Everyone tells me that just to much of an age gap and they won't be close as siblings. Any tips or suggestions?
2006-12-04 12:59:11 · 20 answers · asked by expecting76 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My daughter is going to be 9 in April too. I was due the end of April (2007) with a baby but miscarried at 12 weeks. I am now 5 weeks pregnant and due in August.
My daughter is very excited. I do not think that that is too long. My daughter has a half brother from her father's first marriage and he is 18. She adores him.
My recommendation is to let your son be involved, but let him know that being a parent and taking care of the baby is your job and not his. He may feel relieved. Many times older siblings get the job of raising the younger ones. Reassuring him that this will not happen may allow him to play and bond easier.
2006-12-04 13:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by jstimson4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have an eleven year old and am trying for another baby. I think my daughter will have alot to offer as an older sibling. In some ways she'll always be an only child because she's so much older, yet she will have lots to offer a little sister or brother. I'm four years older than my youngest brother, but if I were another 4 or 5 years older, I doubt it would matter much in how we feel about each other.
2006-12-04 13:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boys are almost 10 yrs apart and I think its actually better this way. My oldest is able to help me out and keep an eye on his little brother for me while I do chores and stuff around the house. He was also old enough to not get jealous of the new baby when we brought him home. I disagree with the statement that they will not be close. My Boys adore each other already...my youngest is 2 and my oldest is 10. They will be fine...
2006-12-04 13:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true! The age difference between myself and my youngest brother is 14 years! My brother and I are very close and he looks up to me. So, don't let anyone tell you that, because they will be just fine ;) Good luck and congrats!
P.S. It will be nice to have a little help from the older brother too :) He will be more understanding than a sibling a few years apart.
2006-12-04 13:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I was 8 when my mom had my youngest sister and we are very close. I was very protective of my little sister when she was young, but as they get older, they develop their own personalities. The best thing to do, especially for then they get in their teens, is to let them know you and your son are there for her, if she needs anything and wants to talk. Also, you have to make sure they don't feel like you are questioning their every move and blaming them for everything.
I think your kids will be just fine!
2006-12-04 13:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to "everyone". I have a 10 year old daughter and I will be having my second child in June. Yes, there is an age difference, but who cares what other people think. You will make this great for both of your children!
2006-12-04 13:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by starrinights 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 years old and my mom had a miscarriage when i was 5. SHe had severe endometriosis, they told her she wouldn't be able to get pregnant again. And she didn't, until I was 15 years old. Yes there is a age difference, but me and my little sis are as close as we could be. I love her to death and I would do anything for her. good luck and just talk to your son about it.
2006-12-04 13:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all siblings are close if they're taught to be that way. you're having your children at your rate of comfort. nothing wrong with that.
besides, i'm sure at 9 your son will be very protective with his little sister. and that was always a dream of mine, to have an overprotective brother lol.
2006-12-04 13:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by alfjr24 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i was 17 when my little brother was born.and i also have a twin brother. i am currently 21 and he is 4 and we never experienced problems. just make sure in all the craziness from having a new baby that you dont forget the older one and you should be fine!!
2006-12-04 14:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋