im so ugly...i feel this way so badly..i want to die...?

Question

im so ugly...i dont care if this is a stupid question...my feelings are hurt by rude people but my dad keeps telling me im beautiful...
i dont get it...i used to be okay...now i have acne,glasses and beacuse of stressed i gained tons of weight.
my hair wont listen to me and snice my dad is single father and is poor i cant buy and products to help me to be prettier.i hate it when people staire at me and say stuff and laugh i cry every night and im sick of telling myself"why cant you be pretty?"
alot of people say appearence dont matter but it does i hate miooros and im sick of looking at myself at the mirror and im not going to do any more.I dont want to pitty myself but no one listens to me and i hate it when people make fun of me and i have nothing to say back this sucks and i really hate it i DO think im ugly and i
cant help it somtimes i wish i got a knife and killed myself no one listens to me beacuse they think im boring cuz the way i look
i want to quit everything...and die

Answer 1

I feel myself as ugly too. But what to do? If everyone born in this world that looks or feels ugly would do best to die, where is the meaning and purpose of life? If you're the only ugly 1 in 6 billion, then it'll sound more appropriate to die. But if there're a significant 80% to 90% of people who are ugly, then what are they going to do? Dies as well? I don't think so. Life has purpose and it's purpose isn't about being attractive unless your destiny is to either be a supermodel or a sex "slave" where attractiveness matters the most.

Answer 2

I don't know if you're making all of this up or if this is truly how you are feeling. If this is made up, it's not funny. If this is truly how you are feeling, you need to talk to your parents (1. it's respectful to tell them how you are feeling and 2. they will help you if you tell them!) Do not feel ugly, dear! Many people your age have acne. It is usually caused by bad foods (lots of candy or greasy foods can make you break out!) and stress (being overweight, feeling bad about yourself, and school cause this!). There's a super cheap way to make your acne dry up. Put a small amount of toothpaste (about as much as you would use to brush your teeth, or a little more) on your finger and put it on your skin. It will feel tingly/burn-like but it will not hurt your skin. You can do this every few days (I wouldn't do it more than that lol) or once a week. Also, stay away from pop/soda (even decaf and diets!) and candy. Excersize. Participate in gym and take daily walks outside of school.

Your father is right! You are beautiful! Do not feel ugly! It is a lie jealous people feed people! Those that call you names hate themselves worse than you are hating yourself. They believe if they hurt others then they won't feel so terrible about themselves. This is a disturbing LIE! You have no reason to hate yourself!!! You are God's creation and anyone calling you names is a friend of the Father of Lies not God. Do not listen to these terrible people, dear!

I highly recommend you tell your father how you feel. Regardless of his income, he can help you. HE LOVES YOU. If he did not love you, he would not tell you that you are beautiful. He can see that you are hurting so he is making it a point to tell you he loves you the way you are and believes you are the prettiest girl. Great fathers are like this; you should feel blessed! These kids who insult you do not have loving parent(s) or they would not act the way they do.

Talk with your father and he will do everything he can to make you feel better about yourself. There is no reason for you to die or want to die. Anne Frank was held in a concetration camp as a teen and she wrote the most beautiful thing while there-- “Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.” Do just that. And do yourself and those around you a favor and speak with your dad. You deserve happiness.

Suicide is serious. Seek help please.

Edit: Other facial cleansers that are cheap: St Ives, Queen Helen's Mint Julep masque (once a week masque that clears you right up!). The other posters have been helpful, listen!! :)

Answer 3

I'm guessing you are probably basing your worth on what you look like which is completely not false. I have come to find that many of the best looking people are dull and boring, so there's a compromise you gotta make- beauty or personality. No matter what, do not commit suicide because you can never take that back, ever. Also, I can already tell that your dad would be heartbroken. You don't need expensive make-up and hair stuff to be pretty, just find something that you like to do and if you're healthy you will feel better. I'm sorry if my comment is not helpful, but I'm not very good at giving advice about these kinds of things, but I want to help. And if you ever want to talk or anything I am there for you. you can email me at [e-mail] anytime. I'm in highschool so I understand what you're going through.

Answer 4

Hey. Take it easy. Dont do anything that you would regret. I dont know your age. But when I was younger I got acne. Now I am 26. I felt really ugly as a teen, and I wasnt popular. I hated looking in the mirror. I ended up looking great and marrying a really hot guy. I wish you knew that this will past. It will be something you look back on and thank god that you dont have to go thru it again, but it didnt kill you, and your stronger for it. Im sure your dad loves you and does what he can. You can do lots of things that can make yourself up. Go to the dollar store and get some makeup and expierement with colors. Try some new things. I can maybe give you some tips. If you wanna email me :) Maybe I can help you out. [e-mail]. Dont think anything like hurting yourself. Its not worth that.

Answer 5

Okay, don't worry. Hitting rock bottom can be very beneficial, as it gives you a reminder of where you don't want to be. It is true that physical attractiveness can be issue for some people, but almost everyone is liked who is healthy. I really suggest working on your health and you'll find both self-confidence and actually look better. Acne and stuff also get better with exercise. You'll also find, IT'S TRUE, that different people blossom at different ages. I feel more attractive now at 33 than I ever did earlier in my life. Hitting rock bottom should actually give you a lot of power -- you can go ahead and do things knowing you've already been at your worst. By the way, Korean women are really beautiful even if they are sometimes a little sturdy -- I married one.

Answer 6

Ok, you have so many answers and I doubt you'll be reading mine. But anyway, I'm exactly like you and I know how you feel. I'm 16, my hair is super frizzy that I can't have long hair although I want it so badly because if I do, it'll turn into a bush. My acne problems gets worst each day, my glasses and REALLY thick and I'm much bigger compared to my friends.

Yes, I do feel ugly too and I always avoid the mirror, especially in public places like in the mall where my prettier friends will usually redo their hair which is already in my sight, pretty. People tease me and call me "Miss Universe" behind my back. They judge me by my looks and some call me a "nerd" when I'm not. It hurts, I know.

But so what? Believe in yourself and the strenghts that you have in you. People can be mean, I know, but be strong and have faith in yourself. Beauty products don't work all the time. If people pick on you, just laugh at them. They don't know us, we've got so much more inside and what do they know about us? Those are totally dumb asses who DO NOT deserve your attention.

You are special. In every way, God made everyone to have their own strenght and weaknesses but concentrate only on your strenght.

Answer 7

You're right. Appearence matters; but only until it doesnt anymore. Let me explain.

I was also an unattractive young person. My teeth were crooked, one eye smaller than the other, I had acne, and my hair was unmanageable. I was too skinny for a boy.

When I got older, my acne went away on it's own, so that helped. Eventually I met someone who didn't seem to mind and we married.

Now the truth is that I don't worry about how I look, and I don't seem so ugly to myself anymore. Even when I see pictures from back then, I don't think I was as bad. (Think about it, most people don't worry about what your hair looks like. YOu are bothered by it because you concentrate on it.)

It might be that you are legitimately less attractive than a lot of others, or it might be you are comparing yourself to above average lookers. Sometimes we think most people are very attractive just because we ourselves only pay attention to the attractive people.

A good thing to bring yourself some comfort right now might be to go to a large mall and look at all the fugly people with attractive spouses. You'd be surprised.

Answer 8

Please don't put yourself down so much.
You have 2 things to remember:
1) adolescence is temporary
2) your dad is right.

Anyone else doesn't matter at al. Once you start to believe your dad (because he's right) you will start to believe in yourself. And you will feel better.
Right now, you need to get active. Consider joining a club or a team. If you are uncomfortable with your immediate neighbourhood cause everyone knows you, try asking your dad if you can volunteer in a different area of town. Your efforts and willing spirit will be appreciated. The more active you are, the better you will feel about yourself, and your wieght will likely stabalize or reduce (if needed). Depending on your age and weight, you shouldn't diet unless your body mass index is high. But be careful - for example - if you are 5'5" and 130 lbs, you are probably fine. Most adolescents (especially girls) think they are overweight and in reality they aren't. The sooner we women realize that rail thin models are NOT normal, the better.
As well, I'm sure you are keeping your skin clean. Continue to do so - wash with mild cleaners. Here is a page you can go to to copy a recipe for a cheap homemade facial scrub for you
http://www.pioneerthinking.com/ea_obscrub.html
Please take advantage of a scrub once or twice a week.

Honey, please don't put yourself down anymore - the only person who can raise you up is you. You are beautiful as you are - every child is.... There is no such thing as an ugly person at all. People who purpetuate that myth are usually just as deeply insecure as you. Think positive - pamper yourself a bit - love your dad - take pride in your appearance - and take comfort in He who created you (if you believe in God)....

YOU CAN DO IT!!

Blessings :)

Answer 9

Sweethart please get help! suicide is a serious subject! Does your father know that you feel this way? Listen...I felt like I was ugly when I was younger too and had kids make fun of me alot and call me a DOG or Beaver cause I had buck teeth.Do you know the story "The ugly duckling"? Do me a favor and read it or get the movie and watch it again. I grew out of that stage and I feel beautiful now because I know that I have a beautiful heart and soul and want to help others. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It is what you have inside that makes you beautiful. Those that make fun of you are ugly inside and you can keep that in mind. Smile at them and think of your father telling you you are beautiful.Think of what it would do to him if he lost you! You can start being beautiful by feeling it inside first and let it shine through you. You can use cheap stuff to clean your face at the Family Dollar and I recomend the St. Ives facial scrub. Make-up makes you break out more and crying too. Don't cry...your father loves you and so do I.If you need more beauty tips that are cheap, than you can contact my e-mail address and I'd be glad to help.

Answer 10

appearence only matters if you let it. You can grow up get out on your own and buy pretty. Forget about the people at school 10 years from now you won't care what they thought. Oprah, Whoppie, Bill Gates, Barbara Streisand, Rosie O'donnell, and many others laughed all the way to the bank. What is pretty anyway. Have you seen the model Alex Welk, or maybe it's spelled Alec Welk, she is a super model and not the American version of pretty. Hold your head up high you have heart!!!!!!!!! Her name is Alek Wek look her up on yahoo images she is world famous!!!!!!!!!!