I am currently going through a divorce every time in my life when i have actually fell in love i have been hurt i dont know what to do anymore
2006-12-04 12:52:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life, and love has no guarantees once you acknowledge that you begin to understand that nothing is set in stone....you mention that it is hard for you to keep a woman....then if this is true....start looking at yourself, and how you behave when with a woman...do you come across too desperate, too suffocating, being there for their every beckon call....what?....only you know yourself, and if you exhaust every possibility, and can find nothing wrong on your part...then change the bait that you are putting out in order to attract different, and more suitable women.....don't give up hope in finding the right woman....she's out there some where, and you will find her...but stop putting your heart on the line until your sure...always protect it...it can only take so much hurt, and then you'll begin to be bitter, you don't want to go down that road do you?.....love will find you eventually...you just have to be ready, and leave the baggage of being hurt behind you.
2006-12-05 01:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for what you are going through. Look at it like an opportunity to do some soul searching. I dated someone for 7 years and I felt like my world fell apart when we broke up. I was very depressed and was feeling sorry for myself for a long time. Then I decided to talk to a therapist and I've never been happier. I learned to love my self and not depend on others to make me happy. I encourage you to do the same. You will learn to make better choices with your life. Good luck!!!!
2006-12-04 22:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by Liliana R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well l don't mean to sound rude but obviously you need to change whatever it is you keep doing !! The right woman is out there for you somewhere. Perhaps you are too sensitive or too easy going and some women take advantage of that. Just keep looking, you will find her one day !!! Good luck.
2006-12-04 21:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Divorce is so painful. When I went through mine, I cried rivers, I swear.
All you need to do is be yourself. If you meet someone and it doesn't feel balanced or you're changing too much of yourself to be with her, it isn't right. The problem isn't you but the fact you're chosing women you're incompatible with. Go through the past women you've been with and see if you can see a pattern with them.
Please hang in there. I promise, the pain does go away.
2006-12-04 21:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LET THOSE ONES THAT HURT YOU ALSO TEACH YOU A LESSON DON'T BE SO QUICK TO JUMP ALLOW THINGS TO FALL IN PLACE AND GO SLOW I WENT THROUGH A DIVORCE AND THOUGHT THAT IT WAS ALL OVER AND THAT I WAS SCARED TO BE ALONE BUT FROM THE LESSONS THAT I LEARNED FROM MY EX I FOUND A VERY WONDERFUL MAN WHO LOVES ME FOR ME AND I HAVE LITTLE TOUGHER SKIN NOW AND I KNOW THAT I WILL BE ALL RIGHT AND IF FOR SOME REASON THIS RELATIONSHIP FALLS THROUGH THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO DOES WANT ME...........THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE...............
2006-12-04 21:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by mistydw72 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats life. You have to take the good with the bad. Atleast you had someone to love. Some people never find it.
2006-12-04 20:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to fall in love to be happy just live life with your friends and family. I know it's hard to brake up just don't marry if your not positive you love her. I wouldn't hert myself by doing the wrong thing. Take my advice!
2006-12-04 21:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by *á?¦eMo gAlá?¦* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure!! Take a long look at yourself and see what good and bad points u have and see where u can improve!!!
2006-12-04 20:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow yourself to fall in love until you see whay she's made of...protect your heart..don't give it away too soon......tke your time....check her relationship history too....is she flighty......ask what are her goals for the relationship...if she gives some airheaded shallow answer....run..!!!!!! Go for maturity.....dependability.....kindness......commitment to family....work ...a resposible person....maybe looks won't be first choice....but what really matters in the long run......????
Sympathetic in Milford, Ohio........GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-12-04 21:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by THE BEST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cry for a minute. pick yourself up, dust your self off. and don't give up. sometimes everything in life is temporary. life,love even a job.(because they can lay you off anytime.) just think of it as a test until the real one comes. but please don't give up.
2006-12-04 21:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋