what the heck do i do?

Question

a little over a year of marriage the entire time it has been so bad! he wont talk to his fmaily around me, I can't use the phone or computer when he is home. we argue and fight all the time. I try to give into hima nd give him what he wants to avoid the arguement but when i do he acts even more controlling. I don't even have acces to the bank account. he says i neg all the time, what he calls me nagging is me asking to do something a hudrend times when he wont the first 12 times i ask. Like throw away the trash you threw in the car port or change the babys diaper while i am making dinner or bathing the other child. he has gotten very botter. he says he is being rebelous right now and screw everything else. he is doing what he wants. He hasn't hit me but i feel like that will come in time. We argue all the time. I say i am leaving he begs me not to go and shapes up for a few days then i stay and he acts even worse. i wont put all the blame on him but i dont know what else to do for him.

Answer 1

I don't really have much experience about this, but I can imagine what you are going through by watching my parents. THey normally get along but when they don't its hard on them. They love each other but there is always arguing. It sounds like your husband is just getting worse, not better. Confront him and tell him your problems when things are going well between you, if he does not accept it than he may not be the best man for you but don't jump to that conclusion. You may even try couples therapy. Stop the problem before it gets severe though.

Answer 2

leave him. you cant let your child see you living this way or they will think its ok and find someone whos controlling or control someone else the same way

Answer 3

GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!!!!
unless you want to be miserable for the rest of your life!