My husband ,with whom I've never had a fight,and always has a peaceful character ,suddenly after seven years ,keeps me up until 4:30 in the morning finding fault ,finger pointing,finding everything I've ever done wrong ,Stuff like reading a book and not paying attention to him or my clothes aren't organized well enough ,staying up later than him ,three times ,basically stuff like not kissing his *** ,and I never have ,we've alway's been equals and best friends .When I tried to answer one of his comments he just cut me off so I just listened and wondered where this is coming from,And I remembered an x that would do this to justify some crappy thing that was about to happen .What do you think?
2006-12-04 13:15:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Seven year itch?? hmm...
hard to believe you've never had a fight in seven years... perhaps, because of his peaceful character, he was holding much in and is now displaying years of suppression.
if it's a 7 yr itch, there may be another woman. if not, the dynamics of your marriage have changed. see a marriage counselor as he/she would serve as the referee you need to communicate effectively and resolve issues in your marriage.
what may be equal in one person's mind can be selfishness and one-sidedness in another persons mind.
2006-12-04 21:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings definitely up. Especially since youve never had a fight. You should really try to figure out what is going on in his life that has brought on this change. Since he is usually so peaceful, you can probably sit down with him and be very non defensive, tell him your worried about him, is he feeling ill, and that you're sorry if anything u recently did made him mad, if so, it wasn't intentional. Probably something has happened either at work or somewhere else to make him lash out at you.I'm sure you can get to the cause of it.
After seven years I'm sure you know the best way to approach him.
2006-12-04 21:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong, but it sounds as though he has a guilty conscious and is trying to turn it around and make it seem like it's your fault for whatever it is he's feeling bad about. Perhaps once he's calmed down and you can talk "normally" again, you can ask him in a way that won't make him put up his defenses. Good luck!
2006-12-04 21:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by betty l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh thats terible u should give him a surprise him with all the room cleaned up u dressed inur best dress and make a reservation in arestaurant good luck
2006-12-04 21:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that the two of you need professional marital counselling. That you will not take no for an answer.
2006-12-04 21:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋