Is there any real cure for loneliness? I know that we are born alone and die alone, but what about in between? Does anyone else feel the way that I do...that this is a cold and lonely world? Isn't this a lonely existence on this planet earth? I truly believe that there is no hell after you die, that hell is right here on earth. Hell is loneliness...nobody wants to talk about it...nobody want to listen to you talk about it...and if you do talk about it, they look at you funny, as if you're crazy. Why don't people want to talk about it? I'm lonely. I've tried it all, and nothing has worked for me, nothing. I'm not ugly, I'm well educated, I have my own home, but for some reason, I'm still all alone.
2006-12-04 12:54:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Imagination is the best cure for loneliness. Get involved in painting, writing, music, photography, etc. Let your imagination run wild and delve into every nook and cranny of your memories. Enjoy your imagination it's one of our greatest gifts as humans.
2006-12-04 13:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CURE FOR LONELINESS
Don't roll your eyes.
The cure is within yourself. Only you can make yourself feel lonely. Find what makes you that way. If you can't, find someone to help you.
We are not born alone. We have people there to welcome us into the world. Or were you born in a barn and left there?
The cold and lonely world is because you haven't figured how to deal with your loneliness.
Hell can be on earth or where ever when you feel the way that you do.
People may not know how to answer you questions about being lonely. People may see it as a weakness. They may feel that your feelings are from desperation and that if they give you the time of day on this, you will cling to them for comfort.
You say that you are not ugly, that you are educated etc.
Your outer beauty may be nice but what about what is inside?
You described what you look like, what you have, but not how you are as a person. How you act with those around you might clue you to why they might stay away, thus making you feel isolated.
Have you always felt this way or just recently?
If you are well educated then please apply this and seek a professional that can help you deal with what is making you feel this way.
If you already have and it hasn't helped. Seek another therapist. Seeing a therapist DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE CRAZY. It means that you need some help to keep you from going that way.
Humor (crazy people don't need therapy, they need medication)
If all else fails then write back. However, beware because I am caring but, very blunt when asked questions.
Good Luck.
2006-12-04 13:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a very difficult case. Without knowing more about you, i mean the real you, its hard to make a diagnosis and to find a permanent cure for you.
First of all, you could be looking in the wrong place or the wrong thing. You seen to be a very sensitive person. Some people are made to be dressed up for "high society" window stores, they will not help you find meaning for your own life for they have none.
Some other people, real people, they can make you glow by just been close to them; they have a Midas like touch that can make the right person see everything in a different light to find happiness.
I'm not suggesting this is your case but i think its worthwhile to give it some thought: A tormented heart covered by a dark cloud, sailing through a fogy and stormy sea will float on plain view on top of any thing; good looks, "good education", fame and richness are not exceptions. In some cases this are just part of a mask or make up that make people look and feel something special, which may not be the case.
On the other hand, it is possible to be surrounded and loved by the most wonderful people, and still one could feel very lonely because, it has nothing to do who is with you or what you have, it is just that, a feeling, its not real. I mean, its real for the mind going through that expirience, its not real in the sence that it doesn't have to be so, it can be change with a different take on every thing around you.
Maybe you're looking for something you don't know what it is yet, don't feel bad, we all are in this life, we just have to adjust and be very patience.....
2006-12-04 16:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Simon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you about hell.
I was very lonely as a teenager and went around feeling sorry for myself all the time, but after I married and had children all I ever wanted was to be alone.
I don't know if it's a cure, but I've found that going out an being with people, accepting them, and sharing with them, helps alleviate the pain.
The important thing when you're with people is to accept them as they are and don't judge them. Smile at them and listen to them. After a while, you'll find yourself feeling welcome among them.
One responder suggested joining a church, but if that's not your cup of tea, join a club. That's what I did.
The answer to your dilema is in yourself and how you respond to people.
2006-12-04 13:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried inviting a coworker out to lunch, dinner, or to your home ? what about volunteering? (sp) besides the feeling of helping people, you would meet people,,, anything that interest you, they probably have a club for,,,,, look in your local paper,, certain days they usually list club meetings,,,, join a bowling league,,,,, take a class,,,you have to be out there among people, and make an effort,,,, in order to build up your social life,,,, i know, i went threw it when my child was young, only focused on her,,, really didnt develop adult relationships,,, and yes got lonely,,,,,,it takes taking small steps, to be out in the world,,,,, its not instant, but the more people you are around,,,,, the more likely you will find someone to share friendship and activities with
2006-12-04 13:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a form of depression. you can talk to a doctor about this feeling you have and they may be able to prescribe some medicine for you. in the meantime if you're lonely also because you don't have a significant other you can try some dating sites and finding some friends to surround yourself with. as cliche as it may sound you may want to buy a dog. best of luck to you
2006-12-04 13:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't loneliness, it's depression.
You need to find a psychologist as soon as you can (most health insurance covers mental health now).
You need to do this, otherwise, even if you are surrounded by people, you will always feel alone.
2006-12-04 13:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam D, Your actions in thought,word and deed are the building blocks of your circumstances in life and your destiny. The essence of your being is unconditional love,you have unity with God in unconditional love within your own heart. It is THERE NOW,listen to your heart. Start expressing love to everyone you see,silently if you might get slapped,.Especially tottlers,silently tell them I Love you,and watch them smile & wave at you. Say it to the dogs and the trees,give it lavishly an watch as your life become full of Love. DROP THE "POOR ME". From Love, With Love, To Love. whistle britches.
2006-12-04 13:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Weldon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there dude,go find a good church fellowship is the cure there is always something to keep you busy
2006-12-04 12:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky Lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a club, hon. Other than that, find something to occupy your time.
I hope you find you way.
2006-12-04 13:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋