 00:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read things about other cultures not allowing their women to pleasure those activities. Not sure if it is also Indian/Hindu culture. Ask him about it or do a search on the subject if you don't get your answer here.
2006-12-04 22:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe this is why his arranged marriage ended...
or is he still married.
I choose the latter based on current culture.
my advice is stop seeing a married man.
After that, stop your stupid "Hes older, so he must be more mature," thoughts and start focusing on someone who makes you happy.
Is life really as hard as everyone makes it out to be??
2006-12-04 23:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by aceman81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl forget him. At 53 having had an arrange marriage he must be use to the woman lying there while he gets his nut off and it must be considered dirty if she participates or enjoys it. tell him to change or find someone else who can wake your senses. It just him not all Indians are like that there's men from all races who are selfish.
2006-12-04 22:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by bubbles32 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋