is it okay for a teen to plan a prgnancy? even if she has it financially figured out ?

Question

is it okay for a teen to plan a pregnancy if she is ready financialy and emotionally and if the childs biological father is prepared as well?

even if she is completeing school and has a job and the love and support of her family and she has nothing better to look forward to in life other than a child and a family of their own what about then? even if they can afford the baby neccessities and pay the hospital bill?

Answer 1

First off how old are you? If your between 13-17 I would suggest waiting. If your 18 or 19 then you are an adult and can do what you want.

But starting out as a teen mom, I would say wait as long as you can. Babies are great and wonderful, but you just don't know how much work they are until you are getting up all hours of the night, having no sleep during the day, and having a baby that won't stop crying no matter what you do.

No matter how financially secure you think you are.....think again. Babies cost A LOT. Plus, you are not financially stable if you plan on using food stamps, wic, or medicaid.

My husband and I have great insurance and still had to pay over $2000 when our baby was born. Plus the cost of diapers, formula, bottles, clothing, blankets, cribs, swings, and everything it really adds up.

No matter how prepared you think you are....you can never be completely ready for it at all. Just do wisely.

Answer 2

It seems so easy...if i can just pay for the baby its OK. Lets see children are expensive-some think to raise a child to 18 will cost between $250,000 to $400,000. I'm not sure what kind of finances you have but finishing high school and college would definitely help you be closer to acheiving those kind of numbers. It might seem like you really want a baby now but in a couple years when your friends are heading out for a night on the town and your small child is sick you will probably feel some resentment. Even if you marry the baby's father there is no promise he'll stay, divorce rates are 50% and higher depending on your youth and children(babies add lots of stress to a marriage) Its really hard to date when you have a child and a single mother. A lot of men won't date women with kids and the ones who do are sometimes just hoping for a ONS-they figure you are desperate for a good time. My advice to you-skip the baby now, seek out a job in childcare, daycare center, pre-school, nanny etc. Turn your love of children into something positive while you finish growing up and then have children. Your children will benefit from your life education and experience and it will probably help you be a great mom! Its way more than having the finances figured out.

Answer 3

There is no way a teenager could be financially secure enough to raise a child - much less emotionally. Even if she were the heir to some kind of fortune, you can't inherit money until you are 18.

Did you realize that it can cost $100000-500000 to have and raise a child in this country? And WIC, food stamps, welfare, living with parents or relatives, and scrimping/saving coupons just is not considered proper planning.

So no, the answer is absolutely, positively no - it is never ok for a teenager to plan a pregnancy.

Oh and by a teen I am talking 13-17. Once you are 18 - personally I'd still wait because you are so young and have your life ahead of you, but by then at least you are an adult and graduated high school.

Answer 4

my former best friend, (14 years of age) was planning a pregnancy with her then-boyfriend. Right before they were about to start the attempt at conceiving, he cheated on her,had sex, with her best friend, while she was IN THE SAME ROOM.
When you're young, things can seem so perfect and you can think you love someone enough to have a child with them, but all of that can change in a heartbeat.
Please, if this is you in the situation, please wait until you're finished high school. A baby can seem like not a big deal when you're just talking about it, but once you have it, even if you're financially and emotionally ready, are you going to be prepared for things like..staying up all night with a newborn and have a exam the next day? Who will take care of the baby while you're in school? I'm telling you, daycare costs alot, and I'm guaranteeing you, unless your family is uber rich and has a nanny that can take care of your kid, you most likely will not graduate, and daycare fees are so expensive. Are you ready to give up nights of just plain being a kid? No more girls nights out, no more fun little slumber parties, no more huge house parties. You're in highschool, this is supposed to be the best time of your life. And having a child so young will take all of that away.
Please, PLEASE consider this long and hard before you do anything you'll regret. I would hate to think of yet another single teenaged mother out there, who threw away everything she could've been.
Why not wait 2 or 3 years, just until you graduate?

Answer 5

I think that it depeds on the maturity of the teen. I am 19, and I got married at 18, because I was financially able and mature enough. But make sure you know how your situation will change in the next few years. What about school? How does your family feel about this? And you must ask yourself if this is something you just want right now or if you will still be wanting it a few years from now. Once you are a mother, you are a mother for life.

Answer 6

As a teen I think it depends on who is there to support the both of you emotionally. I mean yeah it's good to be prepared but you know , you still need to finish school getting Job won't just cover it. I think that you should get at least through high school. Yeah you might get a job but you want one so that you can give your child the things they need in life and a job at McDonalds isn't going to cover the mother , father and the kid for 18 years.

Answer 7

You can never know if you are financially or emotionally ready until that baby comes. No matter how sure you are that you are ready you will realize that the hardest you imagined parenthood would be is really about 100 times as hard. Being a parent is a life long responsibility, and aside from that it is the hardest (yet most rewarding) thing you will ever do in your entire life.

Answer 8

I think you should find out what the world has to offer, travel ,party , date or something anything but think about a baby. What until you do all that dream of doing while you don't have no responsibilities or in others words children to look after. I'm bless to have 2 children kids but sometimes I think i should've waited. 39 wks 3days pregnant with 2nd child.20yrs old Use that as an example.

Answer 9

maybe tell her even though all ready to finish school first. tell her to think hard about it cause once the baby comes there is no turning back. i was 21 when i had my first and that's not young or old but still i would have loved to have been able to travel. my kids are my life. me and my hubby have been together 6 years and we are finally going to be able to go to Mexico and even that i still cant hold my breath on. and i have all the support in the world from everyone in my life. its still hard .

Answer 10

And do you have any idea how much a hospital maternity bill is??? Not to mention basic infant care??

Hon, you don't need to get yourself pregnant if you're a teenager.

Teenagers are not adults and are not prepared to take on adult responsibilities.

Stick to your high school studies and friends and you'll be much happier.


Don't be in such a hurry to "grow up."