Ok, there's this guy that I always hung out with, and laughed together with. We were good friends for a while, but he had a MAJOR fault. He had a tendency to laugh at other people, and insult them easily. He was also called a homo and gay cuz he acts like a girl... literally. He laugh, ran and talked like a girl, but looked like a guy. Anyways, both of my BFF really disliked him, and told me so. They were saying how he was aiming for me, and how he wuz such a jerk. Later on, I realized that they were right, and began to dislike him. But, the problem is, he's in all of my classes (as if i dunt get enough of him) and theres no way to avoid him. He seems like hes trying to like... get closer to me again, and I really hate it. He told me, omg... you're acting so different. It's like you suddenly started going on drugs" and then he started aiming for one of my BFF. I really dislike it, and he always seems to try and 'laugh' with her infront of me. I WANNA GAHHH HIM SOO MUCH! WUT DO I DO!!!
2006-12-04 14:15:17 · 12 answers · asked by Bubble T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think I should add this. I REALLY didn't want to be around him, so when he started chattering off to him, I told him, "Piss off" or "I don't care". However, he just says, "OMG, ure so rude" or just keeps chattering on. If ONLY I KNEW HOW TO GET RID OF HIM!
2006-12-04 14:29:38 · update #1
It's "when he started chattering to me"... heh... typo
2006-12-04 14:30:27 · update #2
I think the reason he does this is because he's covering for the hurt he has inside himself. U say he laughs at others and insults them, well that's because he knows how others feel about him. Now if he's gay then he knows that the things he says to others is how others feel about him so he says it first to cover( in defense) Ur friend is hurting and he trys to cover by laughing and insulting others. He hangs with u because Ur the only one who accepts him and he wants to feel some kind of accepting, he may know that Ur slipping away which is why he lashes out
If he's gay ( u know this world hate gays) and he's living in a world who will laugh at, insult and make him feel like he should be ashame. His own family may be treating him badly which is why he hangs on to u, he wants to feel wanted maybe he's family never taught him how to love because he feels they don't love him.
So he laughs and insults people again( he's lashes out)
What u may need to do is get him somewhere a have a serious talk with him, tell him u would like to have a very serious talk with him about something and u need to be very serious with no laughing, insulting and NO judging.
Tell him that u want to be his friend but he has issues that needs to be confronted and that u will NEVER tell anyone else about the talk.
If it turns out that he's gay continue to be he's friend, tell him that he needs to stop with the laughing and insulting people because it's not nice or fair that do it and u DON'T like when he does it when ur with him becausae those same people may feel ur laughing at them too.
Tell him to put himself in those people shoes and have someone just start laughing and insulting him for no reason. And if he doesn't stop doing it u can't be his friend anymore until he learn to respect other peoples feeling. It's not cute or funny to hurt someone's feeling( he should know that 1st hand)
Good Luck
2006-12-04 14:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get even with him yes because insulting others is very wrong:
also he'd must apologize politely too. Well some times personnly
friends could go different ways sure but it's best to find better
ones only for yourself try and decide ok ?
Good Luck !
2006-12-04 14:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him bother you, he seems like the type of guy who likes to get a rise out of people and know that he bugs them, and if it gets to out of hand I would confront him or.. just talk to your bff and be like okay why are you putting up with this jerk because like hes not a good guy, and give her advice on that situation. or just deal with it.. I've been in similar situations that like.. k i used to like this guy( super hot, super sweet, super funny, had a good personality) but the only thing is.. he was a cheater and a player and told you what u wanted to hear.. so I spent a long time.. watching all my friends including myself fall for this guy and leading us all on.. which is similar to your situation... and stuff... meanwhile i Gave the girls advice and told them how he was ... and then.. they didnt listen and ended up getting hurt as well as me...and I used to be really close with this guy.. and stopped talking to him for a year.. and then he came back to my school and tried to get close to me again and I refused to and told him how I felt.. im like you can still hang around my best friend and stuff doesnt mean I like it but I refuse to be friends with you after the way you've treated me and other people.
2006-12-04 14:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are a few ways to deal with this but I don't think that you will like them
way #1: Blackmail, find out something that he wants no one to know and threaten to tell everyone about it if he doesn't cooperate
way #2: straight up tell him to back off
way #3: give him a taste of his own medicine, insult him and laugh at him and see how he likes it (this way will probably also change his ways and he might become halfway decent)
and there are more ways but they are much worse than these 3 (a few of them involve torture and I don't think that you want to do that)
2006-12-04 14:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him. He may not even be aware that he is so terrible. But don't be a nasty mean girl that won't help. I think your friend is just trying to fit in too much. Be mature and discrete. I know you want to blast him, but that is the same thing that your mad at him for. Be the bigger person.
2006-12-04 14:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me!
MOCK HIS EVERY MOVEMENT!
When he says "ur so rude!" repeat it back to him with a little 'gay' flare and just smile and wait for ammo...
This will NUKE him. He won't put up with this for very long because he will have to see himself and your opinion of his behavior at the same time. Don't let him past asking "why u doing that?" stick to your plan to get rid of him, and mock him "why u doin that!"
He'll go away permanently.
2006-12-04 14:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing that to make you upset. This is how I describe it. If you want to make someone laugh, you tell a joke. If you want to drive a car, you step on the gas. If you want to upset someone, you goof off with one of their friends in front of you. He is doing that for a reaction from you. If you give him a reaction...he gets what he is after. Ignore him, you are better then that!!
2006-12-04 14:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by Yoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i where u i would start to act really anoyed infront of him so that he notices, or just do the easy way out ting..tell him strait up. jsut tell him how u feel...then maybe he will just bak off.
2006-12-04 14:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by ▌«♥dσσdette♥«▐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go into the kitchen grap a knife and you cut all his finger nails off and cut his eyelids out and then cut the back of his legs then slit his throat............. for putting you through that
2006-12-04 14:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell that gay to get a life and leave you alone
2006-12-04 14:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋