Do you think it's a given right that my fiance open all my mail, read my emails and look at all my sms messages?
2006-12-04 13:37:49 · 30 answers · asked by ysbiwg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
- No way ! Everybody should have his secret garden, his privacy. But the most important is mutual trust. If you don't, it can be the base of all other problems.
2006-12-08 12:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Z O R R O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fiance is having massive insecurity problems. Are you doing anything to provoke it? You need to prove to your fiance that you can be trusted. Seems like theres a huge miscommunication between the 2 of you. Talk to your fiance, explain your feelings and what you would like to happen... try to organise a happy medium. Trust is a big part of any relationship, if you dont bite this problem on the bum now then it may escalate to something much worse, if you love your partner then do your best to resolve this issue.
2006-12-04 21:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by cheekee_bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to work on trust issues a little bit. I've been with my man for 7 years, been his fiancee for 2, and I would NEVER ask of him to show me all that stuff. I get involved when he wants me to, if he wants to show me or whatever... but It's just none of my business, it's his stuff. I would, though, if I thought maybe he has other things going on.
So no, it's not a given right for your fiance to do that. You should have a conversation and see the reasons you're giving to receive such a mistrust.
2006-12-04 21:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mate does not like some things you are doing. I am a master level social worker and I think you and your mate should find a common ground and set some goals and objectives you can agree on. Also, ask him if he had trust issues in the past or someone has cheated on him during a past relationship. Tell him that if he does not trust you and respect your property that two really need to evaluate your relationship
2006-12-04 21:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not- she is overstepping her boundaries. It sounds like she still doesnt trust you-- does she have reason to feel this way?
If you never cheated on her or gave her reason to be this way, I would be concerned about her trust issues-- especially since the road down to the alter is promised to her and you may be looking at an uptight chic that will "monitor" your every move for the rest of your life---- take a step back and review this pic because it looks kinda freaky from here-
2006-12-04 21:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this - are you an individual or just a part of him?
I say privacy is a trust issue and if you don't have trust, what are you left with? Tell him to stay out of your mail.
2006-12-04 21:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by J T L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're mail, e-mail, etc. is your private property. Let him know that this is a problem to you and that you feel like it's an invasion of property. Fix the problem before it gets worse.
2006-12-04 21:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Steph L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would your fiance react if you were to give them no privacy? would they be ok with it? I'd have a fit if my husband did it. One thing in marriage, there are supposed to be no secrets, which of course your partner will say, you've nothing to hide. I feel like you - you deserve your privacy - everyone does.
2006-12-04 21:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO- My husband made me give him all my passwords to everything- soon I felt like he was more like my father than my partner- he was an abusive person though- Regardless you should be able to have your privacy, if she can not trust you with your own space, maybe you should re-think the marriage
2006-12-04 21:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter your marital status, everyone is entitled to some privacy. Unless in the past you have cheated on her, I don't think there is any good reason for her to be wanting to look at your personal letters.
2006-12-04 21:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋