When my partner is home I am so motivated, task oriented and self-disciplined.
I do the food shopping, take care of him and myself, cook meals, do my work etc,
BUT When he goes away on business, everything goes to hell. I don't look after myself, I don't eat properly, do the food shopping, I don't cook for myself, I don't do anything except sit on the pc for hours at a time or play x box.
I'm 33!
What is THAT about??
2006-12-04 13:31:03 · 10 answers · asked by Ambience 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wow those first 2 answers really hit me in the face! But that's good. I am totally open to hearing people's opinions, cause this is a pattern I keep doing. Today for example I have been on computer 7 hours, it's nearly 4pm, and i've only eaten 1 bread roll. i feel AWFUL
2006-12-04 13:40:19 · update #1
I just want to say: I DO work, I work my own hours as an independent contractor, part time because I just finished 7 months of chemo, followed by 6 weeks of radiation. So just justifying myself a bit there!
2006-12-04 15:12:46 · update #2
That's called co-dependency I do believe, you need to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else my friend because that's a hole backwards you should be doing nice things for yourself first then others.
2006-12-04 13:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you rely on him a little too much. You don't sound very independent. Quite the opposite, in fact. Your life would probably go to hell in a handbasket if he was to break up with you. Get off the couch, get a job, get a life that doesn't revolve around your partner. You have to look out for yourself before you can truly care for somebody else.
2006-12-04 22:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by ktbug_muw08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he motivates you to want to do better then you would then if you are all alone. You have someone to take care of and it makes you more productive? I still play video games as well can't help you there. Sometimes I wonder the same thing myself actually.
2006-12-04 21:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Pen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its call rest,doing what you want to do.I don't know about loving yourself,before you partner I don't like that answer.I just think you do and do that when he is away you do as you please nothing wrong if that what you want to do.If your mate or partner or husband is gone a lot of the time it might be good for you to either Go back to school,find a part time job,find something to donate your time so you want have so much wasted time on your hands, get out .
2006-12-04 21:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a real problem. I am very energetic when doing my job, or when meeting a commitment for others, but I am pretty lazy and procrastinating when it comes to myself. I think it just means that you are at your best when making others happy. Nothing wrong with that.
2006-12-04 21:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Julian A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel like you are getting a huge break when he leaves...technically you are "loving yourself" by doing absolutely nothing. I do the same thing.
2006-12-04 22:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by ladynikki_721 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking time out for yourself.
2006-12-04 21:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by betty l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need other people, like air and water and food and heat, when we have them we operate better when we dont we are more unhealthy,
2006-12-04 22:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like your guy more than yourself.
2006-12-04 21:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are putting up a facade for your partner
2006-12-04 21:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋