Has anyone every felt this way? Married people only please!?

Question

I have been married a little while now, and here lately I feel that my husband and I have grown apart. Has anyone every felt this way, if so what did you do about it. Please only serious answers.

Answer 1

I don't think you grown apart as much as you just fell in a rutt. I think if you have family in another state you might go spend a week with them. Have you ever heard the saying,"absence makes the heart grow fonder". I have experienced the same thing, so I would go visit my family for a week and when I got back home it was like opening a new toy at christmas. If you don't have family or friends out of State then maybe you and a friend or family member can go away for a week. Good Luck and have fun.

Answer 2

It's normal, I guess? , felt this way myself. I was practically a kid when I married him. We've been through so much, yet I came close to ending things a few months back. I honestly considered myself not married, because we live 2 different lives(so to speak) All though, I decided to hang in there, because all married people need to try. That's all I can tell you TRY!!! Go out, date him again, try and fall in love w/ your hubby again, have some sexy nights to rekindle the romance. Believe me, I know it's hard! Sometimes I look at this man, and say oh G-D I'd rather be with anyone else, then him at this moment. You do grow apart, that's a given... but you can also reconnect on some common ground. I have to say I've been having a lot of fun with him lately! Hope it lasts ( LOL), now it's your turn-to try ..and tell him he better try too, or your walking!!.good luck! PS it's kind of funny, if you were to ask him about our relationship he'd say it's perfect! I think men(some women too) in general get very comfortable, once they wed, but they need a good swift kick back to reality!!!

Answer 3

Well I married my husband in July of 2005, we were separated in January of this year. I love him but he's not ready for married life. He's a good lover but not a very good husband. He wasn't ready to give up the fun and games and get serious about his family so I left. I don't regret my decision because I rather be happy and alone than married and miserable. You have to do what's best for you and your family. It's all about communication. Tell him what's going on in your head and how you feel. He might be feeling the same way. You guys might need to reevaluate the reason that you got married. Ask yourself if it's worth staying. Think about the future and how you will feel 6 months from now.

Answer 4

Watch this site for a few days.You will see this same question asked a dozen times by different people.Its normal to grow apart after some time goes by.Usually its because one or both spouses work to much or because so much is going on that they dont take time to be a couple. Life gets in the way and bills keep comming in the mail and we all know we should slow down to care for our partners but when we notice changes is usually to late.One good thing you have on your side is that you recognized the problem and you are willing to try something.Maybe the two of you should try to reconnect away from home with out any interuptions,a day away from work,family,friends and responcibilities.This time of the year stay away from the malls and popular get aways because of all the holiday traffic(to much stress).

Answer 5

My husband and I have been together for 10 yrs and a few times over the years I've felt like that. Because of my personal experience and from talking to friends I just think it's natural that you go through these phases. You can't stay like newly weds forever...day to day life gets in the way and makes it hard to always feel connected....which sucks I admit! Just make sure you take time to talk about things other than bills, work etc and try to have some fun together.

Answer 6

In every marriage there will be a time where you reach a comfort level. At this point you are not trying to win your partners love, trust, etc. This is all there, so what do you do? You relax in the relationship...this is very natural in couples...married or not. Now, to keep the fire burning just create the ambiance where the adrenaline will pump up again and this will lite up the fire once again...You need to go on get-a-ways, exciting activities to keep the relationship fun and at the same time spark up the sexual interest.

Answer 7

I have been married for 4 years and I feel that way too. I feel like we have nothing in common anymore, we nver do anything together anymore unless it involves the kids. He does his stuff with his friends and I do mine with my friends. This is a normal part of a marriage. You have the "honeymoon" stage when you are always together and can't live without each other then you get to where we are..You get comfortable and start to take each other for granted. What to do about it? Well I am also trying to figure that out. I am trying to bring kids to sitter and go on dates again just us. Try to find interests you both can share and do together. Try new things also! Good luck (to both of us)!

Answer 8

Every marriage has it's ups and downs. It's normal to feel that way. How you LOOK at marriage will have a LOT to do with your results. Do you view it as a temporary thing? I thought it was forever - no matter what - my hubby feels differently it turns out. Try to talk to your man. Maybe he is depressed about something... Or maybe there IS a problem he wants to get off his chest.

Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 9

I have heard people say that the first two years of a marriage are the hardest. I agree. I have been married for 17 years and have a wonderful and fulfilling marriage, the first two years were so hard. I knew that he loved me and I knew I loved him. We just worked through it and now we laugh about those hard time.

Advice:
Go on dates...set time aside and use it to share with each other, and don't let anything interfere with it.

It will do miracles for your marriage.

Answer 10

I tried very hard to make mine work. Nobody has ever tried as hard as I did to try to make it work. But then that was when I realized that it does take TWO to make a marriage work. You can't do it alone. I would have a talk to him about what is wrong or what you think is wrong and if you can't work the problem out, well...what can I tell you. I know what I ended up doing, it hurt like heck to but....I moved out. Yes we are now separated and I have no clue at this time IF we are even going to get back or not. But I did try hard to save it my self.